Fakes and liars

[Guest Daddydesistyle1]

Hello family,

I want to get this of my mind and heart. Why there are so many fake, show offs and liars are in this forum. First of all we are part of BDSM community which is not big to start with on top of that we are a small family of DDlg section. Please leave us alone if you want to scam please go some place else. Also, to all little and daddy’s why is that no one wants to give time to develop the relationship why every thing has to be instant, can we just take time to know each other. As a daddy it is my job to show good path to the little, even if you just want to enjoy each other’s companies you need few weeks to months.

Am I too old school to say this or I am wrong all along, please help.

[Kitten&Spice]

Preach! Like I agree with you one thousand percent on this! I think it is hard to find people who want to take things seriously! Sadly it just seems to be a normal pattern for people regardless of where you are at and what you are on. Good example is tinder. The amount of people looking for one night stands is shocking but it’s the cruel reality! However there is a lot of littles and daddies who do take things seriously like you! So don’t lose hope! I have met several wonderful people on this forum that don’t sit and fool around! Just keep looking and you will find them!

[Guest Daddydesistyle1]

Preach! Like I agree with you one thousand percent on this! I think it is hard to find people who want to take things seriously! Sadly it just seems to be a normal pattern for people regardless of where you are at and what you are on. Good example is tinder. The amount of people looking for one night stands is shocking but it’s the cruel reality! However there is a lot of littles and daddies who do take things seriously like you! So don’t lose hope! I have met several wonderful people on this forum that don’t sit and fool around! Just keep looking and you will find them!

Thanks dear, I am a old school Daddy Dom (44 to be ..Ouch)  I have been a daddy since internet was a dial up lol Yes I will keep trying   

[Guest Vampire]

To be honest, there's fakes on lots of websites and forums and tinder isn't really something to compare to, 90% of tinder is for onenightstands and only 10% of people actually go in a relationship and that's predictable because the whole app is based on shallowness. As I have been on several websites, forums, discord channels, chats, I can instantly see if someone is being genuine or just bullshitting around or trolling or preying or lying. For people that can't see this I would just advice not to interact with people that your gut feeling says that they're bad, just base yourself on Red flags and that will do you some good to avoid any weird people. Some people are just bitter with life and just enjoy being assholes so yeah it's pretty sad but there's definitely people here that are worth your time and that are pretty chill, you just need to find them. Also very important, don't be an asshole yourself. Sometimes it's your own behavior that makes people not like you, I'm not particularly talking about you but sometimes if you get a negative reaction from a lot of people then maybe you're doing something wrong yourself. So try to objectively keep that in mind. 

[ScarletBaby]

I can't speak to liars and fakes since I haven't been on enough I feel to really experience that. Personally I would love to find myself a forever Daddy who wants to guide me as his princess towards keeping both of us on our best paths through life. While I'm not currently looking due to a recent breakup, when I do go looking for a relationship, its always a search for the long term that leads to forever. Though I acknowledge I'm also a hopeless romantic so I try to be an optimist when it comes to the future love in my life. It may be old school to hope for that great love, but old school isn't always bad, it frequently evolves to include the new while keeping the old values. I'm a firm believer in time and patience, even when I'm running out of that patience.

[Vampiress]

We live in a time where things are always instant and on demand, and people seem to think of relationships the same way. It can be hard to find a partner who values taking time like you do, but you can usually see early on what someone's intentions are and what's important to them. Perhaps try with an older little (30s+) if you haven't already and see if maybe their needs will align with yours as far as relationship development goes? Sometimes the younger people just lack the relationship experience and don't really know what they want or how to go about properly developing a relationship.

[Guest Daddydesistyle1]

I can't speak to liars and fakes since I haven't been on enough I feel to really experience that. Personally I would love to find myself a forever Daddy who wants to guide me as his princess towards keeping both of us on our best paths through life. While I'm not currently looking due to a recent breakup, when I do go looking for a relationship, its always a search for the long term that leads to forever. Though I acknowledge I'm also a hopeless romantic so I try to be an optimist when it comes to the future love in my life. It may be old school to hope for that great love, but old school isn't always bad, it frequently evolves to include the new while keeping the old values. I'm a firm believer in time and patience, even when I'm running out of that patience.

See this is what I am talking about I am a hopelessly romantic daddy, I dont care about your age, race, sex preference.  I am looking for a honest, faithful and trustworthy person those are the true values and every person should have this.  I mean if you just want to "FUCK" just say it and end it. 

[Guest Daddydesistyle1]

We live in a time where things are always instant and on demand, and people seem to think of relationships the same way. It can be hard to find a partner who values taking time like you do, but you can usually see early on what someone's intentions are and what's important to them. Perhaps try with an older little (30s+) if you haven't already and see if maybe their needs will align with yours as far as relationship development goes? Sometimes the younger people just lack the relationship experience and don't really know what they want or how to go about properly developing a relationship.

Naaa see this is what you are getting me wrong its never about the age, why are we making it about age.  Yes, the time has changed and where I am today there will some one else standing and saying the same thing.  I am really worried that this one night, quickly  named disease in to this life style, this is still in pure stage. 

