What do you do when you don't feel close to your Daddy?

[Guest kyuutiepie]

Sometimes I go through times when i feel very distant from my daddy and it hurts a lot, do you communicate that to them or do you find other ways to cope?

 

i like to colour in and listen to cute songs or watch anime because i struggle a lot with being insecure about being needy

 

anyon e else have this problem?

[ScarletBaby]

In relationships communication is a big deal, no matter the type of relationship, but I'd argue even more so in a BDSM/DDLG relationship. My advice is to sit down and talk about it and about how you don't want to be too needy as it makes you self concious. I think you need to make sure both of you are aligned on this subject. You should always feel comfortable about approaching your Daddy with your needs and concerns, as talking through things is a major part of relationships to keep both parties happy and mentally/physically healthy. Lack of communication is what ended things with my last Daddy, if you can avoid that, then do. Trust me.

[moondust mochi]

Oh, gosh... 

This happens to me all the time, especially with the distance. 

 

my best advice, beyond communicating with your partner which is totally essential here, is writing down your feelings. 

i have a journal (a journal i've been neglecting, actually...) that my Daddy Bot checks nightly where i update how i'm feeling, how my day was, etc. 

It's a really good way to touch base without having to have a full conversation, especially if i'm anxious about how i'm feeling. 

This way, i know Daddy Bot knows how i'm feeling and He can make sure we bring it up and discuss it when i'm in a better space. 

 

Sometimes, i think we just need to hear that it's okay to be needy and grabby. 

[SkyotoGreen]

Hello Kyuutiepie.

 

I also know this feeling very well, and I have identified that I act out for attention when there is something I need -- be that structure, validation of a feeling I have, or assurance about a particular thing. When we can't identify what the issue is, we become very needy and clingy and feel as though we have to have more attention from our Daddy/Dom.

 

Is there something that happens to make you feel distant? Is it something he does, or you do, or is it a lack of checking in? Not enough quality time? I agree with ScarletBaby about journaling! It is a very effective way not only to communicate with your Daddy, but a tool for you to reflect and work out some of these tough questions. What are you lacking that makes you feel like you need more of his attention?

 

Hope this helps, all the best.

[MissPattch]

I've struggled on occasion with feeling emotionally distant from my Daddy. I feel like i'm too much hard work, or just an annoyance, so i go quiet and introvert big time. And that leads to obsessing and over thinking, which makes me feel 10 times worse. Like the other posters above have mentioned, journalling is an excellent form of therapy and a good outlet for difficult emotions. Allowing your Daddy to read the entries is a good way to let him know how you're feeling without having to feel any embarrassment or shame. And you know what i found? It makes my Daddy feel good when i come to him with stuff like this. He can fulfill his need to be Daddy and look after me and help me through whatever it is i'm struggling with. Slowly, i'm learning its ok to need somebody every now and then. We aren't really designed to be alone <3

[DerbyNerd]

One of my rules is that I tell daddy if I'm lonely or sad, something like that might help to make you less nervous to communicate with him?