Would anyone be interested in helping me with my posting?

[Hypnoduke]

Hey everyone!

 

I’m a newer daddy with minimal experience. I have been on and off of here for a few months trying to use the personals to find a little. But I don’t get any replies where I notice others get plenty. So I wanted to see if anyone could take a look at my personal posting and offer me a critique of it along with recommendations! I promise I can take criticism and no objective critique is too harsh. I would really like to find a little but I know that won’t happen unless I improve how I present myself.

 

Thank you!!

[Little kaiya]

If I can offer you a thought. You posted a personal ad back in September and then this post looking for help to tweak your personal ad but haven't posted anything else.

 

For a lot of the ads you see that have a lot of replies they also often have more community involvement. By interacting and posting it gives people a chance to get to know who you are as a person. A single personal ad can say anything but a posting history is often more revealing.

 

This site isn't a dating site or a "find a little ir Cg" site, even though some people do use it as such. Get involved and you may find you have far more contact and chance at finding a partner than by just tweaking an ad.

[cloudcat]

Hello, I read through your personal and it seems very thoughtful and well organized, and you sound very friendly and approachable. If you want, maybe consider adding more specific hobbies or things you'd like to do with your little, or maybe explain why you're interested in having a daddy role/what it means to you? just suggestions, I think your post is perfectly fine as is though.

I'd suggest being more active in the forum in general to make people more likely to click on your profile and read through your posts. Reading through topics and replying, joining the chat occasionally, or even just making small talk on some status updates can give people a good first impression of who you are and hopefully increase your chances of meeting some nice people and making friends.

[Hypnoduke]

Good advice! I’ll work on being more active on the forum. Thank you!!

[RavenclawPrincess]

In addition to the rest of the great advice you were given, you might also keep in mind that you were very specific about who you’re looking for. That isn’t a bad thing at all and it’s great to be upfront and honest about what you want right from the beginning, but with that the only responses you’ll likely get will be from littles in the geographic area that you specified that are looking for a long term irl monogamous relationship that is also preferably physically smaller than you and in the age range you specified. Anyone that doesn’t fit what you’re looking for obviously isn’t going to respond to your ad, so it makes sense that it’ll take time for the person that you’re looking for to find your ad and respond. Just to throw in my 2 cents. Edited December 27, 2020 by RavenclawPrincess

[Hypnoduke]

That definitely makes sense! I suppose filtering down means the right people will take longer to find

[RavenclawPrincess]

Absolutely! And again, there's nothing wrong with that. The fact is just that you're not looking for just anyone so you're not going to get responses from as many people. It seems like you're looking for the right person vs. whoever is available, and I'm sure you don't need me to tell you to be patient if that's what you're going for. 

[Hypnoduke]

No one likes to be patient but it’s necessary. I don’t want to get into a relationship where I’m leading someone on!

[princess cotton grass]

hmm, just looking at the advice so far...

 

i would add that you should be involved in lots of community posts and conversations by replying to that of other members. i would also suggest spending a lots of time in the chat where people can see your true personality. i, personally, don't even accept friend requests unless we have spoken properly and gained an organic connection or friendliness. i find sometimes the conversations in personal ads and such are rather stale and a little too formal

 

i hope this can help!

 

remember to enjoy the community here, you may have more luck finding good friends than a partner. i also think that as a new member you can benefit greatly in learning from more experienced members of the bdsm community. being more knowledgeable will definitely make you more attractive to possible partners.

[Hypnoduke]

Good insight, thank you!!