Healthy relationships/dynamics

[Darling_little]

Edited September 28, 2020 by Darling_little

[Alaskan Daddy]

I am glad you shared everything you did. There are many littles that want and desire the things you have with your daddy. The rules you described help most littles feel loved and cared for.  As in any relationship your partner will never know your needs and desires unless you ask for them. I can tell by your words that your daddy makes you feel loved and special. It made me smile to read your posting. As a daddy I have always tried to have rules when they were wanted to fit the needs and struggles of my little. I hope your posting blesses and gives  the same warm feeling to everyone who reads it as it did me. Good luck in your relationship

[ScarletBaby]

My Daddy has verry vague rules too. Be respectful and behave for the most part. Be honest about certain things and tell him about them. Other than that though all his 2 sheets of rules are basically the same and things I usually do anyways. I'm not one for rules just to break them either so it can be hard at times. But I'm currently not sure of the level of healthy relationship that it could be called. I know I'd like rules that make me feel safe and cared for. I'm happy that seems to be the case for you. I wish you the best with this relationship.

[Summavibes98]

My Daddy and I are also working on our rules right now. At first I didn’t think I needed them but then came to realize I did for both my own structure, and also to feel closer to my Daddy. He’s finishing his part of them tomorrow and I’m excited to see them.

And I love that you found that intimacy and communication with your daddy <3

[Accountable Daddy]

I know I have a habit of saying someone "is good" when they apologize or the like. One thing I mention early on in a relationship is it's very hard to bug me. My first little we set up rules and two are related to this: first, "spamming" messages is perfectly fine. I wanted to make it clear she can send me 20 messages in a row without my replying and it won't be an issue at all. I never wanted her to feel like she couldn't reach out to me. And the second was we would let each other know if either of us would be unavailable if we knew ahead of time, and if possible when we'd be available again. Just this week I've heard two people in another group I'm with mention their partner took off and didn't say a word to them. That's something I just couldn't do. I know I'm very affectionate myself though, so I can't speak for what others want when it comes to how much attention is too much.

I think for a lot of people they like aspects to the DDlg relationship, but don't want to make it formal, like with rules. You just feel each other out and know what is okay and what isn't with each other in those instances and I'm guessing that's what he's after. Which I think is great. Definitely happy for you in having a relationship that's working well.