[Vampiress]

Naaa see this is what you are getting me wrong its never about the age, why are we making it about age.  Yes, the time has changed and where I am today there will some one else standing and saying the same thing.  I am really worried that this one night, quickly  named disease in to this life style, this is still in pure stage. 

 

I bring in age because the younger generations have literally grown up with this, and the older ones at least were exposed to a time where everything wasn't so instant or on demand. Also, I don't think this is just in this community. It exists everywhere, in all forms of kink and even in vanilla relationships. As my Daddy said, that's why Tinder exists pretty much. That's why it's so popular. People claim they want one thing, but all they go for is shallow stuff on the surface. They go for what's easy.

[DollDirector]

of course there is an age question in the sense that it takes time to find out, to be sure, to admit to yourself, what your tastes and possibilities are. this applies to about anyone as Vampiress says. 

 

[Guest Daddydesistyle1]

The more I think the more I agree with both of you. I do need to change with the time. Well let me try

Thank you family

[Kitten&Spice]

I sadly agree with Vampiress that most people around my age are just more highly focused on sexual gratification over an actual relationship. I even had friends try to pressure me into getting one night stands and tell me that I should at least sleep around to get some experience. I have had a majority of friends my age go from boyfriend to boyfriend and just use guys as a way of pleasing themselves or to have them as a form of therapy. I know it is bad to make it about age but it is a cruel reality that most people within a certain age range focus primarily on one thing and not seek an actual commitment.

 

It isn’t impossible to find people in their 20s who seek relationships and seek commitment but it is rare. However I can’t say that every older person isn’t the same way. I just think that if you see signs immediately in the first few messages it is easy to map them out. One thing I always do is to refuse sending any kind of photo until I have talked to them for awhile.

Edited October 15, 2020 by CatboyAdrian

[Guest dreamgirl]

It's always disappointing to try to get to know people on here and learn that they're not in it for the same reasons as you. It's a part of putting yourself out there, and it sucks. I try to just look for warning signs early on and spend time on the people who seem legit. 

[ScarletBaby]

I do agree that llooking at age could help. I'm sad to admit it but it's hard for me personally to think of being with someone who is physically old enough to have been my actual father. This is just a prefrence for me and it comes from how I was raised. While I'm a Little and age isn't as important because of that, I grew up in a very tight knit family and that just made it really hard for me to see myself with med who are older than my brother. I think 8-9 years older might be my limit. Not all of us young people feel the same, and I have no problem with relationships that have a wider gap, it's just not my thing and it's potentially one of the walls that you've been hitting. I could be thinking too hard though. As a fellow hopeless romantic I wish you the best. Stick with it, I'm sure you'll find your forever Little. who knows, maybe adding an extra limit for yourself will help with it one day. Keep your spirits up!

[Guest Daddydesistyle1]

Thank you all for the reply and comment. The age old question still remains how do you know who is worth your time or not, also I might think that I click with some one and two days of good healthy chat I get blocked (no reason given, no questions asked). I would never close a chapter on such a small window give some time to grow. Why every one wants instant even a baby is born in nine month and you want a friendship to grow in hours. Who brought this mentality to this culture and what is the coast of it in the end and who will pay for it. I think that this running around is making new age girls and guys less sensitive toward every thing and that is the reason we have lot of mental issues in a relationship

[Erasmeus71]

There are rules in here. Yellow flags and red flags. For example in a hurry to want to do something instantly. I have ran into them. Believe me you give them rules they run off. They are not into just keep talking before getting the rules. 2) Trying to get you to get you on another site like discord because you have these rules here. One girl got me into discord. Then wanted me to send money to her. If this was a she! All I know it could of been Nigerian. They sent me messages at 2am and 3am in morning when they darn well know should of known I was asleep because of my epilepsy. Add 9 hours to 2 am it is 11am Nigeria 3am my time it is noon. It made me suspicious. I did not want to talk to them again. This person that got me on discord. I have not seen that name in here since!

[beanbean]

Lol the internet makes it easy for for trolls and bad people to get on here and cause havoc, and yes they take advantage of the desperate people wanting things now . Take your time getting to know people trolls get bored

[Taggy]

On 10/16/2020 at 8:25 PM, Guest Daddydesistyle1 said:

Thank you all for the reply and comment. The age old question still remains how do you know who is worth your time or not, also I might think that I click with some one and two days of good healthy chat I get blocked (no reason given, no questions asked). I would never close a chapter on such a small window give some time to grow. Why every one wants instant even a baby is born in nine month and you want a friendship to grow in hours. Who brought this mentality to this culture and what is the coast of it in the end and who will pay for it. I think that this running around is making new age girls and guys less sensitive toward every thing and that is the reason we have lot of mental issues in a relationship

It's so difficult to know who is really into you and who not and who takes the time to get to know you and who doesn't. Last year I had a great time with a girl I met. She invited me to her housewarming party and two days later she said that everything was on hold and ignored me for more then a month. Then she was back with apologies and how she had a hard time and didn't want to ghost anyone. I gave her the benefit of the doubt but after a couple of days she ghosted me again. Never heard from her again. I literally spend days scrolling through the text messages to see if I said anything wrong. It took me months to get over it and still have difficulties trusting new dates.