Would a daddy?

[Cher Bear]

I have a question for Daddy's out there, and littles too. I'm a little of an age range of 3-7 I have been harassed in the past. my body type is one that garners attention and not always positive.

 

I was visiting my others in my poly relationship. The daddy always walked really fast. Always like 10 ft ahead and I asked my sissy how she kept up with him and she said she didn't.

 

When I brought it up later that night he got mad and said it was his natural gate and how was he supposed to change that!? And I said I was scared and worried when he was that far ahead. and he said it didn't matter if he was right next to me or 10 ft ahead if someone wanted to kidnap me stab me or do whatever they could do it.

 

Of course I started crying and he got mad.

 

Is that the actions of a daddy?

[Little kaiya]

It's less about are those the actions of a Daddy and more are those the actions of someone you want in your life. You, I and others don't get to define if that person is a Daddy or not BUT I for one sure as heck wouldn't want to be involved with someone who acts that way.

[Guest princesslovelace]

Ohmigoodness thats terrible!! To me if I were in that situation, I would automatically assume he wants nothing to do with me or I would almost feel as if he's ashamed or embarrassed to be with me. How long has he been doing that for? Always? I think that's very toxic behavior of him, saying he doesn't care what happens to you. 

 

Sweet pea, daddies do NOT act like that. Aren't they suppose to be kind-hearted and loving towards us? If he keeps that attitude up I think it's for the best you're not involved with him anymore

[Alaskan Daddy]

this daddy showed you who he is. It does not make him a bad daddy. What it does show that he might not be the daddy for you. From what I understand from your posting is that he told you, 'this is who I am and how I act, so you can take it or leave it'. I don't see him changing. You will have to decide if this is how you want to be treated. As a daddy I have been asked to change the way I act as a caregiver by different littles. The caregiver inside of me is who I am, just as the 'little' inside of you is who you are. When ever I was asked to change, it made me realize that this was not the right little for me and I was not the right daddy for her. If I had stayed, I know I would always be walking on egg shells. What you need and desire from a daddy maybe something this man cannot or will not give you. I hope my message makes sense. Good luck with everything.

[Cher Bear]

It wasn't a "you should change because this is what I want." It was me as a little asking her daddy to walk by her cuz she was scared in an unknown territory

[Alaskan Daddy]

It wasn't a "you should change because this is what I want." It was me as a little asking her daddy to walk by her cuz she was scared in an unknown territory'

 

I understood what you wanted from him. I am not saying I agree with how he responded. I know I would have been more loving and understanding to your fears. I feel his response to your concerns was very cold and not very understanding of your fears. I also know you were just asking him to be more considerate of your fears and to try to understand your fears. What he said was 'this is how I walk and even if you were right beside me bad things could still happen'. He basically told you, "I am not going to change how I walk because it won't make any difference anyway'. What he didn't realize is that it would make a huge difference to you.

[Cher Bear]

It wasn't a "you should change because this is what I want." It was me as a little asking her daddy to walk by her cuz she was scared in an unknown territory'

 

I understood what you wanted from him. I am not saying I agree with how he responded. I know I would have been more loving and understanding to your fears. I feel his response to your concerns was very cold and not very understanding of your fears. I also know you were just asking him to be more considerate of your fears and to try to understand your fears. What he said was 'this is how I walk and even if you were right beside me bad things could still happen'. He basically told you, "I am not going to change how I walk because it won't make any difference anyway'. What he didn't realize is that it would make a huge difference to you.

 

I see, I understand, my apologies. We did break up. Not because of that one incident. There where many like that and I realized I may love him but we aren't good for each other. It was almost like he enjoyed until it was the hard times. Like little lows and tantrums. We didn't meld, buy I did want insight and you've helped a lot thank you.

[Kitten&Spice]

Sweetheart that is not the actions of a Daddy at all. If anything he was being a complete asshole for saying those kind of things and completely disregarding your feelings. If I were you I wouldn’t give him the time of day and run from this. It would be best to not let someone like that hurt you in such a way and honestly hearing his response pisses me off. He doesn’t care and for him to just let you go and get upset with you for feeling like a person is outright ridiculous. You deserve better then that! Edited October 20, 2020 by CatboyAdrian

[DollDirector]

I agree with CatboyAdrian these are not the actions of a daddy. Maybe the guy is immature and ashamed or whatever.

 

 

I guess you were outdoors and in little space.

Of course we change our behavior in such circumstances. I remember years ago an event, vanilla people passing by, noticing my behavior; I was in daddy space walking by the side of a little walking on a low wall: I was so obviously keeping an eye on her !

[Vampiress]

I'm glad you ended it if it wasn't working out for you. He doesn't sound like a very nice Daddy. Seemed to show zero concern for your fears or needs. I hope in time you find someone else who treats you with a lot more concern and compassion.