When a stranger reacts rudely to you

[little-luna]

So I don't often comment or go to chat rooms very much. But today I was really down and kind of wanted people to talk to. Anyway, I joined a "ddlg"room and was doing fine. Until someone said something that seemed offensive. I responded with a "yikes" and the dude totally started bashing me. And then others start joining in and Im sitting here like... this is why I have a hard time talking to strangers online! I don't understand people sometimes??? And I guess because I was feeling down and in little head space, it really got to me. So nowww I don't know how to recover.

 

Sorry for the rant/vent...

But tl:dr - random rude people hurt my feelings but maybe it was my fault for even responding the way I did

 

*sigh*

 

PS this is my first starting-a-thread-post ever and I did not expect it to be this lol -n-

Edited November 26, 2020 by little-luna

[Guest liljeannie]

Online interactions are always difficult. It's so easy to misread, misinterpret or misunderstand each other. It's especially difficult if you're vulnerable in little space. I'm sorry you experienced that especially when you were already felling down. You didn't deserve that.

I haven't even tried a chat anywhere myself because I don't enjoy that set up for communication.

I hope that you are able to feel better about things and don't take it to heart. Those people don't matter in the larger scheme of things.

[Guest spicyfoodftw]

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Edited December 9, 2020 by spicyfoodftw

[PapaGrayWolf]

I want to be so snarky.

 

I want to be so snarky.

 

I want to be so snarky.

 

Oh to hell with it, I will be snarky!

 

They were obvious Trump supporters and not worthy of notice, 

 

Sorry, I couldn't help myself. 

[Merrygirl]

Lots of hugs. Ignore them. You to special.

[Guest hideouslovely]

Hi little-luna!    I'm sorry you had this experience.  I'm a very introverted person and I often feel uncomfortable interacting with people in the real world or online.

 

Chat rooms can be pretty bad because so many folk get behind a keyboard and lose all sense of responsibility for their own words.  But you should know that you didn't say anything wrong!  That particular group of people sound awful, to be honest.

 

By the way, your avatar is very cute.  Flappy arms on sweaters is the best! 

[MintieSweetie]

I want to be so snarky.

 

I want to be so snarky.

 

I want to be so snarky.

 

Oh to hell with it, I will be snarky!

 

They were obvious Trump supporters and not worthy of notice, 

 

Sorry, I couldn't help myself. 

Lets not go making this a politics thing. There are many people on this forum and im sure some are probably trump supporters. I wont judge a person by who they voted for, im sure they have their reasons. If you disagree with them, thats fine, but no need to judge someone based on their beliefs. Nobody is right, Nobody is wrong. We are all just people, trying to live our lives. 

 

Either way, the people who hurt Luna are undeniably duckheads (not ducks, you know what I mean xD)

[PapaGrayWolf]

Lets not go making this a politics thing. There are many people on this forum and im sure some are probably trump supporters. I wont judge a person by who they voted for, im sure they have their reasons. If you disagree with them, thats fine, but no need to judge someone based on their beliefs. Nobody is right, Nobody is wrong. We are all just people, trying to live our lives. 

 

Either way, the people who hurt Luna are undeniably duckheads (not ducks, you know what I mean xD)

We must agree, amicably, to agree to disagree in general if not specifically. 

[baby_k]

It's hard to say how the situation really went, and also how it seemed to those other people.

You think they are rude but maybe they think the same about you, and how you made situation uncomfortable. Someone who was following the convo as "outsider" might be able to give you more subjective review of the situation but we rarely have that option unfortunately.

 

What I would see as more important is that is this really worth to get too upset? I can understand that of course you got upsetf as bunch of people attacked you but in same time you allow them to make your day bad. You allow some random people in internet decide how you feel, and make your day miserable. Especially if this happens often to you, you should consider why is that. And find ways that help you to get back happy again ( this might be talkign to someone, excercise, doing some nice stuff....).

 

Selfreflection is important and usefull for these.

Why you got upset? Like did you feel unaccepted, unfairly treated...?

Was there any way to avoid it? To avoid btw doesn't mean you just lock yourself up in your flat and never talk to anyone but some other more healthy means.

Should you have tried to avoid it? Note: sometimes might be better to keep one's mouth shut if you just are gonna irritate people, cause drama or make others feel uncomfortable to talk freely. But then again there are those situations where one should step up also. And then sometimes people just are asses in random situations. And sometimes there is cultural differencies on how things are interpretted which may cause drama. And so on

[little-luna]

wow I honestly didn't expect so many replies, thanks everyone 

 

um to answer a few questions/replies...

 

-yes the others joined in calling me names.

-yeah I usually avoid chat rooms (outside of this site) so I think I wasn't fully aware/ready of how chat rooms can sometimes go

-I was a part of the conversation and im not sure if I came off rude but I apologized

-I was more sad than upset, I think. cause my quest for convo in little head space ended horribly

 

but im over it now! 

you guyses words definitely helped me.. thanks again c:

[RainDoeSprinkles]

This makes me wish there was a special chat room just for being in little headspace. We need a safe place where everything can be soft and comfortable and there's is no grown up yucky political stuff being talked about.

[MintieSweetie]

Im glad you are feeling better hun, this is a safe place to express yourself so if you are ever feeling down please dont be shy to talk to us. Even if we are just people from around the world, we all want you to be happy. We gotta support eachother 

(/^-^(^ ^*)/ ♡