How to find a daddy

[Guest KittenForever]

Hello, I've been a little and middle for a few years now and I am struggling to find a daddy. So was wondering what my options are?

[Guest Vampire]

I just wish you good luck, honestly don't have advice apart from: talk to people and find someone you vibe with/are compatible with. Communicate!

[maddycakes]

Hmm..Have you tried going to any in-person events? I've personally found that it's much easier to form a connection with others when there is not a screen in the middle. Not to say that you can't, but it's much harder to feel someone's vibe through a computer (ie. why we have catfish and such). Obviously I don't know where you live so you could be very far from any ddlg munches/events, but I'd say if that's an avenue you have not yet pursued, you should at least look into it. Additionally, in some places (like where I live...) there are no ddlg-specific events, but some of the general bdsm munches have pockets of ddlg folks that attend, so that's another option if you don't have any ddlg events close to you. 

 

If you are only trying to find someone over the internet, I would say that the best strategy is to befriend some experienced mentors, both littles and daddies, who you can bounce ideas off of and talk to about potential Daddies you meet, because a lot of the time they will be able to easily tell if the person is worth your time and teach you to do the same. Mentors can also give you constructive criticism about your approach: maybe you are coming on too strong, or you are too reserved and not saying enough to let someone know you are interested; maybe something in your profile is attracting the wrong kinds of people and you can tweak it a bit; maybe you have been contacting people who are looking for different things than you and you just didn't realize it. All of these things could be helped by a good mentor (or a few!). 

[AsleepAndDreaming]

If I was you, I'd put a post up in the Personals section. Try and include as much information as you feel comfortable with, such as age (little if you know it, as well as big), location (for example the state if you're in the USA or the nearest big city if you're in the UK), but also the things you like and what you're ideally looking for. This can include both physical characteristics as well as mental ones.

 

Whenever I check out the Personals section, the posts that grab my attention are the ones where the person makes an effort - where they try to tell the reader something about themselves and where I can get an idea of their personality. For example, if you're a quiet person who likes staying in and having cuddles and watching Disney movies, let people know. But equally, if you're a bit of a party animal and think you need someone to calm you down (or even party with you?!?!) then it's beneficial to tell people because you want to try and generate genuine replies from Daddies who will understand and empathise with your personality.

 

Once you have some replies, my advice is to be careful. If you feel someone is being inappropriate or too forward, that person is not the right one for you. Go with your gut and identify people you want to talk with and over time you will hopefully find someone where you're messaging endlessly and never stop talking. The rest should follow naturally..... 

[Guest KittenForever]

Hmmm. I've never been to an event. I'm definitely going to try that out though. Thank you for the idea

[Guest KittenForever]

Thanks for the help. Y'all are great

[Accountable Daddy]

This is admittedly a very hard question. It's going to be just like general dating where either you're going to have a great experience or a horrible one.
As much as I want to support the idea of a local meetup group, these can be hit or miss. I've been to a couple of munches in different areas. My first one was nice, but very clique based. The second was a smaller group, but I didn't feel I fit in at all with them. The third...I'll just say I would strongly advise anyone going to that particular group. If you do go to one, it's fantastic if you have a friend to go along with. And if you don't have a friend, it would be nice to reach out to a couple of people who do go to a local munch and so you'll have some familiar faces and a level of comfort. And frankly single young women tend to be the center of attention in these places. It's a good idea to also remember these events almost never have any sort of screening process, so when someone does approach, treat them as if they're a stranger and not vetted by anyone (because usually they're not). That said, don't feel you have to hide away. These groups can be very welcoming and warm.

 

Of course there's online. Not much to add that AsleepAndDreaming hasn't covered. You won't get the same feel for someone as in person, but it's also convenient. And don't be afraid to reach out to someone you're interested in in the personals. Unlike a flirty glance across the room in real life, if you don't do something to catch someone's attention, they very well will never know you exist.

[maddycakes]

Hmmm. I've never been to an event. I'm definitely going to try that out though. Thank you for the idea

No prob! If you want advice or to ask any questions about events, just shoot me a friend request and we can chat!