I have an issue..

[yogirltori17]

For the past four days I have been lashing out hard...I broke my friends bathroom door and I had left a few holes in her wall....the main reason I have been doing this is because of a childhood trauma that haunts me to this very day.....I dont know what to do....Ive talked to everyone I could....I tried to do things I enjoy doing but nothing is helping me any suggestions? I do go to therapy for it though it helps a little....

Edited March 8, 2021 by yogirltori17

[DaddysMonkey]

If you’re lashing out to the point where you’re destroying other people’s property , the only solid advice that should be given is to see a therapist or go to anger management. I’m sure a lot of people will try to tell you to do a million other things , like yoga , paint , meditate ect.. but if you’re just destroying people things and putting holes in people’s walls that is beyond just advice from strangers.

 

I would suggest seeing a therapist and apologize to your friend if you haven’t already.

[Guest kindercanuck]

If you are completely unable to control your behaviour, it would be a great idea to seek professional help. Trauma has nasty ways of embedding itself in our psyche and therapists and counsellors are very skilled at helping us unknot the mess.

 

Best of luck

[kortis_aj2020]

you need to write your daily routine on a paper/notepad and have to think about the trigger of it

 

you just have to control the trigger and them over come the cause of it.

 

If I was your dom and I would have added have added some daily tasks in your daily routine to stop the trigger of it

  like having 3/4 meditation sessions of 5 mins each

   adding yoga

 and at  night a sweet self leg massage 

Edited March 8, 2021 by kortis_aj2020

[Guest D.Ready]

Maybe anger is an appropriate response to the past event. How you channel that anger is probably key. It's not easy but you could try controlling outbursts temporarily like counting to 500 or something and generating positive thoughts. You could try running or exercising later when you can fix your attention on the past issue

[Alaskan Daddy]

 everybody deals with trauma differently. The trick is to manage your anger and find an outlet to let it pass through you. I also have had child hood trauma and it controlled me for 40 years. It was not allowing me to be the man I needed to be. Once I was able to open up and talk with some one I trusted and express those emotions in a constructive way was I able to let go and not allow the trauma to control me. I am now in control. I can now talk and think about the trauma and not feel controlled by it. 

My point is that I feel you need to find a way to allow your anger to pass through you. I would be happy to talk to you more about it in more detail if you want. I hope my words help you in some way.

[Guest Princess_McBunnyhay]

Asap to a mental health professional. Therapy is the best tool in the long run but the quick help is to get medicated so that you calm down. You sound like me when I was younger, I did similar things for similar reasons with trauma... With me therapy and medication for my bipolar helped, I was going to all sorts of tests to get to know what my diagnosis was.

There's really no other way unless you meditate the fuck out or other holistic stuff. I am very much for solving issues naturally without meds at all, I believe in meditating, just only therapy and self improvement and other stuff like that, but if there's uncontrollable violent behaviour then you have to go to professional mental health specialists as soon as possible and no later, to get some medication first that helps you in regulating your behaviour.

Edited March 8, 2021 by Princess_K_1st

[DaddyDomination]

Maybe take some self defense, and let all that out on a hitting dummy. I often Wear Myself out to being bone tired with work outs. I was Forced into PTSD counseling, have Traumatic Brain Injury, and therapy and medications only made Me worse. Then it probably didn't help that I had to battle DC Beltway traffic, 3 hours + to go to sessions either. 

Sometimes it helps to type or write things out, that you'd normally not be able to just vent to anyone, or not feel comfortable talking about as well. 

 

Hope one of the things I do can help you. 

[Kitten&Spice]

I can’t really add much to this as most of what I was thinking was advised in advance! It is definitely important to seek out help from a professional therapist and like mentioned before look into taking some anger management! They can give you suggestions and help you take charge of things! And they may suggest not only some tools to use in those moments but also some medication! I wish you luck and nothing but the best!

[Guest Little_Laney]

You did say you were in therapy already. Maybe the therapist isn't the right fit for you? Would you be able to see a different one for a couple of sessions to see if they work for you better? You and your therapist are a team to get you better. If teammates don't work well together, getting to the end goal is hard.

[daddymind]

As well as therapy, you need a safe outlet for your pent up anger/aggression. Kickboxing for example, or some kind of class where you can release lots of physical energy in a safe environment. And hey, it will be good for self defence in the long run.

Edited March 10, 2021 by daddymind