Age Regression: Many versions

[ScarletBaby]

Hey there. I just want to open this up with I'm not judging anyone I'm just here to open a discussion. I'm a Licensed Practical Nurse, I may not work directly in the mental health field but not only am I qualified to but psychology was my best subject. I accredit that to my friends and experience. But to the topic on hand.

 

I recently saw something that would very easily make age regressors on this site feel unwelcome, and it got my goat when I saw they seemed to be one. Age regression can come from many things, trauma, kink, and all sorts of things on a spectrum in between. Not only is most forms of kink a coping mechanism in some way, as it can help you face and deal with trauma or it can simply help you live outside of it for a bit, but so is Age Regression. Many people in the world seem to believe they get claim to certain terms for mental health versions of DDLG or ABDL and one of those terms appears to be Age Regession.

 

While regression is used in psychology, there is no rule out there saying that it is exclusive for this purpose nor is there one saying that someone can't mentally regress and still have a portion of their adult mindset to consent with. The human brain is still a mystery in many ways, so there's no way of knowing the full extent. It makes sense that not everyone would fully regress across the brain to the point of not being able to consent. It also makes sense that plenty do. Sub space for many in the DDLG community is a form or regression. And in every kink I would argue that sub space is a space that can aide in coping.

 

So I would like to open this topic so we can all discuss calmly and nicely with eachother on this topic. And so questions can be asked. I'm not the only healthcare professional on here, and I'm certainly not the only one qualified in mental health. So let's discuss so we can all be informed together and so everyone can feel welcome.

[moondust mochi]

Hi! 

um, this was... really kind of you to post. haha! 

 

i'm an age regressor for trauma reasons, and it is used in my therapy. 

i might have some mental disorders that go with regression, but i... don't think that effects my ability to participate in kink. 

well, i *didn't* think so... ha.. 

 

my partner is my CG while i'm regressed, which is 100% non-sexual, but we're both still consenting adults who engage in sexual activity when i'm *not* regressed.

and while that activity isn't ddlg, i'm still a kinkster... 

 

honestly, i just don't want to make anyone else uncomfortable by being here. but that's my experience. 

[ScarletBaby]

I've met plenty of age regressors on here, you are not alone, and you are welcome here. Everything about you is 100% valid and you are super kind. I hope you feel better and don't leave the forum. It's a great place to turn to when you need it most.

[PigtailPrincess]

Age regressors in the community are welcome and perfectly valid. Period.

[BabieFae]

I've gone back and forth with how to identify and, at this point, I just try not to slap a label on myself. I do not know if I am an age regressor, but I have found myself being more close to that community because of the countless non-sexual littles in it. Also, most times I am in littlespace I do not voluntarily go into that headspace. It just happens. I know that I am little because it helps me cope with the trauma that I have faced in the past and have not fully been able to resolve the fact that I didn't have much of a childhood growing up.

 

I have tried to bring up this headspace in therapy, but found myself getting super nervous and uncomfy bc I didn't want to open up and feel judged, despite that being the opposite of what a therapist does..... i don't know where to place myself and constantly feel out of place because of this. i tried to make a post about it before, but still am stuck ...

 

How do I know the difference between being a DDLG Little and an AGRE Little?? Can I be both?? Are there any other littles like me?? Where do I fit in?..

[ScarletBaby]

Essie this is exactly why I made a post like this. There is no rule that says you can’t be both. Being both just means you don’t have to feel limited in these communities. I made this post so people like you can know that you’re not only perfectly normal but also very welcome on this forum. Thank you so much for sharing.

[LittleFennec]

I count myself as both, but I've kept the age regression to myself so far. I do worry about being judged for it, even though I know logically it makes perfect sense given my history.

 

Edit: in the past I've seen non-kink littles (purely age regressors) tell kink orientated people to stay away from them ("leave my blog if you're into bdsm") which makes me feel like poop for being both!   Of course I understand what they're saying, but it leaves me in a very confused space as the two are similar but very separate for me.

Edited November 12, 2020 by LittleFennec

[LittleFennec]

I wondered if this was in response to my initial post, I've edited just in case because I didn't realise it might be misconstrued as something negative. It was scattered and didn't make a lot of sense so hopefully if it was the issue that make it read better.

