How easy is it for you to fall in love?

[potato]

Hello!!! I have questions!!! For littles, bigs, middles, everyone!!!

 

• Is it easy for you to fall in love?
• How fast do you fall in love?
• What are the factors for you to consider? (Be it consciously or not!!)
• How do you know you're in love?

 

Sorry if this is too personal or something! I'm just curious!!

 

My answers:

• I fall very easily in love!! I love everyone!!
• I fall in love immediately!! It's like as soon as I get to know a person I know if I love them or not!
• Their personality, how they treat others!
• I...don't... That's one of the reasons why I'm asking!!

 

Thank you to everyone who is willing to answer!! Oh and I'm sorry if I chose the wrong... Category? I'm not sure where to ask this!!

[baby_k]

Is it easy for you to fall in love?

      Not easy nor hard, it happens with right person after awhile.

 

How fast do you fall in love?

      Takes at least half a year.

 

What are the factors for you to consider? (Be it consciously or not!!)

      I don't think it is something you consider or choose. But of course I won't hang around person I don't like, so I won't fall in love with them either. People I like to be around are typically kind, unselfish, smart and accepting of me as I am ( + adoring me ).

 

How do you know you're in love?

      This is hard one. I think you sort of know when you are filled with this sort of overbearing gentleness and caring towards the person, so it almost feels like you are gonna explode. It also makes you accept the other one pretty fully. Or maybe that is just love, not so much 'being in love'. I also feel that there is component of "what would I do for this person, or for our relationship". When you truly, utterly love someone, there is not too many limits.

[Satan]

Is it easy for you to fall in love?

To fall in love is super hard for me. But I get infatuated with people from time to time. I will like them but its often short-lived because they can only keep up their good behavior so long.

 

How fast do you fall in love?

Slower than a snail. People often say things up front, I'm very cautious and allow time for their actions to show what's up. People can agree to whatever and never follow through so that's something to watch out for.

 

What are the factors for you to consider?

Do we have similar life goals. Are they okay with not having kids. Where do they want to live and why. What kind of retirement and end of life plans are they considering. When if I find someone I want to make sure those important things met.

 

How do you know you're in love?

When they piss me off and I only slightly wanna murder them.

[SweetiePieBabyBee]

It's so easy to fall in love for me. I get very clingy and attached.

 

So fast!

 

Am i getting enough attention, do they genuinely like me, do i genuinely like them, are they funny and sweet, etc.

 

When i find myself daydreaming about them <3

[CodeName: Trouble]

Is it easy for you to fall in love?

Yes, I do it constantly. I fall in love with a sunset or the full moon, the smell of the earth after it rains, a hot cup of tea - I fall in love with these things instantly and without regret.... People however, are another story entirely. I'm rather protective over myself and my feelings and while I'm friendly with everyone - I rarely let anyone even half that close.

 

How fast do you fall in love?

pretty slowly... and never on a whim. Thats what i like to tell myself anyways   I like to let logic run the show, so even if I do catch feelings for someone I quickly put them in their place. I wish I wasnt so guarded all the time - but when someone cares about me and sticks around long enough to show it I'll finally let my guard down.... and then I'm an absolute pile of mush. But they absolutely have to prove themselves first!

 

What are the factors for you to consider?

Definetly intelligence and emotional maturity. I can't stand to be around people who are into gossip or belittling others, and I need someone who is stimulating to talk to - otherwise I'd get bored almost instantly >.< a big thing I consider when deciding if I 'love' someone or not.... can I see myself with them in 5 years, and if so, what would we have to give up to get there? I could never fall in love with someone who wanted to live in the city, because I'd miss nature. and I couldnt date someone who hated children, because all I want is to be a mom. If I have to give up my dreams for another person, then thats not a love worth having in my book. 

 

How do you know you're in love?

