HELP Am I a little?!

[Possibly_A_Little:/]

Okay so I'm having a delema, I'm pretty sure I'm a little, I enjoy childish foods, coloring, bottles, pacifiers apple juice all that jazz, but I'm scared to tell my partner. His previous girlfriend was a little and I don't want to tell him because they broke up recently and we havent been together that long, we've known eachother and been best friends for 3 years though. I dont want him to think I'm trying to copy his ex, I want to tell him but I'm scared. Recently he has been sad because he feels as though I'm hiding something from him, and I am but I'm scared to tell him. I think he kinda knows already though? He lets me suck on his thumb and he makes me dino nuggests for lunch and he gets me stuffies but I just don't know how or if I should tell him. Please help me, I'm new to the community and very confused and conflicted.

[MasterPhotog]

Hey, 

 

Even though you sound at least somewhat 'little', only you would know if you feel little or not. However, there's no harm in assuming you're little and if you turn out to not be one, you can always go back to being big. 

 

As you said, it also appears that your BF also already considers you at least somewhat 'little'. If you're not comfortable in telling him straight out about your little self, you may want to give him some hints and see how he behaves. 

 

Finally, regardless of you being a little or big, either way that doesn't make you less of a person. You're beautiful as you're regardless of how you feel and consider yourself as. 

 

Feel free to let me know if I can be further help. MP

[cloudcat]

Hi there, just wanted to add that it sounds very unlikely that he'd think you were 'trying to copy his ex.' Considering you've been best friends for three years, and that he doesnt want you hiding things from him, it seems like you have a good relationship and that he'd want to hear about your little side/interests. Even if you have some doubts about being a little, it sounds like you'd feel a lot better if you were able to openly discuss it with your boyfriend. Theres a lot of great resources on this site as well that discuss how to explain it to a partner if and when youre ready.

[Possibly_A_Little:/]

Hi there, just wanted to add that it sounds very unlikely that he'd think you were 'trying to copy his ex.' Considering you've been best friends for three years, and that he doesnt want you hiding things from him, it seems like you have a good relationship and that he'd want to hear about your little side/interests. Even if you have some doubts about being a little, it sounds like you'd feel a lot better if you were able to openly discuss it with your boyfriend. Theres a lot of great resources on this site as well that discuss how to explain it to a partner if and when youre ready.

 

But he and his girlfriend didn't really leave on good terms, they're trying to still be friends so if he brings it up to her (she really doesn't like me cause I called her out on her toxicity) she might say I'm copying her. They were together for a long time and IDK I just don't want him to think I'm trying to replace her.

[DerbyNerd]

But he and his girlfriend didn't really leave on good terms, they're trying to still be friends so if he brings it up to her (she really doesn't like me cause I called her out on her toxicity) she might say I'm copying her. They were together for a long time and IDK I just don't want him to think I'm trying to replace her.

Have you considered that he seems to be stepping into a CG role without being asked to and therefor is likely a daddy or has strong daddy tendencies himself. It may just be that because of the way he is he's more likely to attract littles

[cloudcat]

But he and his girlfriend didn't really leave on good terms, they're trying to still be friends so if he brings it up to her (she really doesn't like me cause I called her out on her toxicity) she might say I'm copying her. They were together for a long time and IDK I just don't want him to think I'm trying to replace her.

I understand your concern, relationships are tricky things. But it's up to you ultimately to decide how important it is for you to share your little side with him right now. Even though I don't know what your relationship is like exactly, since you've been friends for a long time and are now dating, I would really hope that he'd listen to you and attempt to understand your feelings if you shared them with him.

 

Even if she tries to cause any issue about it, I think it would be fairly obvious if you're genuine and honest about your little side that you're not just trying to 'replace' her. There's nothing wrong with being little and embracing more childlike interests, and you shouldn't have to forego exploring that with your partner because of what someone else might say.

[Possibly_A_Little:/]

Have you considered that he seems to be stepping into a CG role without being asked to and therefor is likely a daddy or has strong daddy tendencies himself. It may just be that because of the way he is he's more likely to attract littles

 

He is 100% a care giver and I do notice all the little things h does for me I just don't know If its out of habit or because he kind of can tell that I'm showing more signs of regression around him

[Possibly_A_Little:/]

I understand your concern, relationships are tricky things. But it's up to you ultimately to decide how important it is for you to share your little side with him right now. Even though I don't know what your relationship is like exactly, since you've been friends for a long time and are now dating, I would really hope that he'd listen to you and attempt to understand your feelings if you shared them with him.

 

Even if she tries to cause any issue about it, I think it would be fairly obvious if you're genuine and honest about your little side that you're not just trying to 'replace' her. There's nothing wrong with being little and embracing more childlike interests, and you shouldn't have to forego exploring that with your partner because of what someone else might say.

 

I know, and deep down I know he isn't going to think that or do anything like that its just my anxiety talking, but I do have really bad anxiety and iv'e just been having this conversation with myself for the last few days.