Been in DDLG for 9+ months and now Daddy has LS?

[raebvby]

Hey guys, I'm new here. So, me and my boyfriend have been in a nice, safe, comfortable ddlg relationship for 9 months and some change. Well, we took a small, much needed break for a month. Now that we're back, he has told me that he has both a little space and he is liking being a sub every so often. I'm used to being the sub all of the time, and the little, and I've never been a CG. I've also been a dom a small amount with one person before him so I'm not as experienced there either. I love him and I'd love to be able to do this for him. Any tips/suggestions/advice?

Edited September 17, 2020 by raebvby

[SmolAetherr]

before we can honestly advise on anything you need to take time to figure out if being with a switch is something you can deal with and if the idea of being a little with him or being his mommy/domme is something you are interested in

 

dont stay when you are not happy he will know you arent happy so make sure you know what you want.

[raebvby]

before we can honestly advise on anything you need to take time to figure out if being with a switch is something you can deal with and if the idea of being a little with him or being his mommy/domme is something you are interested in

 

dont stay when you are not happy he will know you arent happy so make sure you know what you want.

Me and him have been trying with it for the past few days and we're both enjoying it so far, my only issue is that I am more submissive than dominant, even though I identify as a switch. I am confident that I want to stay with him and I want to do this. 

[Guest Prat]

Just take your time and keep at it. That's the best way to nurture that side of you and develop as a caregiver. Talking a lot with your partner is also what would benefit your development best.

I'm open to offer my experience in the role if you'd like, just add me and send me a message and ask anything you want to.

[LeanBlaster]

i think the best person you can ask to is actually your boyfriend! by what you said you are both switch, its okey you feel you dont know much, everyone has to start somewhere but you have to be sure if you think you are someone that can handle being on the dom position, because you know it can be a direct hit on the one in the ittle position, but i think you will be okey if you want to do it, the best person is indeed your boyfriend because he is also your daddy, so while not on the dynamic, open talk with him, tell him what you are nervous, afraid, uncertain, ask him things you might need and want to know! talk it out, he is your daddy and your boyfriend he wil hear you out and support you almost for sure, its for the best of both of you after all! i hope everything goes smoothly and work out!

[Vampiress]

Communication is going to be important and expressing yourself and when you need a break from the Mommy/Domme role. Sometimes I've seen people here have a partner who changed like that and over time the formerly Dom/Domme partner wants to be little more and more until they're no longer Dominant at all and it becomes harder on the person who was originally the sub/little to begin with. Make sure to express it's important that you also like and prefer to be sub/little and that you need your time or turn as well.

[raebvby]

I understand that communication is important, and we do communicate about it often. Except whenever he is in subspace, his communication is squeaks, squeals, whines, etc. So I try to talk about expectations for me whenever he isn't in littlespace or subspace, and he doesn't want to talk about it. Every time, his answer is "Just do what I do to you and think about it." And he is a lot rougher as a dom/daddy and I enjoy that. However, I can't do that. I get off on being hit, not hitting. Being tied, not tying, etc.