Online ddlg: Punishments?

[ilovepuppies]

So I'm new to this, but I was wondering how punishments work for people doing g online ddlg? My problem is I have have terrible self control, so how can rules be enforced? Any help would be appreciated!

[PapaGrayWolf]

Hi Puppy Lover,

 

The way I would punish a little is by Coventry.  Coventry is where you ignore an individual.  It should only be used judiciously and not for an extended period of time.  It is no fun for the Daddy any more than the little or middle. 

 

Friend me and talk to me one on one if you like.

 

Michael

[Satan]

Hello, here is a link to basic rules and punishments , rewards ect. (Being new please be wary of caregivers that are ready to jump in a relationship / dynamic right away with out getting to know you )

Sfw

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/12727-a-starting-point-for-rules-rewards-punishments/

[lil_moon]

So I'm new to this, but I was wondering how punishments work for people doing g online ddlg? My problem is I have have terrible self control, so how can rules be enforced? Any help would be appreciated!

Hi!

 

My answer would be based on my dynamic with my Daddy, so it could be different with your dynamic and we both are in long distance dynamic so it's definitely online so far. In my dynamic, If I break the rules, Daddy usually will scold me and His go to rules are lines. But before Daddy give me the punishment, Daddy usually remind me about the rules several times. 

[Little kaiya]

Hi Puppy Lover,

 

The way I would punish a little is by Coventry. Coventry is where you ignore an individual. It should only be used judiciously and not for an extended period of time. It is no fun for the Daddy any more than the little or middle.

 

Friend me and talk to me one on one if you like.

 

Michael

That's certainly an option but one I think a lot of littles would find very emotionally rough. I get that punishments aren't supposed to be fun but that, and really anything else that withdraws love or contact, would be 100% hard limits for me.

 

I think the most important thing is the caregiver and little discussing punishments way before any are implemented. Mutually agreement is key.

[PapaGrayWolf]

That's certainly an option but one I think a lot of littles would find very emotionally rough. I get that punishments aren't supposed to be fun but that, and really anything else that withdraws love or contact, would be 100% hard limits for me.

 

I think the most important thing is the caregiver and little discussing punishments way before any are implemented. Mutually agreement is key.

You're correct that this would be extreme.  In the years that I had a little I only used this once and I knew that it would probably end the relationship, which it did.  But if it hadn't been that action by my little it would have been something else.

 

In a good DDlg relationship, Daddy's displeasure should be enough punishment.

[Lollipox]

I don't agree with ignoring your partner or Little/CG as a punishment. I wouldn't take that on board if I were you. Unless you'd be completely unaffected by it, in which case it's not really a punishment then anyway.

 

That's something that affects you both outside of the dynamic. For example, calling them names as a punishment. That shit's gonna leave a mark long after the punishment's over. You cannot undo that. Bruises and booboos can heal.

And to me it's important to have an understanding of like, "this happened because I am trying to help correct your behaviour and help you to grow" (or y'know, because they're a brat and want to be punished anyway).

 

Punishments should be severe, to the point, appropriate to the "crime" and shouldn't leave long-lasting damage to either person.

 

However online punishments and DDlg do rely heavily on each others's self control. Because otherwise you're going to have to handover something else to them to have power over you, to make you listen. And that's not ideal. So I suggest working together with them to improve your self control. It's very important. And being honest if you don't follow through.

 

"In a good DDlg relationship, Daddy's displeasure should be enough punishment"

[Kichōna]

When I babysit littles and they do something that goes against the rules we have decided upon and/or their caregiver has given them, I usually give them a timeout. Usually, I trust them enough to sit in a corner patiently for five minutes but if a caregiver requires evidence, they can record themselves sitting in place in the corner on their phone for five minutes before sending it to their caregiver. A specific rule I insinuated is that if they belittle themselves, they have to apolgize to themselves before listing two to five positive things about themselves. Then they have to apologize to me for hurting my baby. In general, I prefer to understand why the Little broke a rule before instituting a punishment (if one is needed). Did they swear because they wanted attention? If so I would explain that they don't need to swear if they want attention before giving them a warning. Were they rude to me because they couldn't control their emotions? Then we would work on some breathing exercises over the phone. Some littles can handle punishments, that needs to be remembered.