Any other Polyamorous Middles/Littles?

[Dollie Darling]

So I have a bit of an odd relationship from the perspective of most people...

 

 

I am polyamorous and have 3 Daddies. Or, technically I have 1 Papa, 1 Sir, and 1 Daddy.  We are all learning we like this kind of thing together, it's all new. (6 months in now to the DDLG deal) 

 

This means that everyone is learning the like me doing housework, cooking, listening to rules, letting them control everything, being home and excited when they're done with work; and I'm fine, I like all of this too. Turns out I love cooking and cleaning and being there to unwind and greet my Daddies.

 

 

The thing is, however. This is all new on top of a CONSTANTLY busy, crazy schedule between 3 working adult and a college student that causes things to be almost always hectic. 

 

 

This can force me to be Big too often, which throws my Daddies out of space (And often being thrown out causes us both to experience drop, which makes getting back in hard) and can also interrupt schedules and rules and stuff, making it hard to find any sort of routine.

 

 

Any advice about staying in space or how to handle that kind of constant disruption? 

 

 

[DaBrat1994]

No advice but im in a poly relationship as well... i have 2 Daddies... well 1 Daddy and 1 boyfriend and i cna have more but right now i dont know if i want more cuz of as of right now i hardly get any attention from either of them.

[Dollie Darling]

No advice but im in a poly relationship as well... i have 2 Daddies... well 1 Daddy and 1 boyfriend and i cna have more but right now i dont know if i want more cuz of as of right now i hardly get any attention from either of them.

Oh my goodness... that's a shame! It's good to know there are other Poly littles though, if you ever need to talk you an always message me! Poly is the thing I have experience with, all the ddlg is new.

[Guest Carina.bobina]

Hello! I'm poly and a middle.

 

I'm not exactly sure how your dynamic works. Like do all of your partners give you the same rules or does each partner have different rules as your Daddy? (This is just cause I'm curious)

 

Could maybe one or all of them give you like a project or task that would keep you in little space? Like coloring them a picture

[Little kaiya]

[Dollie Darling]

Hello! I'm poly and a middle.

 

I'm not exactly sure how your dynamic works. Like do all of your partners give you the same rules or does each partner have different rules as your Daddy? (This is just cause I'm curious)

 

Could maybe one or all of them give you like a project or task that would keep you in little space? Like coloring them a picture

That's actually what makes this hard. As a bi-polar middle/little. I need a strict daddy for the kind of structure that keeps me on track. 1 Daddy is more structured and a 5-level strict. But the other two aren't as strict, which interferes occasionally and makes it a little more difficult. 

 

 

They all at least agree of the rules, there is a master list of them and even if some of them don't care for rules, they'll respect them if another Daddy put them into place.

 

 

OH That actually wouldn't be a bad idea to try! Do you have more than one Daddy? Does it ever get complicated to managed space and big-life?

 

 

It's good to meet another Poly AND another Middle!!!

[Dollie Darling]

My Wife, Daddy and I are in a closed, polyamorous triad for a bit over three years now.

 

We have very busy schedules but ensure we set aside time for some cuddles and cartoons. A snuggle and bedtime story every night. Bottles instead of cups and pacifier time when watching a show together or even when im working from home.

 

It works well for us

I will try to see if we can schedule more time!

 

 

I'm hoping that kind of thing might actually work for us, but it's terribly hard to say. But I think never using cups and having set time to do cute things like my paci even while I'm working might help!

[Bubbles_and_Feathers]

Hi! Just wanna say I know I'm poly at heart, but I only have one partner currently. My partner is another middle, and I've often dreamed about having a second partner who's a caregiver to me.

[Dollie Darling]

Hi! Just wanna say I know I'm poly at heart, but I only have one partner currently. My partner is another middle, and I've often dreamed about having a second partner who's a caregiver to me.

hi! 

 

 

If I can say anything over what I've learned through the years; it's that if you're mono at heart or if you're poly at heart, you'll always long to get that sort of dynamic in your life.

 

 

It's extremely hard to broach the subject of being poly with a partner, but if it's something that's true to you, it's something you would need. Especially if you're a little or Middle that Needs a caregiver. 

 

 

Poly comes with all kinds of dynamics, squares, triads, platonic, romantic, strictly sexual, strictly care giver based; there are options. But I truly think if it's something you've known you've wanted for a long time, it might be time to do some research into what dynamic you think might fit you best and talk to your current partner. Who knows, maybe having a caregiver will benefit you both!

 

 

If you ever need to talk you're welcome to reach out!

[Bubbles_and_Feathers]

hi! 