Hey there. I just want to open this up with I'm not judging anyone I'm just here to open a discussion. I'm a Licensed Practical Nurse, I may not work directly in the mental health field but not only am I qualified to but psychology was my best subject. I accredit that to my friends and experience. But to the topic on hand.

 

I recently saw something that would very easily make age regressors on this site feel unwelcome, and it got my goat when I saw they seemed to be one. Age regression can come from many things, trauma, kink, and all sorts of things on a spectrum in between. Not only is most forms of kink a coping mechanism in some way, as it can help you face and deal with trauma or it can simply help you live outside of it for a bit, but so is Age Regression. Many people in the world seem to believe they get claim to certain terms for mental health versions of DDLG or ABDL and one of those terms appears to be Age Regession.

 

While regression is used in psychology, there is no rule out there saying that it is exclusive for this purpose nor is there one saying that someone can't mentally regress and still have a portion of their adult mindset to consent with. The human brain is still a mystery in many ways, so there's no way of knowing the full extent. It makes sense that not everyone would fully regress across the brain to the point of not being able to consent. It also makes sense that plenty do. Sub space for many in the DDLG community is a form or regression. And in every kink I would argue that sub space is a space that can aide in coping.

 

So I would like to open this topic so we can all discuss calmly and nicely with eachother on this topic. And so questions can be asked. I'm not the only healthcare professional on here, and I'm certainly not the only one qualified in mental health. So let's discuss so we can all be informed together and so everyone can feel welcome.

[ScarletBaby]

I wondered if this was in response to my initial post, I've edited just in case because I didn't realise it might be misconstrued as something negative. It was scattered and didn't make a lot of sense so hopefully if it was the issue that make it read better.

My post was sparked by a status update that almost lead to someone very kind leaving this forum. I really appreciate your commenting on my post, and the confirmation for others that they’re not alone in being both. I hope you didn’t think I was targeting you but I do hope you can have a fine time on this forum and around like minded individuals. You are clearly a very good person as you decided to revise your post from the thought that it could be negative. I’m glad to share a community with you.

[LittleFennec]

My post was sparked by a status update that almost lead to someone very kind leaving this forum. I really appreciate your commenting on my post, and the confirmation for others that they’re not alone in being both. I hope you didn’t think I was targeting you but I do hope you can have a fine time on this forum and around like minded individuals. You are clearly a very good person as you decided to revise your post from the thought that it could be negative. I’m glad to share a community with you.

 

That's a shame, I'm glad they stayed! No worries at all and likewise! I was worried what I wrote could be perceived as negative so I changed it just in case.

[Bubbles_and_Feathers]

I'm an age regressor due to trauma- when I'm super stressed I regress to a young child. But for the most part, I am a little/middle in that I just don't care to grow up! My partner is a middle too and we connected over our childish personalities.

 

She is also into the kink side of CGL. While that's not my thing, I don't have any problem with it. Sometimes we do things together as middles because we both feel comfy with it at that time. I'm happy to play as her caregiver at times, and she's respectful of the times when I feel too little to participate in sexual activities, and we haven't had any problems so far.

[bbyluv6248]

I'm fairly new to all this, only realizing I have a little space within the last six months, but being into aspects of abdl/cgdlfor years in a kinky way. It's been really weird and interesting because sometimes my little space is similar to my subspace and I havent mentally regressed, but im like,, playing you know? And sometimes I do regress and that feels nonsexual. I wish there were better words for it tbh, bc littlespace is used in both scenarios by a lot of people, but overall agreed on to be two very different experiences!! its kind of confusing haha

and I will admit, sometimes I wonder if I should feel bad about being both? Like the fact that I have the kink and mentally regress and how those wires can get crossed in a bad situation? idk kinda started rambling sorry

[ScarletBaby]

