Changes in routine

[temmietemz]

Feeling a little bit lost -

Daddy and I have been in a great DDLG relationship for the past 6 months of our relationship (we've been together for more than a year!) and I have had so much fun. From the start, we have established some rules, routines such as journaling and daily tasks daddy would give me. However recently, daddy has decided to stop giving me tasks daily but instead only whenever he feels like it. I know it isn't a big deal at all but I admit it did make me feel a tad bit anxious. It's probably due to the fact that we've been doing this for many many months and it's become part of my daily routine - sort of made my days feel complete.

Is it silly to be worried that daddy is getting tired of our relationship dynamic (which will be super sad as I am a little through and through) or is change actually a good thing to keep things interesting?

[Vampiress]

I think it's normal for relationships like this to go through times when things slow down or get off track. Maybe he has a lot going on and just doesn't have the energy to keep on top of it all the time. The best you can do is talk to him about it, see what the issue is, and figure out a plan to work on it or take a little breather from things being so constant all the time.

[temmietemz]

honestly, not much to say about your situation specifically--but having seen myself + pretty much everyone else i know go through a pretty radical change in routine, especially in the last-6-months-or-so timeframe (and having mentioned this recently to my own therapist), it probably can't be overstated just how much COVID + all its forced changes are impacting people, in ways big and small, and in ways that have sometimes taken awhile to (recently) surface.

 

that might be playing a part in how both of you have been shaping + reshaping your daily routines, consciously and unconsciously, probably during the entirety of your relationship at this point. just some important context that i think might be helpful in thinking about your situation right now

 

good luck, i hope things work out the way that you (both) want!!! <3

Yeah, it was probably just minor anxiety attack (idk if you can even call it that HAHA) in the heat of the moment. I feel much better now after going through my day as usual. And nothing else apart from that seemed off. And routine changes are also probably a normal thing that happens in a relationship after some time as you've mentioned. Thank you for your support! <333

Edited February 22, 2021 by temmietemz