 

 

If I can say anything over what I've learned through the years; it's that if you're mono at heart or if you're poly at heart, you'll always long to get that sort of dynamic in your life.

 

 

It's extremely hard to broach the subject of being poly with a partner, but if it's something that's true to you, it's something you would need. Especially if you're a little or Middle that Needs a caregiver. 

 

 

Poly comes with all kinds of dynamics, squares, triads, platonic, romantic, strictly sexual, strictly care giver based; there are options. But I truly think if it's something you've known you've wanted for a long time, it might be time to do some research into what dynamic you think might fit you best and talk to your current partner. Who knows, maybe having a caregiver will benefit you both!

 

 

If you ever need to talk you're welcome to reach out!

Aw, thank you for the sweet response! My girlfriend and I have talked about it, I've been upfront, and... As my first relationship, I thought it would be okay yo put those feelings to the side and agree to monogamy. Now I keep fantasizing more and more about having a bigger poly dynamic, and... I don't want to push her into something she's not comfortable with jist to suit me, especially after agreeing to this kind of relationship. But I bring it up now and then, just to see how she feels about the idea. I've very wary of badgering her, though. :/ Life is complicated.

[Dollie Darling]

Aw, thank you for the sweet response! My girlfriend and I have talked about it, I've been upfront, and... As my first relationship, I thought it would be okay yo put those feelings to the side and agree to monogamy. Now I keep fantasizing more and more about having a bigger poly dynamic, and... I don't want to push her into something she's not comfortable with jist to suit me, especially after agreeing to this kind of relationship. But I bring it up now and then, just to see how she feels about the idea. I've very wary of badgering her, though. :/ Life is complicated.

I understand not wanting to push her into something she's not comfortable with, sweetness; that just means you're aware of her feelings which is a very important trait! However, you can't put aside your own just to ensure someone else's either, because the end result is no one being happy when it's something you feel this strongly about.

 

 

Normal couples all compromise, but normal compromises aren't usually ones settled around needs. 

A normal compromise is something like; You want pizza, she wants hamburgers and you both settle on a different food in the middle, or to do one of them one night and one of them another. Or, to watch a movie that is a genre you don't normally like, or to paint your living room an agreed on color.

 

 

However, when it comes to being poly or mono, that's not usually something someone can compromise on the same way when you can feel the urges it's pushing you towards. But this might mean that if she's sure she's mono and you're sure you're a poly person who needs a larger dynamic and can't settle for being Mono, you two might not be suited for each other, unfortunately.

 

 

 

OF COURSE all of this is only based on my experience; I'm not telling you what to do with you're live. But I'm sorry it's so hard. 8 years ago at the start of my poly journey, I had to make the same tough choice to tell my long time partner that I was poly.

[LittleTeacup]

I don't have any partners, but I dream about finding a mommy and a daddy who are happy to adopt me. I don't know how lucky I'd have to be to actually find this dynamic and be compatible and we all love one another though.... I haven't even been able to find one person. The closest I've come is an online friend (not a caregiver) who has a crush on me, but she lives on another continent and neither of us can really handle long distance, especially when we can't meet at all. So.... I don't know.

 

I know you asked for advice, but all I have to say is the four of you can form a schedule of all of your activities and see where the open spots are for spending time together and then making sure you mark those hours as special. Also try to grab in between moments where you don't have to be big, like maybe listening to disney songs in the car for example. Dressing with cute accessories or hair styles is good too.

[Dollie Darling]

I don't have any partners, but I dream about finding a mommy and a daddy who are happy to adopt me. I don't know how lucky I'd have to be to actually find this dynamic and be compatible and we all love one another though.... I haven't even been able to find one person. The closest I've come is an online friend (not a caregiver) who has a crush on me, but she lives on another continent and neither of us can really handle long distance, especially when we can't meet at all. So.... I don't know.

 

I know you asked for advice, but all I have to say is the four of you can form a schedule of all of your activities and see where the open spots are for spending time together and then making sure you mark those hours as special. Also try to grab in between moments where you don't have to be big, like maybe listening to disney songs in the car for example. Dressing with cute accessories or hair styles is good too.

I did ask for advice, you're right.

 

 

But I'm actually finding out that I'm enjoying listening to those who are littles/middles who are interested in Poly or know it's where they're meant to be.

 

Even in most other DDLG communities I've tried, people made it seem like my relationship was wrong, strange or harmful. Knowing there are people out there who crave and would benefit from the same thing is helpful.

 

For you dear, I'm sorry it's been so hard for you Know that I would always be willing to talk and listen to you any time you needed! I know I've ended up lucky on the end of relationships, even if the struggle can be a lot sometimes.

