Little help please?

[chXrLl]

hi i'm char! 22 female. years ago a friend and her child (maybe 2?) came over. obviously as a little, toys interests me. and he had some toy cars. him and i were in the kitchen on the floor playing with them (i adore children) i was texting my Dom friend at the time and he made me feel all small and silly. But at the same time I was occasionally replying to my friends child because he was speaking to me. I'm just overthinking worrying about that i involved him in my own ddlg things. i NEVER agree with involving minors in that. He just happened to be around, and it was totally harmless in my head. I didn't even make the. connection at the time. being small is so natural to my own personality. But wanted to double check I did nothing wrong? Many thanks

[Pupperoo]

I don't think you did anything wrong. All you did was play with a child, doing child things, while you were feeling little. If we are going to start feeling guilty for feeling little around children (whom often trigger it for us), we are in dire straits.

Don't beat yourself up so much over it. It's not like you involved the child in any form of adult DD/lg activity.

[Coco600]

Hi,

 

So your post brings up an interesting point in general about the idea of involving people in a space when they haven't given consent (the consent in 'safe,sane and consensual').

I think in your case you just naturally responded on a different level with a child while in play - which people often do, playing hide and seek or having tea parties, most people aren't being their 'adult self'. Just for you, you were aware you were feeling your smaller space. It would be different if, for example, you pushed him over for taking the crayon you wanted, then you have crossed from 'playing with my friends kid', to 'including someone who can't consent into your space' - which as the poster above said would be a form of adult DD/lg. I guess its about people making accommodations for your headspace when they can't or haven't consented to it. It doesn't sound like you crossed into this in your example.

[chXrLl]

I don't think you did anything wrong. All you did was play with a child, doing child things, while you were feeling little. If we are going to start feeling guilty for feeling little around children (whom often trigger it for us), we are in dire straits.

 

Don't beat yourself up so much over it. It's not like you involved the child in any form of adult DD/lg activity.

thank you so much. just a girl who worries too much lol! it’s just at the same time whilst texting my Dom friend he told me to share and it made me feel like it would to anyone into power play and i just felt bad for the timing of it, is that still okay? i would definitely never involve a minor yes.

[Kitten&Spice]

I think that is a natural response really. Most people when around children will usually change the way they talk and do things. Some people will even “baby talk” or act “childish”and I don’t think what you did is anything outside the common behaviors of every single person around children. I find it a lot easier to talk and spend time with kids when I can relate to what they do when it comes to my little space. And then I can have a more enjoyable experience considering I am not the biggest fan of kids entirely.

 

I think what you did was just a parental response and being that you have a little space can actually help develop the kid’s social skills as you are able to interact with them on their level. It is good for kids to be able to socialize and to be able to think so in a way I think it is a good thing!