DDLG Daily Dynamic?

[Little_Ori]

Hello, I have been in this world for around four years and in a relationship for three. He has always been very open and has no problem with my little aspect and even helps me but now we live together and he wants to be my Daddy 24/7 but neither of us are sure, he is into a lot of BDSM (and so am I) but I have no experience with a Daddy so I don't know how to teach him how to do it...help?

[maddycakes]

So, I think a hiccup here is that there is no one way to be a daddy, so it's hard to say how you should teach your partner since we don't really know what you're looking for in a daily dynamic. The best advice I could give would be to think about what you want (and have him think about what he wants!), then come together and have a discussion where you set goals and make a plan for how to achieve them. 

 

Personally, my daily dynamic is pretty much just my morning routine. Everything else is variable depending on work/plans. I am always his little/sub, but as far as specific actions to be done, that's it. When my Daddy and I were first thinking about what we wanted to do on a daily basis, some of the considerations were:

1. Why do we need to do something every day? 

2. Should a routine be focused around health and wellness, littleness, or submission? How can we best combine these things while still prioritizing one above the others? (you don't have to prioritize one, but we did, hence the second part of the question). 

3. What do I need from my partner every day (physically and emotionally)? Why? What happens on days when they forget or can't do that? 

4. If we are participating in a 24/7 dynamic, what (if any) are the topics that we need to discuss as equals/adults? (ie finances, family matters, health, etc.) - basically, when does the dominant partner not get the final say in your life

5. Will I defer to my partner in front of friends/family? If not, what strategies can we use to maintain our dynamic covertly? 

 

There are lots of other things you can consider as well depending on what you want your average day to look like. The key is giving a fair amount of thought to what you want in your day-to-day life, then communicating it to your partner. He is there to love and support you and to help you achieve your goals and the goals you make for the relationship. Other than that, he will likely develop his own style of daddying, no teaching required! lol