When you love Daddy...

[PolyMolly]

Have any Caregivers or littles here had an experience where their little self really loves their Caregiver (or the other way around) and when you're little you want to say it... even though your Big self isn't "in love" with their everyday self? I'm still getting to know my Daddy and don't know him well enough / am not bonded enough yet to fall in love (although I could definitely see it happening down the road), but sometimes little me wants to say, "I love you Daddy!!" because I feel it when I'm little. I'm not saying I *will* say it or tell him about this (although I've thought about it because I think he would understand and not freak out and think it's cute). I'm just wondering if anyone else here has experienced this? And how did you handle it?

[ScarletBaby]

I can’t say I’ve experienced this per say, but I definitely am in the mind set that you should start by thinking about what’s holding you back on saying it. When you have somewhat of a handle on it, that’s when you should sit down and talk about it and explain as well as you can what you mean by it. You clearly at least love part of him, now it’s a matter of finding out what can get you the rest of the way or if you will. GOOD LUCK!

[Guest gakiusagi]

Hi Polly! I relate to your situation a lot. When my Daddy and I were starting out, I had a hard time keeping those words in when feeling little. And it eventually happened  

I think that's a normal situation, since you might develop attachment a lot faster when in tiny mode. At least for me, big worries are gone so I feel much less inhibited. Don't hold back and express your feelings, if they're true. You could also open up to your Daddy and explain the duality of the situation 

 

I hope things go well for you! 

[MissPattch]

I've told my Daddy i love him a few times now while i've been little, it just feels the natural thing to do. He cares for me when im big and small, but it means so much more when i'm little and vulnerable, and thats the only way i can think to tell him how much it means to me, when the grown up words aren't there in that moment. 

[PolyMolly]

  Thank you everyone. I appreciate these responses! It's also nice to know that other people have experienced the same thing!

[Daddyslovee]

I thought the whole point is to express unconditional love

how can you interact with your daddy without words of affection?

isn't this the whole point? why would you be with a daddy you don't love?

[PolyMolly]

I thought the whole point is to express unconditional love

how can you interact with your daddy without words of affection?

isn't this the whole point? why would you be with a daddy you don't love?

 

Well I don't know about you but I don't say "I love you" for the first little bit in a relationship. I only started dating him a little over a month ago! Love takes a little while to develop. I don't feel that for him yet when I'm big, although I know it'll happen. It's just very early. 

[Little kaiya]

Hmmm, it's an interesting question. I cant say I've ever had to deal with it as I personally wouldn't be sharing my little side and being vulnerable like that with someone I didn't love.

 

For me I dated people first as an adult, long enough to determine if I loved them before being little around them. I'm not sure I could differentiate loving someone when I'm an adult or a little which is why I'd need to love them as an adult first. That's just my personal perspective and experience though.

[Guest gakiusagi]

I thought the whole point is to express unconditional love

how can you interact with your daddy without words of affection?

isn't this the whole point? why would you be with a daddy you don't love?

 

I think you came on a little strong on a post of someone asking for advice. PollyMolly didn't say there weren't words of affection. And when you start liking someone, do you instantly feel unconditional love? I don't. Sometimes, and in most relationships, that's something that is built over time, not something that happens overnight.

And just to clarify, 'words of affection' is a very subjective term. To you, those three words might have the connotation of sweetness, but everyone has different love languages and ways to express themselves in their relationship.

[PolyMolly]

I think you came on a little strong on a post of someone asking for advice. PollyMolly didn't say there weren't words of affection. And when you start liking someone, do you instantly feel unconditional love? I don't. Sometimes, and in most relationships, that's something that is built over time, not something that happens overnight.

And just to clarify, 'words of affection' is a very subjective term. To you, those three words might have the connotation of sweetness, but everyone has different love languages and ways to express themselves in their relationship.

Thank you! Yeah it’s just still early to be in love.

 

Also just for context, I’m poly (in case that’s not obvious lol). I am in a triad ie. I have two nesting partners at home. I also have a bf. I love all three of those partners. Daddy and I were both seeking a DDlg and met on a dating app just over a month ago. I really want that dynamic and none of my existing three partners are into it and I was getting so sad and bitter without it. This means I can’t just start dating other people and taking months to fall in love only to find out that they’re not into DDlg. That happened with my bf but I love him so I’m not going to dump him just because his kink is different than mine. If I want to find a Daddy, that needs to be stated upfront and the main purpose of the relationship. Love May or may not follow. I hope that context helps explain where I’m coming from.