Rewards that don't involve money?

[Dollie Darling]

So out of curiosity to all the littles/Daddies out there who use point systems; monetary rewards are easy to figure out as you could want something nice for your little or they could even ask for someone.

 

 

But, what kind of treats/rewards do you use that don't involve money?

 

 

Asking for ideas as someone super new to the reward systems.

[Little kaiya]

Edited January 24, 2021 by Little kaiya

[baby_k]

@Little kaiya:

That "daddy reward store" sounds so cute One question: what is paw time?

 

I also agree that the intangible things often are waaayyy better than some random stuff/items. I'm bit of minimalist myself ( have you seen my flat, you wouldn't believe it thou ) and getting more extra things is more anxiety causing than a joy unless it's an item I need for some purpose. And as an adult I typically get all I need when I need them, so there rarely is those "needs".

 

Personaly I appreciate things such as:

 

quality time:

• take me out/in
• let's play game
• watch movie
• go on mini trip some other place
• extempore hiking
• picnic which preferrably the other person has planned and organised
• play with me hair and do some funny hairdo
• do some activity that is bit out of norm
• cuddles and talking <3
• bedtime stories ( extra ones )
• good food not made by me together
• plan stuff and trips with me ( I LOVE planning )
• ....

acts of service:

• do chores ( especialy the nasty ones like unclogging the sewer o_O or scraping car windows while I'm still cozy and warm inside o_O )
• fix my bike
• carry my stuff ( okay, this has to be norm but it can still be stated as a reward )
• give me massage ( hands, shoulders, head... full body one )
• cook for me
• help me start or finish some of my projects
• be my photography assistent
• be the one who gets up from the sofa ( and brings me milk or makes me sandwich or looks for the missing remote )
• clean my glasses ( this one should be just done, I wouldn't ask for it but if my partner does it "out of blue", I would appreciate it )
• ....

 

All those things should be normal things in rel but it makes it more fun if they can also be rewards and added extra stuff. But those NEED to happen of course anyhow too!

One thing I realised here is that there are rewards one can work for ( do this and this / behave good and get xxxxx ) and then rewards one just gets ( these sort fo just happen or are granted with no prior notice or request ). I'm way more into to the later: that I just get something nice instead of choocing it or working for it on purpose. I guess it's maybe more of "you are amazing as you are, and I want to make you feel good and be there or you <3".

 

Edit: really bad typos

Edited January 24, 2021 by baby_k

[Little kaiya]

In addition to being in a DDlg relationship Daddy and I are also furries. So we call Daddy's feet his "hind paws". I never really had any interest in feet before Daddy but He likes when I massage, nuzzle and play with His feet so that's what we call paw time.

[Accountable Daddy]

I had an online relationship for a while and the rewards I had were for that. Like a movie night (I'd stream something on Discord and we'd watch it together), an online "date" (we'd both go out to a similar place, like to get ice cream for instance, and then sit down with our phones on the opposite side of the table and we could act like we were together. You could go to the park or something to keep it free). Verbal praise of course. Actually now that I think about it, I'd have fun putting together certificates or some other display that my future little could print out and display on her wall or something. I made a sticker chart for following a schedule and rules which was geared toward earning rewards, but I think the sticker chart on its own can be really fun for a little to keep track of their duties and feel good about getting them done.

In person I don't see how any of these couldn't be done. That would make it a lot more immediate and intimate too. There's a lot more options in person too. Like I'd offer dancing as one (I took ballroom dance classes years ago and find it's very enjoyable for all involved) or some pretend play time together (tea time, pretend making food or having a restaurant at home and the little is fixing the imaginary food and serving it to her customer that keeps changing his mind midway prep). Move some furniture around and throw a bedsheet over it and you've got yourself a tent for camping adventures indoors. I've got a big yard around my house with lots of trees, so I have small branches that will come down in storms and all. While I'm busy getting the chainsaw to work or using clippers to chop up branches, I'd offer for my little to help by picking up sticks too and she can be off on the other side of the yard (safe from the tools I'm using) being very helpful by grabbing the small stuff that's easy for her to carry. Actually that idea, while fun itself, could be good toward other rewards for being such a great helper! There's also general care, if not done regularly, can be a reward. Brushing and braiding her hair, for instance.

I guess think of two types of things in particular for this: when thinking about rewards as a little, think about what you'd reward children with and frame ideas around that. You'll find they overlap heavily. And think about what you want that you don't get regularly or wouldn't expect to do regularly.

[maddycakes]

- allowed to have dessert (or dessert-like meal such as pancakes for dinner, nutella crepes, jelly-jelly sandwich)

- stuffy sleepover! (normally I am only allowed to have one stuffy in bed)

- watch a movie/do an activity/have a meal/etc. that you like but your partner doesn't care for

- Daddy has to make up a story instead of reading one out of a book (and it has to be long and interesting, no lazy storytelling!) 

 

I know that's not a whole lot, but I hope they are useful to you!

[Bearly]

For long distance, I've started recording myself reading stories, singing lullabies and activity songs, and stuff like that for my little.

[Dollie Darling]

Thank you all for the answers here!

 

 

I was having trouble accepting these kind of rewards (and I really still am) Because it's hard to accept something that should be present in a relationship as a reward. But hopefully it'll get easier over time! 

[SumGirl]

I try to avoid rewards that are general relationship things like massages (for example). We recently made non monetary rewards for me:

More sleep; morning or an extra nap, my choice.

Little movie time; blankey, popcorn, chocolate and a little movie of my choice. (Movies are something we have to specifically plan for)

Bath time; Daddy will wash my hair for me and then I can use my bath fizz (again, needs set aside time to do).

Special feels; Daddy will organize a sensation play night together.

Story time; Daddy will make up a bedtime story for me.