I think my new daddy isn't right for me.

[Tatertot.1999]

I'm brand new to the ddlg community and My new daddy seems really nice, but it feels like everything has happened way too fast. He lives in England and I in the US. I also feel he may be a little older than I'm okay with. He's 37 while I'm 21. He's also jumped right into the sexual part and I don't feel ready. He seems nice and genuine. I don't know what to do. Help! Edited October 7, 2020 by Tatertot.1999

[SmolAetherr]

honestly its easy, if it feels too fast it probably is so ask him if you two can slow things if he is the one for you he will respect your desire, if he gets upset or desrespects your need to go slow then you know he isnt for you

Edited October 7, 2020 by Aetherr

[RoraDaExplorer]

I would ask to slow back down, and accept what could or could not happen. Dating is hard in general, add ddlg to it and it got harder, then add distance and it genuinely feels impossible.  I wish you the best and hope you can find security and comfort in this new relationship. 

[Somewhatdiscreet]

It feels like you already know the answer to your question to be honest.

 

Yes, 16 years is a monumentally huge age difference, if you were 31 and he was 47 it would be a bit different since generally you'd have hit most of the same developmental milestones that he has, but you're 21, probably in college/uni and still aren't sure what you want to do for the rest of your life whilst he's probably just getting by, paying rent, working like he has been for nearly  half of his entire life now etc. Yeah, you are young enough to realistically be the same age as a hypothetical daughter he's had.

 

If you feel like things have happened too fast, they probably have. If you dont feel ready you to do sexual things you shouldn't do it, not to please him or to even just not upset him. At the end of the day you have to look out for yourself because nobody else will. The fact you're asking these questions indicates you already feel like something is "off", trust your gut.

[ScarletBaby]

If you feel like your Daddy isn't right then that's how you feel and you should respect that. Definately ask to slow down if you think he could be right for you given more time to get comfortable. The age thing I can definately get, the 8 year difference between me and my former cg was on the edge of my limit too, but ultimately only you can judge if that's worth it for you in the end. Hope everything works out.

[Accountable Daddy]

I'd say you already gave yourself the answer to it.

Personally I wouldn't be in an international relationship. I want to be together and the immigration process takes a long time, is costly, and in many countries it's possible to get permanently barred from the country. Not to mention the time zone difference.

That sort of age gap isn't unusual or wrong, but if you're uncomfortable with it, then that's a personal preference and nothing wrong with having an issue.

I don't like when it's sexual quickly. That's definitely one area I get concerned about, but again that's personal preference and it's hard to say that's right or wrong. You should talk to him about that.

[Kitten&Spice]

I hate to say it but if he is jumping into things too fast then he probably isn’t there for the right reason. I have seen an awful lot of people who will use these sights as a quick fix for their sexual needs and not here for the right reasons. Regardless of rather they are a little or a dom it does happen. So it will probably be best to tell him that you need to slow down and that it is just going to fast. Just know that there is a lot of Doms out there and finding the right fit is always better found with time!