Daddy Is Behaving Odd

[Daddysmonster90]

My Daddy and I have been together 3 years. We live about an hour apart and see each other about once a month. We are both working professionals in high demand careers so time is precious. About a month ago I got a new tattoo. I took a few pics sent them to Daddy of course he even helped me deign it. Today I sent him a picture and he said “Wait. Is that your new tattoo baby?” I said yes and that he’d seen it a month ago and a couple times since. He had no memory of such didn’t even remember I’d told him I was getting it. It truly hurt my feelings but it also threw up a red flag for me. We were supposed to get together last month for a weekend and he cancelled and hasn’t asked to see me since. It feels like he may have another babygirl. I don’t know how to approach this. He does see other people I do not we have that agreement but no other littles for him. This feels like he’s preoccupied and I’m not important.

Edited November 29, 2022 by Daddysmonster90

[Guest borderlineophelia]

Personally, I wouldn't take this situation as him possibly having another little or girlfriend or whatever. Especially since you two have been together for so long. Though, it is a bit strange, and I think the best way for you to work this out is to tell him how it made you feel, and why you're upset. Communication is key in every relationship!! If he's not putting in his 2 cents then put in yours and make sure he listens. 

[PapaGrayWolf]

I think it's too early to assume.  Do you have reason to be concerned?  I think so, but your answer will come from discussing these concerns with him rather than this forum. 

 

Write down what you want to say; read it over carefully and then send it in an email.

 

Yes, that is scary to do but if your worst fears are realized it will be better to find out sooner than later.

 

Good luck.

[SmolAetherr]

Does he forget things like this often, might be worth asking him to go to a doctor

[baby_k]

He does see other people I do not we have that agreement but no other littles for him.

Not sure I got this right: he sees other people and you can't do the same? If so, that is the red flag. Also, when person has only little time, I have to wonder why they want to see several people as in my experience keeping even one rel going in those situations can be challenge.

 

In stressfull situations people's memory can really get bad, so I don't think it is personal attack so to say if he has forgotten about the tattoo. It may be important and big deal to you but not the priority to him. Sucks but that may have nothing malicious behind it.

 

THOU, I also wonder how you see so little as the distance is just one hour. In my experience guy who is head over heels for you will drive even several hours just to spend 30min with you....

[MissPattch]

You've said you're both in high demand careers, and i imagine that can be a pretty stressful situation, specially given the current situation with Covid.

 

It might be that he has honestly just forgotten. Try not to take it personally, even the best people forget important things sometimes. When you both have a little bit of free time, it might be a good idea to just enlighten him as to how it made you feel, and what it made you think. Honesty is always the best policy, and communication is key. He might not be aware that he's made you feel this way, and he won't if you don't speak up. Be brave <3

[APTX]

Maybe I'm reading things wrong, but it can't be a red flag when they've agreed on him seeing/dating other girls, not just littles.

For her not seeing others, is her own personal choice. Some people do have that kind of relationship where one is okay with their partner seeing other people, but they themselves have no desire to.

 

I also assume him being forgetful can't be the case considering the time they've been together, so his mind definitely has been preoccupied with something, but instead of jumping to conclusion, it's better to ask him straight.

 

I do however find it odd that you weren't provided with a reason for the cancellation, so honestly I do think you need to have a talk with him.

Yes, there could also be a possibility of him seeing another person hence him not being able to fully give you the attention nor time, but again, just ask him straight.

 

Instead of tormenting yourself, make that step and communicate and get your answers.

And remember if you've changed your mind or do not agree on the things you previously agreed and came to terms with, you always have the right to leave.