 

 

I'm sure you're just a lovely dear who is also going to end up lucky when fate finally leads you to the right one or ones!

 

 

 

I am just embracing being a middle/little. I'm new and each week I've found more things that help. Like finally buying my first coloring book that was clearly little and trying with it (it was MLP) and the hair styles works too, I've been doing my best to keep twin tails of all kinds up since those are a favorite.

[LittleTeacup]

I did ask for advice, you're right.

 

 

But I'm actually finding out that I'm enjoying listening to those who are littles/middles who are interested in Poly or know it's where they're meant to be.

 

Even in most other DDLG communities I've tried, people made it seem like my relationship was wrong, strange or harmful. Knowing there are people out there who crave and would benefit from the same thing is helpful.

 

For you dear, I'm sorry it's been so hard for you Know that I would always be willing to talk and listen to you any time you needed! I know I've ended up lucky on the end of relationships, even if the struggle can be a lot sometimes.

 

 

I'm sure you're just a lovely dear who is also going to end up lucky when fate finally leads you to the right one or ones!

 

 

 

I am just embracing being a middle/little. I'm new and each week I've found more things that help. Like finally buying my first coloring book that was clearly little and trying with it (it was MLP) and the hair styles works too, I've been doing my best to keep twin tails of all kinds up since those are a favorite.

Thank you very much BunnyBeanz There is nothing wrong with your relationship and if it works for all of you, then it sounds like a wonderful relationship! Yes, it's hard sometimes. I'm used to being single, but that craving for cuddles keeps sneaking up on me.  I'm gonna send you a friend request. I really hope I'm just not too old when I finally meet the right person/people.

 

It's wonderful to embrace being little or middle by yourself! I also love the twin tails especially with bows on them.

[Dollie Darling]

Thank you very much BunnyBeanz There is nothing wrong with your relationship and if it works for all of you, then it sounds like a wonderful relationship! Yes, it's hard sometimes. I'm used to being single, but that craving for cuddles keeps sneaking up on me.  I'm gonna send you a friend request. I really hope I'm just not too old when I finally meet the right person/people.

 

It's wonderful to embrace being little or middle by yourself! I also love the twin tails especially with bows on them.

I would love a friends request! Feel free to just start a conversation about anything any ol' time!

 

 

But this is going to sound cliché and sappy, but I truly don't believe you're ever too old to find someone special when fate has them for you! Even as a little!!!!

[quietlittlepixie]

Hi hi! As someone who is poly and is currently single, I would say from experience, the best way I have found to handle something like this is with setting aside time to communicate how each person is feeling in the dynamic and maybe scheduling in time during the day or week to enjoy that time with one another. 

 

It's not easy but being open and honest about stuff definitely can make a difference! 

 

Don't know if this helped at all, but nonetheless I wish you luck! 

[Little kaiya]

[Dollie Darling]

Fate is a beautiful way to look at love both romantic and platonic.~ 

 

 

I never think anyone is too old to find their happily ever after.

[LittleTeacup]

I would love a friends request! Feel free to just start a conversation about anything any ol' time!

 

 

But this is going to sound cliché and sappy, but I truly don't believe you're ever too old to find someone special when fate has them for you! Even as a little!!!!

 

Thanks

I meant more like I hope I'm not like 90 when I find somebody and can't enjoy my life with them but I suppose I should have more faith. Lots of people find their special someone later in life. And I won't have to deal with a divorce first like many people do. As they say, patience is bitter but its fruit is sweet.

 

 

My Wife, boyfriend, and hopefully future husband, and I didn't find one another until we were in our late 30's and He much younger. In fact we weren't even looking for anyone, fate kind of put the three of us together and here we are 3 years later

 

Thank you Kaiya. Your posts about your Wife and daddy always put a smile on my face. I can't rule out my special someone being significantly younger than me.

[FeistyHandful]

This post was very helpful! I'm poly and have 2 partners. Neither are my Daddy or CG. I was wondering how a dynamic would look if I found a Daddy vs dating my kinkster BF and mostly Nilla BF.

[Dollie Darling]

This post was very helpful! I'm poly and have 2 partners. Neither are my Daddy or CG. I was wondering how a dynamic would look if I found a Daddy vs dating my kinkster BF and mostly Nilla BF.

Each dynamic can be different when it comes to something like this!

 

 

There are potential drawbacks, like your other partners feeling inadequate as you're new CG gives you things you need that you don't have

 

 

But if you are the kind of person who needs a CG, this dynamic can offer wonderful benefits and fulfillment without pushing your others partners out of their comfort zone!