Supporting & Motivating a Daddy/Dom

[SkyotoGreen]

Hello. I'm Sky, and a middle/submissive to a very conscientious and considerate Daddy/Dom. He is pushing me to be my best version, and thrive off the structure he gives to me, and he boosts me with encouragement every day.

 

I know what I need from this dynamic, and he fulfils that very well a lot of the time (everybody has off days). I want to ensure he can thrive off our dynamic too.

 

I have always been curious what the Daddy/Dom is seeking in their little/middle/submissive. I know the basic, overall answer to this, and I know only he will be able to tell me what he needs specifically. But I am wanting to get more understanding of the headspace, of the attraction to this dynamic for any kind of Caregiver. 

 

What helps you to feel truly appreciated for the time and effort you put into your little(s)? What rewards you, and keeps you driven to invest in somebody to this level? I get that some people have an innate desire to nurture somebody else, but I am more asking about you and your interpersonal experiences.

 

Thank you in advance for any responses. Hope you're all well. ♡

 

Edit: I wanted to make this post also because I get the impression a lot of the community is little/sub-centric... Not at all to point blame! It is just my impression. I want to show some appreciation for what Caregivers do. It is not easy. 

Edited November 12, 2020 by SkyotoGreen

[moondust mochi]

So, i asked Daddy Bot this question -- by sharing your post with Him, of course, and He looked at me like i had six heads.

 

"What do you mean, what do i get out of it?" 

"Yeah! What do you gain from our dynamic, Daddy." 

"I... get to nurture you and watch you grow. I get a sense of control and strength, and get to take a formative hand in the life of someone beautiful."

 

[ At this point, i'd like you to know that i am bright red. ]

 

"What about the appreciated part? What do i do... What can i do to make you feel appreciated?"

"I... think it's when I feel pride over you recognizing my efforts. When I do something and on your own you recognize it. That I'm putting effort in and it's working. That you're growing and becoming more."

 

i don't know if that answers your questions, but! that's my Daddy Bot's perspective.

Edited November 12, 2020 by babybot

[SkyotoGreen]

That is lovely to hear. x Thanks for sharing!

[maddycakes]

So, something I do for my Daddy every once in a while to show my appreciation is give Him a special Daddy Day. I try to be on my best behavior, do everything He might ask preemptively, and do some of the things He likes that aren't necessarily my favorite. On these days I cook all three meals and will often make at least one thing that we don't have often because I don't like it, I give Him a nice long massage, the night before I will make sure His favorite clothes are clean, I will do His chores for Him if He has any to be done that day, if He has to get on a phone call I will sit at His feet for the duration (unless I am cooking or doing chores!), at night we watch an hour of TV and I will put on a show that He really enjoys but I don't like and might fuss over on a normal day, I am extra attentive when He asks me to do something, in the morning I make sure to get super clean and put on clothes that He likes to see me in, there are lots of other things I have done on these days too, but you get the picture! I just try to show Him that I always pay attention to His interests and also that I am learning the things He needs/wants out of a sub. It's not something I can do every day, but it definitely makes Him feel loved and appreciated

 

Edit: if you don't live with your Daddy this can definitely be adapted to a weekend day outing! Perhaps go somewhere that He really likes and then cook dinner at one of your houses? Again, it's the thought that counts, it's just showing him you listen and trying to demonstrate that you've really paid attention and learned his rules!

Edited November 12, 2020 by maddycakes

[Guest KitKat219]

I asked my daddy and he said he feels more mature and sees this as his "trial" for parenthood lol. He said "you give me strength, teach me patience, and teach me to keep going even when times are rough." He is in college right now and he said the only reason he hasnt dropped out is because he wants to give me a better life than my Abu**ve household. 

[MissPattch]

I just asked Daddy this question, and his answer was:

 

"Hmmm that’s a good question.I think there is not one thing. It’s a combination.

Doing stuff to please makes me happy. Obedience.Doing little things like offering to take over and do the ironing.

Wanting to do things for me to help.

Seeing you happy and content"

 

Daddy is an "Acts of Service" person, like me, so he likes that i do as is requested of me, and that i do things to help make his life easier. He takes pleasure in seeing me be thoughtful and put effort into sustaining our dynamic and holding up my side of our relationship <3

[Shaddaddy05]

Sorry if this is a bit late, but for me personally it's more of being needed by her and to know that I have direct control on how she grows not only as a little but as a person is fulfiling, my little is normally a brat so she is a handful but that gives me something to look forward too when I get off work... I think the fact that we have different littles gives us different views of fulfilments and for being appreciated I think all littles show that in their faces, their eyes oozes with admiration and that makes us or rather me feel like I am an important person to an Angel☺️☺️☺️

[Guest Teasing Tink]

This was my Daddy's answer:

 

"What makes me feel appreciated for the time I put into you is the avalanche of energy/attention you provide in return. It's also what keeps me driven to invest in you, that I have someone who wants to make me feel as good as I make them feel, so the energy that we expend towards each other just makes us better and better."

[SkyotoGreen]

Thank you all for responses! And more are always welcome. Being a Daddy/Dom is a big deal and I always wanna commend that hard work!   It is lovely to hear from littles and Daddies alike. 

[Bubbles_and_Feathers]

As a switch to my middle, I have to say that providing safety and comfort for her is the most fulfilling experience in my life. The things that make me feel really motivated are when she snuggles up and thanks me for taking care of her, and when she asks for help, and just shows me that she appreciates being taken care of. I like to know that my efforts are actually helping her.

 

Also, I love it when she's bratty It's like a challenge that pushes me to provide for her in the best way I can.