Non-sexual Little?

[BabieFae]

I have been in the community since I turned 18. So only around 3 years. I’m still a newb and learning new things everyday... one thing I have learned about myself is that I don’t feel comfortable being sexual in my littlespace.

 

Does anyone else feel like that?

 

I continue to do my research on things like agere and ddlg to figure out where I fit, but is a label necessary? I feel like I don’t fit in anywhere bc I am little bc it is a coping mechanism, but also bc I like being cute and small... it’s entirely frustrating because I feel invalid without a place.

 

If anyone feels similar or has information to share please let me know (〃ω〃)

[Lollipox]

It’s just called bein a non-sexual Little. Most Littles since tumblr kicked everyone out, are proudly non-sexual.

If it’s just a coping mechanism and not embedded in your personality, that’s fine too

That’s just generally how it’s referred to. ^-^

 

But if it’s regression, then I think that’s agre rather than bein a Little. I’m not sure though.

People throw labels n terms around so much that they become meaningless, so then it’s hard to self-identify and figure out what you’re all about by yourself.

 

Tldr; is okay and you’re not alone.

[Vampiress]

It is important to know if you are an age regressor at least because that is a very different community that involves zero kink and includes minors, because age regression is a psychological thing that they cannot control and therefore cannot consent to anything. Non-sexual littles who aren't age regressors may still participate in the power exchange dynamic which is still considered kink, even if it doesn't include sex. The age regression community in general does not want the CG/l community to interact with them at all, which is fair, especially because of the minors.

[DerbyNerd]

It is important to know if you are an age regressor at least because that is a very different community that involves zero kink and includes minors, because age regression is a psychological thing that they cannot control and therefore cannot consent to anything. Non-sexual littles who aren't age regressors may still participate in the power exchange dynamic which is still considered kink, even if it doesn't include sex. The age regression community in general does not want the CG/l community to interact with them at all, which is fair, especially because of the minors.

Excellent points! 

 

A good way to try and tell if you're agere or little is if you can go into and out of little space of your own free will. Maybe try keeping a track of when it happens and noticing if you were in control or not. It's completely alright to go into little space as a coping mechanism and its still little space. 

 

Think of it this way, me as a little is having some little space time when the phone rings, its my work and I realise that big me has to deal with this so I step out of little space and take the call before going back into little space if I feel like it. To my understanding someone who is agere wouldn't be able to do that. 

 

As for being non-sexual it's totally ok to be a non-sexual little, many of us aren't sexual in our little spaces. But as Vampiress says CG/l even if its non-sexual has elements of power play. 

[princessfreckles]

Little space is such an individual thing. What little space looks like for you, is unique to you. Some littles are sexual while in little space, but the majority of littles I've met irl hate the idea of introducing sex while in little space. So you do what works best for you in little space! If that means coping with grownup stress and blowing off steam, by all means be little and doing your favorite little things. Just because it doesn't involve sex doesn't mean it's any less valid, it just means sex and little space aren't for you. 

 

Labels for every single thing in kink can feel overwhelming. Personally I see labels as a general way to express interests in as few words as possible. I'm a middle, submissive, princess, and masochist. Four words that give a person a general idea of my interests, but upon conversation will learn more detail about what I like and why I consider myself those things. Should they be interested enough to learn what else I like. For you, you could simply express being a nonsexual little. Like I mentioned, the majority of littles I know aren't sexual while in that little mindset. So two words tell a person something about you, however then you can explain a bit further what you mean should they want to get to know you and learn more.