Is it odd to have a celebrity crush as an adult?

[Baby Bunny Boo]

Im not talking about finding them attractive i mean full on CRUSH. The more i think about it, it does seem odd. I recently watched a video about parasocial relationships and how unhealthy they can be. As a kid you don't realize this person will NEVER know you or want you. But as an adult it seems and feels wrong.

 

Edit: the proper word is called limerence apparently.

Edited November 3, 2020 by Baby Bunny Boo

[RainDoeSprinkles]

Aww! I think it's totally normal and healthy to have celebrity crushes! Why else would Hollywood always cast such attractive people in leading roles?

[LittleTeacup]

Well I've had one since 2017 (although I don't really think of it as a celebrity crush) so it better not be so strange  I'm well past the intense romantic feelings stage and I'm now just keeping him in my heart always and supporting him (he's a musician). Plenty of other adults seem to love him too judging from the comments on his social media posts. He's very kindhearted and I've been inspired to be a better person because of him. I was even able to recognize and accept being little because of watching videos of him dancing on stage (with beautiful non-choreographed childlike joy). His songwriting (i.e. poetry) captured my heart and who am I to deny that? I've learned so much about love, myself, and what I'd want in a future partner.

 

Remember that celebrities are real people too. And if one catches your eye from the way they speak or the bright smile on their face or their beautiful personality, then that's ok. Love is love. As long as you don't say mean things to their significant other (if they have one) or write creepy comments on their personal social media pages. Respect is paramount.

[Eminiee]

Well I've had one since 2017 (although I don't really think of it as a celebrity crush) so it better not be so strange  I'm well past the intense romantic feelings stage and I'm now just keeping him in my heart always and supporting him (he's a musician). Plenty of other adults seem to love him too judging from the comments on his social media posts. He's very kindhearted and I've been inspired to be a better person because of him. I was even able to recognize and accept being little because of watching videos of him dancing on stage (with beautiful non-choreographed childlike joy). His songwriting (i.e. poetry) captured my heart and who am I to deny that? I've learned so much about love, myself, and what I'd want in a future partner.

 

Remember that celebrities are real people too. And if one catches your eye from the way they speak or the bright smile on their face or their beautiful personality, then that's ok. Love is love. As long as you don't say mean things to their significant other (if they have one) or write creepy comments on their personal social media pages. Respect is paramount.

A little late but just wanted to say I completely relate to this, actually since 2017 as well   I feel the same but with my fav group BTS, they really taught me to love and accept myself and I actually found out about little space through their fans (found some rlly good little space fanfics), they're the same on stage to some songs they can be so childlike and they do a lot of mini shows where they do games like hide and seek also if you watch their fan meeting videos it's literally just them squishing plushies for 15 mins it's great. Also feel the same about their music, they all have a concept and they recently released one about quarantine which I loved. I have a big crush on all of them but particularly one who keeps saying he wants to be a dad someday he even bought little baby shoes and he's so goofy it's hard to not love that.   So def think it's okay no matter what your age to have crushes on celebrities just as long as you're respectful

[Kitten&Spice]

[Coco600]

I think it's pretty normal. And fine as long as people are aware that it's a fantasy. So not'odd' but on the flipside of that, it definitely can be harmful when someones mental health is not great, like if they are lonely or isolated, especially if they become fixated. Also 'hollywood', marketing and social media all feed into that, so sometimes it's good to reflect on why we are obsessing or crushing over something. I did it the other day where I found a youtuber who had like 6 years worth of vlogs, I stupidly binged watched them and got so caught up in his life and was so invested in him, and was like destroyed that he stopped making them! I had to take a moment. But even he said: you see what I want you to see and you see like 1/5th of my life. So I'd say, appreciate them, respect them and their work, be part of their fandom. But also be aware that you don't know them in their day to day, so don't fixate to the detriment of finding actual relationships. Disclaimer: I'm more likely to have book crushes than celebrity crushes.