Advice for consoling my little space after a breakup?

[PrincessCiara]

Ok so me and my then daddy ended things just over two months ago. Things had been bad for months before we broke up though so I'm finding it pretty easy to move on be ok with it but I feel like my little space isn't. Whenever I feel little I just don't understand where my daddy is or why he had to leave and I've tried reminding myself but just end up having a bad panic attack. I've tried different ways to go half into little space and try heal but it doesn't work. I have such turmoil inside me from the little space being so unhappy and its really starting to affect me. I've started isolating myself from other because I just don't have the energy to be around people with this sadness in me, I've started having almost nightly break downs over this awful feeling all the time. I just don't know what to do like I really do feel like the break up is for the best and I'm happy it happened but I just cant seem to console my little space. Does anyone have any similar experiences or advice?

[SmolAetherr]

it occurs to me that despite you saying you are finding it easy to move on, you really are not you are still in

grief about not having a daddy, give yourself more time.

Edited October 18, 2020 by Aetherr

[Guest DaddyPines]

Inevitable... We miss what comforted us, what we don't have. Been there recently! In a few months the open wounds will close and heal and you will feel a bit better or you won't. Generally though time helps numb the pain. That and another person to take the place of the one lost.

[Kitten&Spice]

I could be wrong but I think that your little space is possibly releasing some suppressed feelings. Although logically you understand that it was or the better you also had a form of attachment. I am sure you had feelings and that you cared for this person. I think rather then attempting to fix your little space it might be best to just let it all out and try to allow your little space to grieve over the loss.

 

I believe that once you are able to get past the grieving stage you can finally adjust your little space to something more positive. Know that you are better. If anything try to find solitude and joy in your littlespace. Value things that you may not have been able to value when you were with this person. Do things that makes you genuinely happy and know that it will all be better now. You can even show your little space that you can be just as happy without him and that you have done an amazing job so far without help! Depending on the age you can consider it an acknowledgement to be able to grow and learn. Maybe reward yourself for doing a good job standing up for yourself.

 

I myself know how much it hurts to lose someone and have to let go of someone who ultimately held me back. It just takes time and I promise it will get better! I hope you find that happiness again!