Gender

[DaidinDom]

I've wondered why someone would not want to share what gender they on their profile.  Surely this is one of the key determinants in finding a Daddy or little?

 

Our gender identity is how we feel in relation to being male or female - and there are different terms, descriptions and labels for different types of gender identities.

 

For information, below are a list of gender possibilities.  Go HERE for primary source and more detail.

 

Agender 

Not having a gender or identifying with a gender. They may describe themselves as being gender neutral or genderless.  

 

Bigender 

A person who fluctuates between traditionally “male” and “female” gender-based behaviours and identities. 

 

Cisgender 

A person whose gender identity and biological sex assigned at birth are the same. For example they were born biologically as a male, and express their gender as male. 

 

Gender Fluid

A mix of boy and girl. A person who is gender fluid may always feel like a mix of the two traditional genders, but may feel more man some days, and more woman other days.

 

Genderqueer

A gender identity label often used by people who do not identify with being a man or a woman, or as an umbrella term for many gender non-conforming or non-binary identities.

 

Gender Variant

Someone who either by nature or by choice does not conform to gender-based expectations of society 

 

Intersex

A person born with a reproductive or sexual anatomy that doesn’t seem to fit the typical definitions of female or male. For example, a person might be born appearing to be female on the outside, but having mostly male-typical anatomy on the inside. 

 

Third Gender

A term for a person who does not identify with either man or woman, but identifies with another gender. This gender category is used by societies that recognise three or more genders, both contemporary and historic, and is also a conceptual term meaning different things to different people who use it. 

 

Transgender

A person who lives as a member of a gender other than that expected based on sex assigned at birth. 

 

Two-Spirit

Is an umbrella term traditionally used by Native American people to recognise individuals who possess qualities of both genders 

Edited March 14, 2021 by DaidinDom

[Little kaiya]

As someone who works in this space i would like to point out that the list of definitions provided mixes terms for gender and sex, two related but VERY different concepts.

 

In addition, some of the definitions are actually incorrect in terms of current meaning. Also, there is a distinction between gender identity and gender expression which is also an important part of the discussion.

 

Now, as to your question, not everyone knows exactly what their gender identity is and they may still be exploring and trying to understand. Other people may have a gender diverse identity but aren't out in that respect so may not be ready to share. Other people may find seeing their gender identity in writing a possible trigger of gender dysphoria. And sooooo many other different reasons as well.

 

As someone who is genderfluid I can honestly say it not only was NOT a major element in finding my Daddy. My gender identity in fact was a very minor part of the discussion. On the flip side, as someone who is pansexual, the gender identity of my Daddy was really a non issue. Not everyone cares about gender in the same way so, no, I would suggest it is not a key determining factor of finding a caregiver or little. Like anything, the importance of this factor depends on the individuals involved.

[SmolAetherr]

Different people value different things, some people dont care to reveal that information for their own reasons and/or may not care about the gender of the person they are attracted to so mayhap if the fact that a sex/gender is not displayed they may not be compatible with you if you value something like that, me for instance i prefer biological females who identify as female and i dont care to look for anything else, something like that is literally the first item i would check off before proceeding with options open Edited March 14, 2021 by Aetherr

[Vampiress]

I would like to note as a native person that "two spirit" is cultural appropriation if used by a non-native person and you'll likely get called out by native people for using it so I'd definitely caution against anyone using that unless they don't mind negative reactions from the native community.

[LittlePupRune]

Some people may not consider gender important or something they feel a need to share. And not everyone is on here to find a partner so they don't see the need to put it on their profile.

[LilDemonBaby]

some people may not "aprove"but ferk it. some people (especially those on the spectrum) may consider themselves xenogender. i know its complicated and perhaps annoying, but its important!

[LittleBunnyCici]

Not everyone is here looking to find a little or a Caregiver, tho?

 

Also, it's the internet.  Some people are just more private about their personal details than others.  That's the nature of the beast.