 Its like... my soul is in a snuggie. Its warm and gentle and full and it brings both peace and unbelievable excitement. Its a sense of belonging, not in a place, but in another persons company. It feels like gravity. or like a spoonful of Nutella after a hard day at work. or like a hot tub in the winter. Its satisfying. Its having a person that doesnt exhaust me to be around. Its a best friend who I want to spend every moment with. Someone I dont feel like I have to entertain in order to keep them around, so just being comfortable and happy in quiet company. If I love someone I'd do just about anything to see them smile and succeed in life. Love is complicated, and sometimes scary, but mostly.... it feels like a soul snuggie. 

[Frog]

Is it easy for you to fall in love?

It used to be. Unfortunately I made some bad decisions so I'm very careful.

 

How fast do you fall in love?

With the first girl I fell in love with, it was slow. I thought I was in love with the last two I dated, but I later realized I wasn't.

 

What are the factors for you to consider? (Be it consciously or not!!)

How honest she is with me. Most of us tell little lies, but if it's something major I can't deal with that. She also needs to have a good heart.

 

How do you know you're in love?

I'm not really sure. With the first one I mentioned earlier, it was soon before I knew I had to let her go for her own good.

[DaddysMonkey]

Is it easy for you to fall in love? -

It is not easy at all for me to fall in love , let alone just like someone in a platonic fashion. I wouldn’t label it as difficult , but it’s definitely not easy either. I prefer it that way for myself , I’ve seen plenty of people say they fall in love after two days of talking to someone and a week later act devastated that they think their heart is broken which I’ll never understand.

 

How fast do you fall in love?-

Considering I find it difficult to love people in general , it is a slow process for me to fall in love. Ever heard of the Rabbit and the Hare ? Rushing is usually not a great thing.

 

 

What are the factors for you to consider? (Be it consciously or not!!)-

I suppose it depends on each individual, each person would show different pros and cons about their personality , and their morals and upbringing. My main factors platonic or not usually are as follows : Are you honest ? Do they start drama unnecessarily ? Is this person toxic ? Is this person selfish ? Is this person someone who only comes around when they need support , are they there when others need support ?

That might sound like a firing line of aggression, but after being hurt by really shitty people (platonic or not) you become more guarded. You question who is worth your time and worthy of your efforts. Basically , I don’t have time for toxic shitty people.

 

 

How do you know you're in love?-

Hmmm... whenever I have felt in love , it makes my stomach curl to think about them with someone else. I’ll usually ask myself , “if a zombie apocalypse happened right now , would I ditch them or keep them in my group or by my side?” I know that probably sounds silly , but life or death situations will show you very quickly who’s worth your time and who you truly love Also , if we can sit in silence for hours and it not be awkward , or be it without the stirring feeling of “I need a conversation right now.” If you can sit in silence for extended periods of time with your partner , that’s true love IMO. Hehe.

Edited October 27, 2020 by DaddysMonkey

[Guest Teasing Tink]

Is it easy for you to fall in love?

It depends on the person/context but I'm picky when it comes to people. I either feel it or I don't. 

 

How fast do you fall in love?

With my ex husband, we started off as frienemies (like a Pride & Prejudice dynamic   ) but after about a year is when I began realizing how he truly cared for me like no one else ever had before that. So the love basically slowly dawned on me after about a year of us being friends and that endeared me to him. I wasn't willing to reveal it at first though for fear of taking advantage because I knew he had feelings for me and I suppose I wasn't sure if I was just falling at first because I had been hurt by other people. But nothing like a dark time to make you come to realize and appreciate someone true. 

 

With my current partner/Daddy, I started falling for him within a month of talking to him. There was an instant familiarity and chemistry there that I couldn't deny. When I began getting strong urges just to hold him out of deep care and desire, I thought maybe I was going mad and feared maybe I was just getting swept away by infatuation. So I tried to temper my feelings but the feelings never dissolved as time went on with us being just friends, they only got stronger as I got to know him more and more. Connections like that are soulmate connections to me. I believe my former husband was a soulmate as well even though the dynamic was different, we're on the same wavelength so to speak. They say there are many kinds of love in this world but never the same love twice and that tends to resonate with me because each person is unique so it follows that each dynamic with different people will be different.

