Hiding who you are?

[Guest Daddy'sSweetGirl]

I'm new to this forum and site, but everyone seems super friendly so I am wondering if any littles feel the way I do. I have a wonderful daddy that I have been married to for over a decade and we have been daddy and babygirl for the past five years. No one knows that however and I feel like whenever I see my family or his family, even my closest friends (I only have two true friends I can call my own) I am hiding a part of myself that's so important to me. They have horrible misconceptions about the lifestyle (it got brought up when my mom saw ddlg clothing on Amazon).

 

Because of the awful things they think, I ended up crying myself into a panic attack after they left and daddy thinks that it's just something we will never be able to reveal about ourselves. In addition to that, we are Christians and were told that anyone in this sort of lifestyle is going to rot in hell. I don't believe that either, but it made me so sad. Daddy and I used to struggle with being in this lifestyle with our religion, but we are ok with it now. I just struggle with not having anyone besides daddy who understands. I am always terrified I'm going to slip and let someone know and then I will lose my family. I even made a separate account for writing because I was terrified someone would recognize me through that. 

 

Sorry to ramble on and on, but are there any other littles who feel like this? Like they have to hide who they truly are?

 

 

[ScarletBaby]

I think we’ve all felt that at times to different degrees. My family can be pretty accepting, I acknowledge that I’m lucky in that sense, but it’s not something even I feel comfortable discussing with them. Finding cgl friends can help a lot. And the more you’re on the forum, the more you’ll find others like yourself. We all hide parts of ourselves, it’s just a matter of which parts and who we feel comfortable revealing what to. I hope you find a way to make this work without stressing you out around others. In the meantime I find the forum comforts me when I’m stressed, maybe it’ll help you a bit too.

[Guest fhihfidhfd38478]

I'm so sorry that you feel this way! I'm a (rather militant, frankly) atheist, but I remember when I was religious it was something I struggled with. I think I understand how you feel -- for a lot of people, this is a lifestyle, not just a kink. There are a lot of nasty misconceptions out there.

 

I can't tell you if being "out" is the right thing for you. I'm a transman from a very conservative family and I still struggle getting them to say my correct name. This is even more taboo. I'm sorry that I can't offer more advice, but I know you're not alone. Your family might reject this part of you, but that doesn't mean they reject all of you. I've had to accept that myself. It's hard, and it hurts, but some things people just won't understand. 

 

If you ever need to reach out, I'm just a DM away! <3

[Guest Daddy'sSweetGirl]

Thank you both for responding to this. It really made me feel a lot better. Basically the way we function is we get to be ourselves around each other, but hide ourselves around others. Like I love when he orders for me, but it makes his mom get upset so around her, I order for myself. Or I keep my voice controlled and quiet around family. (Little me loves talking a mile a minute and being VERY loud )

[Dino-Daddy]

Im sorry that you struggle with it. Family can be a pain in this way specialy in your situation.

Friends are oftern easier in accepting you for who you are and what you are.

If not they are not real friends in my book.

Just be yourself and stay true to that and your beliefs.

As a Christian you wil know that all good things can be shown and if you respect others as yourself thats all that matters.
And as long as your Daddy and you are happy and content in your private life then i would not worry to much. You your Daddy and your relation is the most important.

 

Also most people think they know what its about but they dont , let alone understanding. Liek said before , comming out in any way of form is always a problem for people who can not understand or wont, its more theire problem then yours so let them not make it yours.

 

Be good and safe

[baby_k]

. I am always terrified I'm going to slip and let someone know and then I will lose my family. I even made a separate account for writing because I was terrified someone would recognize me through that. 

 

Sorry to ramble on and on, but are there any other littles who feel like this? Like they have to hide who they truly are?

 

People are selfsentered, so you once doing something "strange" probaby would be unnoticed. People say stupid and silly stuff, and that is all what it is: random stuff that doesn't really matter. I'd recommend trying to see this more as personality thing than any "weird kink". There is plenty of people who for example love video games, are bit childish, or are bossy ( meaning they tell their partner what to do or are decisive for them ). None of that is linked with ddlg, just...  people being people.

 

So, I think you are making this a lot bigger fear in your head than what it actually is. People don't go around trying to see if you are part of ddlg, and trying to catch you from behaviours that would indicate it. If you consider how some parents deny their child being for example homosexual even after the ( adult ) child has told them it clearly, so yeah... People see what they want to see and what they expect. I doubt they want to see you as little, so it most likely wouldn't even come into their mind.

 

Anyhow, if it would some weird way come out that you are little, just own it. It's who you are and be proud and content about yourself. But I highly doubt that would ever happen as even if they found your little gear or whatever, there is plenty of more liable reasons why you have that then connecting you to some random specific kink.

 

About hiding who you are: it may feel like it sometimes but then again there is often plenty of things we "hide" from others. Bedroom or bathroom things being some of them. It's more like common curtesy to do so, as no one wants to know about those things about others. It gets too... private. Try to consider if others WANT to know that stuff from you instead of thinking just you. And remember that people have right to have opinions and reactions, so we can't expect them to think ddlg is great and awesome and all nice things. They have right to consider it as twisted and horrible, AND on top of that not be betterly informed or learn about it. It's not great but reality is what it is.

[Guest Daddy'sSweetGirl]

Definitely great points to think about. For me I know that being little is apart of who I am I just know that others twist things and make good things ugly.  But it is true also that somethings are too private. I think though that I'm going to try not to worry as much if I can help it. I usually worry myself so bad. So your right in that I might be worrying so much for nothing. I love being little so I should own it like you guys said.  

[RainDoeSprinkles]

I am a Christian too, and married to Daddy! Like you, I guard my privacy since it is so easy for uninformed people to misunderstand and be judgmental. I have varying degrees of how much of my littleness I will show, depending on the environment and the people who are around.

There are alot of fun ways to be a stealth little! Daddies can be stealthy too! I find my faith and the DDlg lifestyle to be very compatible! PM me if you'd like to chat!

[Bearly]

I was raised Christian and honestly, as long as you're true to each other, whatever 'weird' stuff you're into as a couple should have no bearing on your afterlife. It might be good for you to look for potential friends within the community (local, if you can) so that you aren't completely alone, because the people in your life are far too judgmental. What's that old saying? "Don't judge a speck in someone's eye when you have a log in yours," or something like that.