Difference in the relationship

[Alicefromwonderland]

[sprinklelove]

Hey there -

 

In my experience, I’d the relationship is meant to be, you’ll make it work - and, if not.. that’s okay, too - either way, you’ve made a connection, are learning about what you need in a relationship and hopefully growing from it all

 

The only way to find out if it works is to try - maybe you can both use an automated system for chores/goals/self care/rules (like an app) so that you don’t have to do that part for each other - punishment is a hard one, tho - can you make it more of a game between the two of you as littles(?) - or, can you designate a day of the week where each of you wake up knowing that you’ll be in charge that day for the other.. no matter how little you’re feeling? That would set some time aside to give each of you complete freedom to be the little one - and, it creates space for the other to practice being the big that your partner needs, too

 

I switch with my partner - he’s not little - but, I never thought this would be a relationship dynamic that I’d enjoy - but, I honestly love it - I’m a brat, like you - I kind of harness my brattiness to top him - Especially at first when I was unsure of myself

[Guest littlebabyslittlespace]

Does he have a Daddy side too, or is he strictly a little? Does he want you to mummy him, are you comfortable with that? If he isn't also a Daddy you need to ask yourself if you're really willing to be in a relationship where he won't Daddy you

[Vampiress]

This seems like a really complicated dynamic. Since you're both littles, instead of trying to Mommy and Daddy each other... maybe try something where you more "babysit" each other and take turns that way? So sometimes you have to be the more responsible one, and other days it's his turn... in that way you can still both be little and not try to fit yourself into roles you don't identify with. If I even attempted this kind of dynamic I think that's the way I'd go with it. You could also have days where you're both completely little together and just have fun that way, kind of like a playmate. I think if you're creative you could make it work. Set up some kind of system you both abide by and reward each other and encourage each other. I could see this being a very wholesome and positive dynamic if done right.

[Alicefromwonderland]

Thanks for the reactions and sorry for my late reply.

We've talked about it lots, he wanna try being a daddy sometimes but he don't want to spank me hard, but he will try to spank me soft and grow and explore this for me He said that I have to give him some time for things like rules since this is all new for him.

I think indeed that if it's meant to be we will found a way together. He told me that we will make this work and that's why he wanna try to find his daddy side for me.

[daddymind]

A lot of it is about comfort and settling into a role and it can take time. He probably just needs to be extra sure in his mind that you're ok with being spanked harder and for him to connect what would otherwise be abusive actions with your consenting fulfilment. I'm sure you'll get there and he won't have to think so much about it x

Edited March 5, 2021 by daddymind