Guest taryn of arendelle Posted March 4, 2015 Report Posted March 4, 2015 In what kind of ways do you control your little (i.e. what things have they given you permission to have control over in their lives?) and littles, where do you crave control or, perhaps in some cases, strict guidance. I want Papa to have more control over my life. I want him to tell me what I can and cannot do in a day, when I should eat (and even what), what I should wear, etc. But I wanted to get ideas, especially from littles and bigs in LDRs or who don't live together because Papa and I are 2 hours or so away from each other and he's busy and in work/unreachable a lot of the time.
manicpixidream Posted March 4, 2015 Report Posted March 4, 2015 My Daddy and I are just starting out, so right now we just have a no smoking rule. Things I would want in the future would be rules about eating and drinking (how much water in a day) and bedtime stuff.
Daddy&Angelpet Posted March 4, 2015 Report Posted March 4, 2015 Our current focus has been on Angelpet's health and well-being. Not smoking is a rule of hers as well along with eating properly and staying hydrated. She has a bedtime and her playtime (naughties) is only by permission. I try to make sure she does plenty of crafting, writing, and other fun activities I know she enjoys. Once we move in together there will be more rules to follow such as: outfits, housework, and other (wink wink) stuff. 1
Guest taryn of arendelle Posted March 4, 2015 Report Posted March 4, 2015 Yeah I'm thinking I want bedtime stuff too and whatnot. And like what time to turn off (or stop using) my phone at night, stuff like that, but I wanted to see what y'all were doing. And I think for us some of the things are gonna have to vary day by day as I'm probably getting a job soon and because it's retail it won't be consistent hours.
Bull Posted March 4, 2015 Report Posted March 4, 2015 The thrills of control and power intoxication are what drew me to this lifestyle. clover and I have a 24/7 power exchange relationship, and we are far more Master and Submissive than Daddy and little, though we have elements of both. When I look at her collar, knowing; that's for me. I chose it, I paid for it, I made the decisions about the jewelry and style. That necklace is mine. She wears it because it pleases me, and she won't remove it without permission. My presence on her body is inevitable. My control slips into her everyday life, too, not just her body. I choose the colors she wears. Every morning and evening, she recites the mantras I wrote for her, like the good girl she is. I hear them, and I feel proud. She is doing as she's told, she is conscious of me. I am in her mind, always. I am an inevitable presence in her actions, thoughts, and body. She has other protocols too, of course - the less exciting ones. Flossing, reading assignments, creative projects, chores... Every breath and action she takes is somewhat of a reflection of me, and that means she needs to be living up to my standards as much as possible. We have chore lists, rulebooks, charts, and contracts that I won't bore you all with. It's a wonderful thing, and I can only see it getting better and more rewarding for us with time. 3
Guest taryn of arendelle Posted March 4, 2015 Report Posted March 4, 2015 We have chore lists, rulebooks, charts, and contracts that I won't bore you all with. It's a wonderful thing, and I can only see it getting better and more rewarding for us with time. No please bore me! Those sound so interesting.
littlemariposa Posted March 4, 2015 Report Posted March 4, 2015 Yes, Bull please bore us! I never thought of it that way honestly, you make it sound so exciting.As for my Daddy and I we're long distance and we don't have any really set in stone rules. The only ones that are really clear are when he tells me it's time for bed, and he's really insistent that I take daily naps 'cause I don't sleep much at night, he also doesn't like for me to cum without permission.Little things is he gets agitated with me if I haven't eaten or drank enough so he tries to make sure I'm taking care of those things. I can't be too much of a smart mouth with him and I have to do still in school. He supports my creative stuff too though like my music and drawing/coloring.
Daddyslittlemerbaby Posted March 4, 2015 Report Posted March 4, 2015 Yeah Bull bore us with your epicness! As with my Daddy and I, we, rather, I am still trying to get it through to him that just cause rules are written down doesn't mean he doesn't have to enforce them for me.I would love for him to have more control over what I eat and drink and when, what I wear, how my makeup should be done, the color of my nails, how I should over all look for him that day. When bed time is, ordering for me when we go out, giving me permission to have naughty time, etc,I have chores, but those are more things I do to keep the house clean and orderly, not really a part of our dynamic.
PeppermintBatty Posted March 4, 2015 Report Posted March 4, 2015 Me and my daddy came up with several concepts that I was interested in. Our relationship is extremely relaxed for a D/S relationship. He's not super intense about punishments or about control. I like that because we both have a say in what goes on and help each other conquer the world around us. But for hard control protocols, I have to ask him to use the potty and to change. I have to call him daddy (and he calls me Peppito or kiddo). I have to do things he asks me nicely to do (could you get this, could you help with this). We have to discuss purchases and we eat together every night. I have a bedtime (and he puts me to sleep and makes sure I'm ready). Aside from that, I haven't really fine lined what we want past that which our previous relationship as husbands was not providing already.
