New daddy looking for advice.

[Guest J385]

I've just got into the ddlg scene and while I am very interested and enjoy it, I'm quite inexperienced though and unsure how my little wants me to act/say. She has quite a bit of experience but can't really tell me what she wants me to do, however the lack of ddlg is affecting her and I want to help her so any tips/tricks or other relating to how i can bring her little out and how i can be more of a daddy for her would be very helpful.

[Guest J385]

I think lack of communication is the biggest problem here. I'm sure she knows you're a little inexperienced. If she doesn't tell you what works for her, or what she thinks you should try to help get her into little space then you two just need to have a chat. Relationships are two way streets, she can't expect you to preform well as a DD if she cant have a grown up discussion.

I know and I've tried but she goes into little when she feels like it, she doesn't really know why, and I've tried talking but like I said she doesn't seem to fully know what she wants. She knows I'm inexperienced but I don't want this to affect our relationship negatively.

Edited December 15, 2020 by J385

[babybunnyx97]

Edited December 15, 2020 by Guest

[babybunnyx97]

My boyfriend doesn't know what DDlg is or that I'm a little. I've always been a bit childish and he knows that. I'm just myself with him. And very recently I started calling him Daddy and he's been enjoying it. So just do what feels right. What makes you happy. Not all relationships are the same, they're all different! Our relationship isn't exactly a DDlg dynamic but it's ok

[Guest J385]

Edited December 15, 2020 by J385

[PapaGrayWolf]

You have to be what you are naturally, both in and out of being a Daddy.  This doesn't mean you can't adjust and compromise to an extent but not to the point you are no longer yourself.  You need to discuss this as best you can with your little.

[lilbabie]

I think the best thing you could do is ask her upfront what she likes and what would make her feel comfortable as a little. like you could try different things that other daddy's/CG's say but every little has different tastes and different opinions on what they like and how they want to be treated. best of luck to you and your little! 

[DaddyDomVirginia]

Good afternoon, I'm not sure if you are looking for anymore advice but I believe you said when you tried talking to her she goes into little space. Some littles do have trouble communicating their wants and needs verbally at times, try having her write a letter to you. Buy her some pretty pink paper maybe with drawings and pictures on them, colored pens and tell her to write you a letter like she is writing a letter to santa clause. Explain to her the difference between the two letters are instead of writing a letter for the things she wants, you want her to write a letter for the things she wants to feel and experience. What things makes her feel safe, what makes her feel happy and what types of things can her Daddy do to help her when she's little. You can then read it to her and discuss the things that she wrote down which will give you a solid start to open up the communication a little betyer because it is already in her words. It worked very well for me once when I needed an alternative way for my little to open up about how she was feeling.