 

What are the factors for you to consider? (Be it consciously or not!!)

I'm quick on realizing my own internal feelings, but very slow to reveal them or truly act on them because I don't want to fall in love with an illusion or it just to be infatuation. So I do tests to check that. I also test people for trustworthiness and compatibility because there are predators in this world, you can't be too careful. Are we truly as aligned as we seem? Or are there things I am missing? I get as much data as I can before I truly make a decision on someone's potential as a mate. My Daddy let me do all of those things and was happy I did so because it meant my safety would be ensured.

 

How do you know you're in love?

I think everyone experiences it differently, but I definitely get very warm and fuzzy feelings when I think about that person.  I deeply value them (and this is reciprocated) and like everything about them. I want to please them, impress them, protect them, care for them and intensely merge with them.

Edited October 27, 2020 by Teasing Tink

[PolyMolly]

Is it easy for you to fall in love?

 

Very easy. I love many people and I'm also poly so legit romantically love a number of people.

 

How fast do you fall in love?

In relationships I often fall in love when we've been dating between two and six months. If I'm with someone six months and haven't fallen in love with them yet, it's never going to happen. I can usually tell almost immediately if there is the potential for me to fall in love with a person. The fastest I've fallen in love with someone was three weeks after I met them, and we have been together twenty years now.

 

What are the factors for you to consider?

Honestly, I love without factors or condition. Like I said, I'm poly (not that all poly people are like that). But I let myself fully feel love, whenever I feel it for someone. And if it's possible, I let them know my feelings. Life is too short to not fully experience and share love.

 

How do you know you're in love?

I don't really have specific criteria. I just feel love! Once I feel it, I know, and then I almost explode while I try to decide the right time to say it. I usually don't wait long but also some people get freaked out by it - and  I want to make sure the person knows they're not obligated to say it back, or feel it, just because I do.

[princessfreckles]

Is it easy for you to fall in love?

Honestly, no. I've never been in love before after 32 years on this earth. I've almost exclusively been hurt by people I've been sexually or romantically involved with. I also have a lot of issues with my own family, so I never felt very loved or valued there either. So it would take a lot for me to trust a person, let alone fall in love with them. It would take a lot of patience and understanding on the part of the other person.

How fast do you fall in love?

Given my lack of experience with love, I'd say it's pretty difficult to nearly impossible. As I mentioned, nothing but hurt and pain has influenced my ability to give and receive love. I've built up some serious walls to protect myself, so my guess it would take much longer than the average person to fall in love. 

What are the factors for you to consider? (Be it consciously or not!!)

Do I trust the person? As in trust that what I share with them won't be shared with some one in casual conversation. Do I feel I can be my true self as opposed to the façade that I wear when around people? Are they unashamed of their attraction to me? Specifically are they willing to hold my hand in public, be okay with posting the occasional pic on social media where people we know will see, will the person introduce me to family and friends as their significant other as opposed to just a friend? Do I want them to meet my chaotic family? These are people that are mostly loud, obnoxious, and in the case of some people toxic. Do they respect my set boundaries and limits, and not try to violate them? 

How do you know you're in love?

If I see myself building a future with the person. If I actually want to open up to them. A new thing I recently realized, if I genuinely worry about them. I noticed that if I care about someone, then I feel anxiety for them. If I don't care about them, I honestly don't care one way or another about what's going on in their life. If I know the person won't leave or abandon me after a disagreement or if I mess up. If they see my flaws, acknowledge that I'm working on them, and still want to be with me. Basically if the person makes me feel that I am enough. I haven't been on the receiving end of that sort of acceptance too often in my life. 

Edited November 7, 2020 by princessfreckles