Steffie Posted March 4, 2015 Report Posted March 4, 2015 I crave/need control in all areas. My daddy has control over my bedtime, my chores/schedule for a day, my socialization, who I interact with (within reason if he has reason for concern about someone), my clothes, and my habits - like I cannot consume alcohol, I have limits on caffeine, and I cannot smoke.
Bull Posted March 4, 2015 Report Posted March 4, 2015 You're all too kind! I'm more than happy to share some of our paperwork with you! An Overview of our Household Values Daily Protocols (NSFW) Our Contract Flag, Patch, and Heraldic Etiquette Color Chart All her performance charts from last year: Jan, Feb, Mar, April, May, June, July, Aug, Sept, Oct, Nov, Dec And finally, the 2014 infographic! 7
PeppermintBatty Posted March 4, 2015 Report Posted March 4, 2015 A man that has created an infographic for his relationship. This is beyond cute and awesome.
Guest Sae Posted March 5, 2015 Report Posted March 5, 2015 You're all too kind! I'm more than happy to share some of our paperwork with you! An Overview of our Household Values Daily Protocols (NSFW) Our Contract Flag, Patch, and Heraldic Etiquette Color Chart All her performance charts from last year: Jan, Feb, Mar, April, May, June, July, Aug, Sept, Oct, Nov, Dec And finally, the 2014 infographic! Oooh.
Kitten Posted March 5, 2015 Report Posted March 5, 2015 I have rules that are more about control are my bedtime, the occasional mandatory nap, no self-harming, and letting Daddy hold my drinks and feed me. I wouldn't mind getting more control over how much water I drink, though, because I'm forgetful and it ties into some of my other more private interests. cx 1
princessandthesailor Posted March 5, 2015 Report Posted March 5, 2015 We're LDR as well and some of Daddy's control in my life includes: I ask him if I can go out with friends or if they come over before I ask my grandparents (I still live at home) If a purchase is a non-necessity item over $10 I'm to clear it with him first. The only exception to this is if it's a gift item for someone. When my issues with eating pop up from time to time, I'm to take a photo of every meal and send it to him within the time interval set for each meal. He dictates bedtime. If I've been bad, I go to bed at the same time he does which is 2-3 hours before my usual bedtime due to time difference. Only exception to this is schoolwork. I can suspend my bedtime if I have a test/essay/project due the next day, though it's frowned upon because it probably means I procrastinated. I must ask to have certain "bad for you foods" and find ways to make them more healthy, such as cutting up vegan hot dogs and putting them in my spaghetti o's or putting tuna/vegetables in the mac and cheese. No touching myself without permission
Guest Pouty Kitten Posted March 5, 2015 Report Posted March 5, 2015 I crave control all the time. It helps me feel safe and it lessens my anxiety.
Guest taryn of arendelle Posted March 5, 2015 Report Posted March 5, 2015 I crave control all the time. It helps me feel safe and it lessens my anxiety. I feel the same way. And it helps break down my wall of trust issues.
princess-mel Posted March 6, 2015 Report Posted March 6, 2015 You're all too kind! I'm more than happy to share some of our paperwork with you! An Overview of our Household Values Daily Protocols (NSFW) Our Contract Flag, Patch, and Heraldic Etiquette Color Chart All her performance charts from last year: Jan, Feb, Mar, April, May, June, July, Aug, Sept, Oct, Nov, Dec And finally, the 2014 infographic! Bull! Where did you get those charts? They're so adorable and my Daddy is thinking about doing something like it for me
Bull Posted March 6, 2015 Report Posted March 6, 2015 Bull! Where did you get those charts? They're so adorable and my Daddy is thinking about doing something like it for me Thank you! I made them!
littlemariposa Posted March 8, 2015 Report Posted March 8, 2015 I have rules that are more about control are my bedtime, the occasional mandatory nap, no self-harming, and letting Daddy hold my drinks and feed me. I wouldn't mind getting more control over how much water I drink, though, because I'm forgetful and it ties into some of my other more private interests. cx So I'm not the only that has a mandatory nap?!?! Daddy swears I don't get enough sleep and tells me to take my nap everyday and if I try to stay up he threatens to send me too bed early so I HAVE to take the nap. I tell him I think he's trying to get rid of me haha
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