Guest borderlineophelia Posted October 25, 2020 Report Posted October 25, 2020 Hiya!! Does anyone else struggle with the idea of spanking punishments? As a nonsexual little who has a sexual kink for spankings outside of littlespace, it's hard to put myself in the shoes of a little who enjoys/is okay with spankings. My daddy would only spank me if I were above 9 in little age, wasn't sex repulsed (because I am very easily), and really needed it for being a brat to him or putting myself in danger. If any of you are nonsexual littles too, how do you deal with punishments? If you get spankings, do they make you sad and feel bad for what you did like a punishment is supposed to? Do they hurt your feelings? Am also scared it will trigger me since I have trauma with spankings as a child, and from an ex "daddy" who was my main abuser... Let me know what you think!
baby_k Posted October 25, 2020 Report Posted October 25, 2020 People like different things. If you don't like or want spanking, don't have them. There is no "rule" that being little with daddy means that you need to go through spanking punishments. Some want them, like them or even need them but not everyone. You seem to have lot of reason, and really heavy reasons, for not having spankings as punishment ( especially the trauma thing AND you being afraid ). So, really, you don't have to invent way to "deal with them", just don't have them. And yes, it is fully up to you if you have them or not. That stuff requires concent from you.
Guest Choco Princess Posted October 25, 2020 Report Posted October 25, 2020 Spanking isn’t one of my punishments when I’m naughty, because I love spankies, for me it’s not used as a punishment.
MissPattch Posted October 25, 2020 Report Posted October 25, 2020 For me, spanking can be a sexual kink AND a punishment. It's the intent behind the action that separates them for me. Daddy makes it clear when the incoming swats are not for my pleasure :/
ScarletBaby Posted October 29, 2020 Report Posted October 29, 2020 If I were in your position I’d probably choose not to have spankings at least in Little space and never for punishment. The dynamic is heavy on consent and if you’re not comfortable with consenting to spankings as a punishment then you should talk with your Daddy so you can figure out better alternatives such as lines or something so you don’t struggle with something triggering for you.
Guest borderlineophelia Posted October 31, 2020 Report Posted October 31, 2020 If I were in your position I’d probably choose not to have spankings at least in Little space and never for punishment. The dynamic is heavy on consent and if you’re not comfortable with consenting to spankings as a punishment then you should talk with your Daddy so you can figure out better alternatives such as lines or something so you don’t struggle with something triggering for you. I agree with you. I think that it's good for fun times like impact play which I'd already only do outside of littlespace.
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