Do I fall under Age Regression, Age Play, Both, Or Neither??

[OrbyCake]

I need some help! I've been struggling with my identity as a Little and I was hoping ya'll on here could maybe help me out? Y'know, help clear things up? Tysm in advance!!

[OrbyCake]

 Once I receive a couple replies, I will elaborate further. ^-^ 

[junebug0325]

Heya! 

 

I might be able to help! I consider myself both an age regressor and an age player. If you want, we can talk in pms instead of in the comments. 

 

Just let me know what works for you!

 

 

 

 

Junebug x.

[OrbyCake]

Heya! 

 

I might be able to help! I consider myself both an age regressor and an age player. If you want, we can talk in pms instead of in the comments. 

 

Just let me know what works for you!

 

 

 

 

Junebug x.

 

Hiya~

Thank you for the reply.

 

I will keep this topic up on the wall for others who choose to reply, I sincerely appreciate your willingness to help tho! And I will send you a pm shortly.

[Frost Evergarden]

You don't need to limit yourself to only any one label. there are many kinds of littles.

 

there is no true way 

Edited September 18, 2020 by Frost Evergarden

[LeanBlaster]

Heyy, you are a little, that is enough, your identity is a "little" and that is all you need, you can identify if you are sure you know wich it is, but if not... that is alright too! you dont need to be sure to be a little, you dont need to know your little age to be a little, you are you and your only little self, that is your identity c:

[Vampiress]

It depends on what being little is like for you. Age regression is a psychology/medical term and ageplay is not.

[OrbyCake]

Heyy, you are a little, that is enough, your identity is a "little" and that is all you need, you can identify if you are sure you know wich it is, but if not... that is alright too! you dont need to be sure to be a little, you dont need to know your little age to be a little, you are you and your only little self, that is your identity c:

 

Thank you LeanBlaster, 

 

You give wonderful closure.

 

 

You see, I have done plenty of research on Age Regression and Age play, the contrasts and similarities. I have discovered that there is such thing as nonsexual Age Play, but at that point I feel as though nonsexual Age Play back to back with Age Regression are nearly identical!  It is very frustrating because while one can be part of multiple communities, I don't think I fit into either category, not even somewhere in between.

 

But it is very possible that there is information I'm not aware of here.

 

And yes, I know that you have already stated that labels do not really matter. But both communities have such precise rules  . So for example, I could say I'm a regressor but if it turns out I'm not, genuine regressors may feel taken aback since I am claiming an identity that isn't actually mine.

[LeanBlaster]

Thank you LeanBlaster, 

 

You give wonderful closure.

 

 

You see, I have done plenty of research on Age Regression and Age play, the contrasts and similarities. I have discovered that there is such thing as nonsexual Age Play, but at that point I feel as though nonsexual Age Play back to back with Age Regression are nearly identical!  It is very frustrating because while one can be part of multiple communities, I don't think I fit into either category, not even somewhere in between.

 

But it is very possible that there is information I'm not aware of here.

 

And yes, I know that you have already stated that labels do not really matter. But both communities have such precise rules  . So for example, I could say I'm a regressor but if it turns out I'm not, genuine regressors may feel taken aback since I am claiming an identity that isn't actually mine.

Yes i understand, but that is still okey, you dont need those specific rules, you can have your own rules! you dont have to worry too much, you know many littles start not feeling little  because they overthink their safe space because of the many lables... 

 

you are Orbycake and you are a orbycake little, my best advice is to not over think and follow your heart really, if people say you are not a real "anything" you say you are your way of that anything, what matters ifs you being comfortable and happy, i dont think your happy place should be so stressing just dont make it stressfull and do it the way you like!

[Vampiress]

It is important to know if you are a regressor if you're intending to interact with the age regression community on social media because they do not want to be interacting with age players most of the time, they don't want any kink involved whatsoever. You have to be careful about crossing those lines or they get upset. That's why the label IS important for the safety of the regression community.

 

There is another topic about this specifically:
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/49196-ageplay-vs-ddlg-vs-agere-vs-abdl/

[LeanBlaster]

It is important to know if you are a regressor if you're intending to interact with the age regression community on social media because they do not want to be interacting with age players most of the time, they don't want any kink involved whatsoever. You have to be careful about crossing those lines or they get upset. That's why the label IS important for the safety of the regression community.

