Calling your Daddy just Dad?

[BeBeGirl]

I had this question but couldn't find anything. Me and my Daddy have a very lite ddlg relationship we are only 6 months into our relationship but have very naturally formed a ddlg style relationship. He very quickly started calling me Baby Girl in our relationship in bed, in public, and in front of his and my friends. I love it. When it comes to me calling him Daddy I am fine saying it in bed but in front of his friends I find myself more comfortable calling him Dad,this doesn't bother him. I just want to know if anyone else does this or if this is normal. Also I would love any advice on how you became more comfortable saying Daddy in front of people. I call him Daddy to my friends, when were alone, and it's even his name in my phone. I just want to be more comfortable saying it.

[Vampiress]

I don't know if it's common for other littles to call their CG Dad but it's okay if that's what works for you. I do think you'll find most of us are uncomfortable with using the term Daddy in public for various reasons. A big reason is because DD/lg is pretty frowned upon by many people and it can have very negative implications. Just a look at social media and all the negative stuff against the lifestyle will give you a good idea of why most of us keep it private. Also, some will consider it forcing your kink on others if you haven't asked and received the consent of the people you are hanging out around. However, this is your dynamic and you need to figure out what's right for you even if it differs from what's commonly practiced amongst others in the community. No two relationships are the same. Unfortunately I do not have any advice on how to be more comfortable with it because I am the type that would keep that very private.

[Guest Daddy-Tom]

I would actually think calling your partner Dad would be considered the strange thing since even non-kinky people might use Daddy in bed given its rising popularity. Daddy kind of has that connotation now when used for a partner. But Dad just sounds like you're talking to your actual father which is weird

[Guest Unicorn_Flower]

I would actually think calling your partner Dad would be considered the strange thing since even non-kinky people might use Daddy in bed given its rising popularity. Daddy kind of has that connotation now when used for a partner. But Dad just sounds like you're talking to your actual father which is weird

I think it's unkind to call it weird. If it works for them and that's what they're comfortable with then who are you to judge that. It's good that they've found something that works no matter what term they use or what connotation you believe the word implies. It's extremely narrow minded to tell someone that your understanding and use of a term they use for a different purpose is weird. Even if it is an uncommon practise in the community. I'm sure that the friends can tell they're not really a father and daughter relationship. And providing that the friends are comfortable with it as well, then whatever term they use is their own and there's nothing weird or wrong with it.

 

It doesn't matter what's normal, it's about what works for you and your daddy, and what makes you both comfortable and happy. I'm sure if you read through the threads you'll find dozens of different terms each little has for their daddies and vice versa. That's okay. Every dynamic and relationship is different. Just be yourselves.

Edited February 12, 2021 by Unicorn_Flower

[PapaGrayWolf]

I have been called Daddy by far but I've also been called Papa, Papi and DaDa.  Makes no difference to me.  That would be true if I were called Dad.  As long as she's comfortable and says it with affection I'm very OK with it.

[DaddysMonkey]

If both persons are consenting to it and it makes them happy , whatever floats your boat is fine with me. I personally think it’s cute , and even with people who aren’t a caregiver to me.... it’s always fun to be a brat and yell “YOURE NOT MY DAD.”

[Kitten&Spice]

I have to be honest that I don’t think I have heard someone use that form before but I don’t see anything really against it! If it is something that you both are comfortable with and both enjoy then there is no harm! In essence it is all about what makes you both happy and if you are not comfortable using dad for instance you can always explore other names! It is amazing seeing all the fun names you can call each other and I am sure with time you will find one that just feels right and doesn’t need any effort!

 

However if dad is what you want to call him and you feel comfortable with then just know that this is a special name you have created for him and take pride in knowing that it is what you both enjoy! And you in a sense create your own idea and meaning to the word entirely!

[StrngButSweetDD]

I've used Dad a little bit, it has more of a playful, joking around feel to it and we have enjoyed using it that way as our inside joke.  But Daddy has always been my preference for more conveying the love and passion in those moments.

 

I could see where it would also be fun if there's an age difference for the couple - what my little and I would joke about as "Dad or Daddy?" when seeing a couple that it wasn't clear what their relationship was.

 

It's not wrong if it works for you two.  As they say -A rose by any other name smells just as sweet.

[maddycakes]

I've used Dad a little bit, it has more of a playful, joking around feel to it and we have enjoyed using it that way as our inside joke.  But Daddy has always been my preference for more conveying the love and passion in those moments.

I totally agree! I feel like Dad is lighter, more silly. Definitely feels more comfortable for me than Daddy when around others because other people also take it as a joke whereas they might take Daddy as weird/creepy/sexual. 

[TwistedColors]

Whatever works for you is okay. Some subs don't even use any versions of Daddy, but things like Bossman. Just remember to talk to your partner(s) & make sure everyone's on board.

[Emillia]

I used to called my daddy just dad sometimes, I think it's fine. I wouldn't worry about it sounding weird. If it works for you, there's no reason to change that imo.

[daddymind]

My babs has called me dad on several occasions (of her own accord). Honestly I love it and take it very endearingly.

 

In terms of her calling me daddy/dad in front of her friends, people can get the wrong idea about things so she doesn't openly call me that in public and that's fine. I would also feel a little uncomfortable because it might seem to others like I've made her call me that for some controlling reason (I'm not a dom so that would bother me). Maybe I think too much about these things but I prefer it to be kept private.

Edited February 14, 2021 by daddymind

[Bearly]

For me, an important step in getting comfortable referring to my cg as daddy in front of people is making sure the people I say that around are comfortable with it, and some who are into it even think it's cute.