Problems regressing by myself.

[Dollie Darling]

So,

 

 

I'm very new to even accepting I'm a little, though I've went pretty hard in fast. I started around... June-ish, maybe a little later 2020 and I've been working on discovering boundaries and things that make me feel care-free and naïve and content.

 

 

However, a lot of how I do that, is by how my Daddy responds to me, honestly. But I know I shouldn't *always* rely on him to help me regress or aid me with that kind of space.

 

 

So, for other littles, how do you tend to be able to get yourself there?

 

 

I was doing very good for a while, but there were somethings that happened recently that made me have to be bother very stressed and very big and that tends to make me have to be "defensive", you know; big and guarded because little space is so vulnerable it's too easy to get hurt in.

 

 

And now that the big seems to be over, (for now) I'm having trouble enjoying things or regressing right.

[Guest lilBBMera]

um i like to read..it takes my mind away from that... or cartoons..with a stuffie... so i sit there with my things on the floor in front of the TV. blankie in my lap. i nknow its not great but the thumb gets me there instead of the paci... then the paci once im there. and i just absorb my self with either the book or tv. i hope this helps. i dont go into it very often. as im pretty private about it so see if it works    

[DerbyNerd]

I spend some time first setting up the environment, I make food for myself (normally cut up fruit, veggies, dip, cheese and crackers), make sure I have water and a treat drink (normally juice or choccy milk in a sippy cup/bottle) I make sure I have no big responsibilities, get a blanket and stuffie, put on a onesie or a really oversized hoodie (or both if its cold). Then I might put on the TV and watch disney, or play on my switch, or even just lay down cuddle my stuffie and fall asleeps. But for me the prep is important, I need to know that I won't be interrupted and I can exist in littlespace for as long as I choose (I know emergencies happen but I try to deal with everything foreseeable).  

[Princess_Angel4]

I use to have issues myself and Im not able to get a passy and stuff due to strict parents. Soooo I made a journal! I bought a bullet journal and sticker books and just wrote or drew little things! I become little much easier now! 

[Dollie Darling]

Thank you all for the lovely suggestions, I'm still having some trouble, but I'm doing my best to work through it!

[Blubutterfly]

Hello I really appreciate that you posted on this topic.  And how difficult it has been to regress into a vulnerable little space after your difficult experience.  I also am fairly new to understanding that I am a little and accepting it.  When I start regressing I judge myself and I am working on not doing this anymore.  It is such a terrible conditioned response.  Partly because I feel too old to be a little  

 

I am really hoping for you to feel safe in that vulnerable space again <3