 

There is another topic about this specifically:

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/49196-ageplay-vs-ddlg-vs-agere-vs-abdl/

In this case yes its important indeed but if its just between you and your caregiver then its up to you! 

[OrbyCake]

So labels do matter and I need to have one or else people will get upset with me??

 

Oki doke. :/

[Guest fhihfidhfd38478]

So labels do matter and I need to have one or else people will get upset with me??

 

Oki doke. :/

 

Hey!

 

Labels are important because they let others know who we are. Age regressors are people who regress for a psychological or health reason, where as ageplay is a choice and a fetish. There is non-sexual ageplay, and ageplay and regression can look very similar, you're absolutely right. Age regressors sometimes have no control over their regression and can use this as a response to trauma or stress. Ageplay, however intrinsic to one's personality, is a choice that is actively being made by an adult. Even in a situation between a caregiver and their little, the distinction is important to make. People who are in an active state of age regression can not consent to sexual activities. It's very important for your caregiver to know that, for your own safety.

 

The distinction is important to make because regressors who are in active regression are essentially minors in kink - which we all know is not only against the forum rules but is immoral and illegal. The age regression community involves both minors and adults, where as any safe ageplay community involves only adults.

 

If you would like to know more, the link that Vampiress provided is a good one; there are outside resources linked towards the end as well. If you have any other questions, you can always PM me! <3

 

There's nothing that says that you can't be both! But if you aren't a regressor, please stay away from that community as it isn't healthy to expose minors to ageplay. 

[OrbyCake]

Hey!

 

Labels are important because they let others know who we are. Age regressors are people who regress for a psychological or health reason, where as ageplay is a choice and a fetish. There is non-sexual ageplay, and ageplay and regression can look very similar, you're absolutely right. Age regressors sometimes have no control over their regression and can use this as a response to trauma or stress. Ageplay, however intrinsic to one's personality, is a choice that is actively being made by an adult. Even in a situation between a caregiver and their little, the distinction is important to make. People who are in an active state of age regression can not consent to sexual activities. It's very important for your caregiver to know that, for your own safety.

 

The distinction is important to make because regressors who are in active regression are essentially minors in kink - which we all know is not only against the forum rules but is immoral and illegal. The age regression community involves both minors and adults, where as any safe ageplay community involves only adults.

 

If you would like to know more, the link that Vampiress provided is a good one; there are outside resources linked towards the end as well. If you have any other questions, you can always PM me! <3

 

There's nothing that says that you can't be both! But if you aren't a regressor, please stay away from that community as it isn't healthy to expose minors to ageplay. 

 

Thank you for the great advice, it is much appreciated.

 

 

What you have stated above is actually the heart of my problem here lol.  I only discovered the AgeRe and Age Play community in late 2019. I am considerably new to all this terminology and to be honest it's a bit overwhelming. Anyway, I don't think I actually know what regression would even feel like to have. I could be falling into a young headspace and not even fully realize it!  I'm familiar with the youthful feeling, innocence, vulnerability, and,,,eh. teeny tiny? it's a bit hard to explain that last part, hope it makes sense! 

But then again, I might be experiencing some sort of nonsexual ageplay and not realize either. Since I've read that nonsexual ageplay can be used as a de-stresser, a soother for anxiety and/or depression, a way to fulfill one's desire of reconnecting with the beauty of childhood, etc., etc. And that sounds so much like Regression so at this point my brain fries whenever I try navigate the differences I can take note of since everyone's Small experience is different .

 

I don't want to join one community then find I don't belong there, so I join another and find I don't belong there either. I know that there is nothing wrong with finding yourself and and self discovery and all that jazz (as long as you aren't hurting yourself and/or others), but wouldn't want to join the AgeRe community only to find that I am part of something else! As I know that many Age Regressors are sensitive towards anything of sexual nature, which I am a decent enough human being to respect. I wouldn't want to accidentally cause anybody distress, even if my intentions are innocent/pure and of no sexuality, people can still get upset or offended or even experience a ptsd trigger. I've had those before, they are definitely not  cotton candy and balloon poodles on a brisk sunny day.

