Preferred Dynamic?

[chobits]

Hiii! I haven't been on this forum for very long or at all recently, but something new popped up in my brain. I like when Hideki (my partner and Dom) subtly enforces our dynamic outside of explicit play. Such as, when I say "thank you", Hideki says "you're welcome". But, when it's the other way around, I say "no problem". Saying "you're welcome" implies the task was something you went out of your way for, instead of something you would do by default. From the outside, it seems our relationship would have tons of unfair double standards and "good for me, not for thee" type situations, but I just see it as an expression of the roles we play. I know I'm not reading too hard into things, because when I brought this up she agreed with me (and said she'd do it more often! Yay! ^w^)

 

Has anyone noticed something like this with their partners? How do you prefer your partner interacts with you in terms of your dynamic? I know there are couples who engage only in scenes, those who have a similar dynamic to me and Hideki, and others who have a dynamic with a more intense, constant presence. I'd love to hear answers from anyone, of any type!

 

[Approved by Hideki]

[StrngButSweetDD]

Hi there, and good topic.  I got into ddlg as the natural growth of a relationship between an older, more experienced man and an innocent, shy girl.  So my feelings on it are based on that evolution.

 

That said, it's much less a kink for us, and much more an every day, all the time, way of loving.  She calls me Daddy, I AM Daddy, and it's interwoven through all our interactions.  The concept of it being a scene, or even role play is very foreign to me.  That's not to say that's wrong if it works for others. 

 

But for us, ddlg isn't something we dabble in, it's much more who we are and how we want to be loved.

[LittlePupRune]

My Sir and I are working on having a 24/7 dynamic. At the moment that's expressed through my service, preparing meals for my Sir, sexually servicing, household work, etc. We also use titles often Sir for Him and boy for me. Our cg/l is occasional play, but our Sir/boy dynamic is almost all the time (barring real life stepping in).

[Bubbles_and_Feathers]

I like how I've ended up caring for her in all the little ways, tending to her needs as they come up and keeping her safe and comfy. I don't mind working to make her happy.