Daddy doesn't like "little" activities

[manicpixidream]

so i apologize if this has been talked about before. feel free to direct me if it has. but my Daddy doesn't like watching Disney movies or anything and pushes back when i try to ask for them. i love him very much, but it's starting to get my nerves. i WANT to watch my little pony and tangled and sofia the first and stuff like that, but he doesn't EVER want to. not that i expect him to be super excited about it, but every once in a while. and when i do get a Disney movie out of him, he plays on his phone the entire time and doesn't pay attention. i know he's ADHD and stuff, so it's hard for him to pay attention even when it's like star wars or something, which he loves. but it still kind of hurts. so i guess i have two problems: how do i make it clearer that "little" shows are important and how do i explain that it hurts when he plays on his phone the entire time?

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

The fact he stays in the room with you means he wants to still be around you, but I don't know any man that would actively and happily watch stuff like that. You already know he hates it, so would you actually feel better if he tried to pretend he didn't?

On the other side of things, if daddy was watching something about engineering, I would be physically with him, but I certainly wouldn't pretend to even attempt to watch it, and he wouldn't expect me to.

[The Perennial Princess]

As others have said, there's an element of respect in the fact that he stays in the room. However, playing on his phone is disrespectful. Ideally, he should be happy that you are happy and find pleasure in that. So maybe make incentives for him to watch the movies....like baking him his favorite dessert to have through the movie or watching something he really loves the next day. I don't think it's unfair to expect our partner to be interested in the things we are interested in. That's part of the mutual, evolving experience.

 

I am thinking of this not just from a little perspective but a general relationship perspective. I love telling my papa bear about big girl novels I read. My papa bear isn't a reader but still gets interested and involved when I tell him about the story. Sure, it's an "adult thing" but it translates to little world....Papa should get excited and involved in Anastasia because I am. Do I expect him to be bouncing up and down with excitement? No.

 

Do I expect him to experience it with me? Yes. Why? It shows me that he is motivated to accept all of me. Obviously, it's not always possible in every relationship but that doesn't mean it's unimportant. You both need to change. You need to find something you can both relate to in little space and he needs to be motivated to be involved.

 

My best advice is to:

• create incentives
• explain to your daddy how his indifference hurts you
• compromise and do papa things with him and get genuinely involved in those things
• and explain your rationale for needing little space.