Guest PrincessPJ Posted October 21, 2015 Report Posted October 21, 2015 Hi, I've been seeing my Daddy for over four months and it's a LDR. We've gotten into a groove (saying Good Morning/Good Night, know intimate details of each others' lives, said "I love you."). I'm happy for the most part, but I noticed that in the beginning he was far more into "making me His" than now. I loved feeling his dominance when he wanted to text what I was up to or demand a picture before going somewhere. Now, I get very little interaction unless I initiate it. I want to make plans to meet but all he says is that we won't be LDR forever. I know being a Daddy is hard and we all have life to live. I'm really busy and have lots to do. I guess I don't feel as pursued as I used to and I really wonder why he wants me. Orrrrrr, am I just being a needy little? Or is my Daddy showing signs that he just isn't that into us anymore? My (well, our) long term goal was to eventually live together in the dynamic when we can. Not sure what is going on or if we've just settled into our relationship. So confusing. Excuse my rambling. Thanks!
TallPaleDaddy Posted October 21, 2015 Report Posted October 21, 2015 I think he's just getting settled in try not to over think it too much, that can breed all sorts of problems. I know the kind of situation your going through. I would highly suggest asking him about it, it would build a better bond between you two and hopefully settle the dust about your thoughts... Just something along the lines of. "Daddy, (I'm guessing you call him Daddy, right?) can you be brutally honest with me, you're not losing interest in me being you're little are you?"
MrBonesWildRide Posted October 21, 2015 Report Posted October 21, 2015 Actually I don't think either of your two situations are entirely true. Long distance is hard on willpower, and the way you've described it makes me feel as though he needs a good mental boost as you want to keep the fire burning. Two questions: 1) Have you had any serious conversations with him about the slowdown? That would be my first go-to in a relationship. 2) Have you turned into a schedule or are you mixing it up every once and a while? You could see what kind of "out there" ideas you could come up with to interact when you're not busy. I don't think your relationship is failing. It has slowed but all that's needed is a bit more communication.
Pablo Neruda Posted October 21, 2015 Report Posted October 21, 2015 I think relationships naturally cool down with time, by no means this is negative. If you get the impression of him loosing interest I would talk with him about it. In the end, it's all about talking things out
Guest PrincessPJ Posted October 21, 2015 Report Posted October 21, 2015 @Mr. BWR When I do ask him about the slow down, he says not to worry. He doesn't really call me anymore or make time to Skype. I'm just worried that while he just jumped right in....it takes me a while to figure things out in a relationship. I don't rush stuff. But when I do fall ...I fall hard and I'm devoted. I don't have a good feeling, guys. Thanks!
Guest buddhagirl Posted October 21, 2015 Report Posted October 21, 2015 My best guess would be that either: 1) his flame for you has cooled a bit (but I hope not!) or 2) he's settling in and this is more of what you can expect him in the long-term. This isn't great, either, because he's not giving you what you need and making you feel the love and dominance you want.
Guest MyDaddyMyWorld Posted October 22, 2015 Report Posted October 22, 2015 Yes it's impossible to guess from either of those two possible answers really. It's one or the other. If his general interaction with you has really lost all its original spark, then that makes me think he's lost interest, but if he still shows interest and tells you that he cares and wants you, but not quite as often, then it's probably just that the honeymoon period is dwindling.
The Perennial Princess Posted October 23, 2015 Report Posted October 23, 2015 OP has deleted their account. The thread is now locked.
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