Ddlg and parenting

[Littlemisspenguin]

I just had an incident and debated over and over if I should even post something about this. It was a true mental battle, but I guess I have come to the conclusion that maybe I need a moment to vent, and hopefully not offend anyone. So here goes nothing...

 

So recently I made the decision to open up about being apart of ddlg to a friend. After some deep conversation and questions, my friend decided to ask how can you be apart of that and have a child? I almost fell over in my seat because that was probably just as bad as hearing, "ew that's gross." So I tried to explain calmly, it's easy. I said something along the lines of, it's not that different than a person who enjoys the lifestyle of bdsm or other lifestyle choices. Just because I do it doesn't mean I flaunt it in front of my child, or let it affect how I parent. My child always comes first! It doesn't change anything other than what I wanna do in my personal and private time. To which the conversation ended and was left with a weird silence.

 

I guess I was a little shook at how I was questioned about it. I never flaunt this in front of my child. This is me and what I do when I can. I can also make a side note that being little helps me cope with the stresses of daily life and being a parent. Also, having a child let's me embrace being little, when I can enjoy playing board games, coloring, and building lego sets with my child. It lets me feel little in moments when I cannot. Of course I don't go in full on little space, but it's a small glimpse and it's nice.

 

Well, I hope after all that I haven't offended anyone, and if anyone else feels compelled to share a story, please do! I guess I just needed a venting moment to people who at the very least can sympathize. Thank you<3

[DaddysMonkey]

Hello !

 

I understand the shock , and awkward silence to end the conversation you had with your friend. Unfortunately, no matter how much you try to explain Ddlg to some people , they won’t get it. I’ve had plenty of vanilla friends that have kids , they know I’m in the lifestyle of Ddlg , and they LOVE when I’m around their kids. I’m basically a free babysitter whenever I’ve been around my friends that know. I get to throw little hellions around onto couches , and they get to have fun too and not be bored by all the adults around.

 

But , on the flip side... I’ve also lost a couple “friends” (acquaintances really) that were completely against Ddlg. Whatever reasons they had , fine with me. Not everybody has to agree , or like what you do in your private life. And that’s why they call it a private life , it’s private. Wanting to share your lifestyle with friends is something I totally relate to. Most people in my life know I’m a little. Even most of my co workers , customers ect. It’s not that I outright scream “IM A LITTLE HEAR ME ROAR”. I just act like a big kid , and eventually people start asking questions. Telling people about things that are considered private , always runs the risk of losing friends or having their opinion of you change.

 

I personally hate kids and never want to have any , even if I’m an awesome babysitter 8) I don’t think however , that being in Ddlg effects your children directly. You mention that you have glimpses of little space around your kid , hell dude. I think EVERYONE acts like a kid for the most part around actual kids.

 

If a kid hands you a play phone , what kind of a-hole wouldn’t answer it ?!

If a kid wants to play hide and seek , most people start running for the best hiding spot.

If a kid hands you pretend food , almost everyone takes a pretend bite and goes “Mmm yummy !”

 

I think it’s only natural , even for vanilla people to slip into that mentality , parent or not. It’s not like you’re gunna sit a kid down and talk about taxes with them , you’re gunna play !

 

I dunno , as stated above I fuckin hate kids. But even someone that hates children can recognize that being playful with your kid isn’t introducing them to anything out of the norm.

Edited December 1, 2020 by DaddysMonkey

[SmolAetherr]

as a father and a daddy i have been asked this too by other littles no less is it so difficult for people to recognise that a little and a child are different?

[Littlemisspenguin]

as a father and a daddy i have been asked this too by other littles no less is it so difficult for people to recognise that a little and a child are different?

Thank you. I feel like people group this as one when it clearly is two totally different things.