I'm fairly new to all this, only realizing I have a little space within the last six months, but being into aspects of abdl/cgdlfor years in a kinky way. It's been really weird and interesting because sometimes my little space is similar to my subspace and I havent mentally regressed, but im like,, playing you know? And sometimes I do regress and that feels nonsexual. I wish there were better words for it tbh, bc littlespace is used in both scenarios by a lot of people, but overall agreed on to be two very different experiences!! its kind of confusing haha

and I will admit, sometimes I wonder if I should feel bad about being both? Like the fact that I have the kink and mentally regress and how those wires can get crossed in a bad situation? idk kinda started rambling sorry

I really appreciate your contrabution to the conversation. I stand by the idea that being both is 100% valid and diminishes your participation in one or the other 0%. As a healthcare professional in the kink community I stand by the ide that the kink side is a separate side of coping as well as simply a part of your sexuality. Please don't feel bad for being both, there are plenty of people that I have seen in this community that have a foot in both ends. It's "normal" in my book. As long as consent is involved and no one pushes you to do things beyond your consent, then there is nothing wrong with it. Keep on living your life as an awesome individual and don't let the comments out there hurt you.

[Guest littleneverland]

i never really bought into the shaming of either side of littleness, whether it be kink or age regression or “kink tags” but nonsexual which in part i think is cause when i realised i was a little there was no such things as the cglre agere tags on social media, everyone had to use ddlg. i think it’s silly to condemn people for the terms they use when aren’t we all just littles? some of us have more control over regression than others, some engage sexually and some don’t which is just life???

personally i’m asexual and feel uncomfortable thinking about doing sexy things myself even though aspects of it sound intriguing, at least sexy things in the ddlg world, if that makes any sense at all. but a lot of the interest in it stems from exactly the same needs/wants that agere does — not wanting to be in charge all the time, needing help with aspects of life, feeling small and doing childlike things and liking childlike things, handing over control to someone else, not being the adult in the room... i don’t know, i find it all very stressful boxing terms and things into categories especially cause it causes such a divide which stops friendships and relationships from happening that could be wonderful and healing. i usually don’t really interact outside of the agere/cglre world too much because of bad experiences in the past. i’m trying to change that as ddlg is so much more accepting of some things than agere/cglre which i think just maybe i would like/find helpful . the agere/cglre world is very limiting when it comes to finding people and spaces that are safe and likeminded. i kinda feel quite scared to type all this but...i don’t want people to think everyone hates them just because they mix in both, i know i don’t want to be hated or thought to be hating someone else for the same thing i do

[Vampiress]

I don't think there is anything wrong with age regression and I do think there are adult age regressors who will partake in kink, but often when they aren't regressing. The reason we draw these lines is because of the age regression community itself. There is a large portion of that community that allows minors and a part of that community who claims that age regression is non-sexual and that they cannot consent. As the 18+ kink community I think the burden is on us to refrain from engaging with the agere community that frequently asks for DNI (do not interact). They do not want to interact with us at all, and find our community wrong. It isn't usually us that finds them wrong, but we're protecting them and protecting ourselves. Especially because there are minors in the agere community. I for one refuse to get mixed up with minors or adults who genuinely feel that they are incapable of consenting to the sexual side of things.

[SumGirl]

I really appreciate this post! Just wanted to put that out there

[Guest LittleBoyChris]

While it is easy to understand trying to separate being age regressed from age playing comes from the attempt to clarify more how any one individual may explain the space mentally they be in, to do so ought not to imply any shame for those to whom age regression may be in and form a part of a part of a bdsm connected kink for them such as CG/l.

 

Personally being more on age regressive non-kink side for more medical and disability related reasons  and spending time more around communities who come at things from that angle (I'm part of  the cglre community) doesn't mean anybody here should feel those of us who do are disrespecting those who are more into CG/l and gain from that dynamic.

 

Obviously the whole issue around minors, the 'need' to create in some online sites spaces to accommodate in a minor friendly way those who have that need for regression and from that obviously keeping 18+ activity out of those spaces created for them is important but in adult only spaces (and certainly in everyday face to face life) there really should not be any animosity.

 

We're all legal adults.We are free to decide for ourselves what on sites such as this and in any face to face gatherings what we wish to be involved in and what we don't knowing those decisions will be respected by all.

 

We know there are overlaps.

 

That's why I'm happy to post and play a part of life here.