 

Ah, anyway! I am drifting off topic here. 

 

I am really confused and a tad stressed about navigating myself through all this. AgeRe is on thing and Ageplay is another, but there is nonsexual age play which is even more similar to age regression! I don't know how to tell which one I actually am. And since labels matter so much in this situation,,,I don't know where to go.

 

It's all so very frustrating. 

[Guest fhihfidhfd38478]

Thank you for the great advice, it is much appreciated.

 

 

What you have stated above is actually the heart of my problem here lol.  I only discovered the AgeRe and Age Play community in late 2019. I am considerably new to all this terminology and to be honest it's a bit overwhelming. Anyway, I don't think I actually know what regression would even feel like to have. I could be falling into a young headspace and not even fully realize it!  I'm familiar with the youthful feeling, innocence, vulnerability, and,,,eh. teeny tiny? it's a bit hard to explain that last part, hope it makes sense! 

But then again, I might be experiencing some sort of nonsexual ageplay and not realize either. Since I've read that nonsexual ageplay can be used as a de-stresser, a soother for anxiety and/or depression, a way to fulfill one's desire of reconnecting with the beauty of childhood, etc., etc. And that sounds so much like Regression so at this point my brain fries whenever I try navigate the differences I can take note of since everyone's Small experience is different .

 

I don't want to join one community then find I don't belong there, so I join another and find I don't belong there either. I know that there is nothing wrong with finding yourself and and self discovery and all that jazz (as long as you aren't hurting yourself and/or others), but wouldn't want to join the AgeRe community only to find that I am part of something else! As I know that many Age Regressors are sensitive towards anything of sexual nature, which I am a decent enough human being to respect. I wouldn't want to accidentally cause anybody distress, even if my intentions are innocent/pure and of no sexuality, people can still get upset or offended or even experience a ptsd trigger. I've had those before, they are definitely not  cotton candy and balloon poodles on a brisk sunny day.

 

Ah, anyway! I am drifting off topic here. 

 

I am really confused and a tad stressed about navigating myself through all this. AgeRe is on thing and Ageplay is another, but there is nonsexual age play which is even more similar to age regression! I don't know how to tell which one I actually am. And since labels matter so much in this situation,,,I don't know where to go.

 

It's all so very frustrating. 

 

I understand how you feel. The ageplay community is so diverse that there is such a wide breadth of experiences to draw from. For example, one of my mostest favoritest people in the whole world, Sassafras Lowery (don't worry they are very out, I'm not outing anyone) says that they experience littleness all the time and they don't necessarily feel they have a "littlespace." For other people, it's a very distinct headspace. I akin it to subspace, which is the headspace in which one is a submissive. For some people, these are cut-and-dry separate experiences for scenes, and for others, even those outside of a 24/7 dynamic, they may feel like they're constantly in a service or submissive mindset. I personally fall somewhere in between - there are times where I definitely feel more little and days where I struggle to feel that way at all, but I also try to incorporate my littleness into my daily life. You should do what feels most comfortable for you.

 

There is a fairly bold line between a regression headspace and an ageplay headspace, however. I am someone who experiences both, and I can tell you that they are very different in feeling and nuance. Personally, I only experience what is known as (I don't like this term, just btw) "impure regression" from some unpleasant childhood experiences, and my regressive state is typically non-verbal, scared, and filled with anxiety. There are lots of people who regress and have a wonderful time - I am just not one of those people. The easy way to tell the difference is to ask yourself - do I actually feel like a child? Can I do adult activities - cooking, driving, having sex? If you can, you aren't regressed, you're in an ageplay headspace. If you can't, or you can't even wrap your mind around the concept, you are probably regressed. Regression is typically associated with mental illness, trauma, or some other health condition. It isn't something that typically occurs in a healthy mind and body, and you will typically regress to the age of an infant, or the age in which that trauma occurred. If anyone would like to skim over a medical case study, I've found an adequate one here: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4578899/ (SFW)

 

If you take a look at that article, you'll see that this individual's experience varies terribly from the average ABDL. This is an extreme case, and many people experience much less acute forms, but this is the face of regression that some people have to see. This is why ageplayers and age regressors need different spaces. 

 

BDSM and all of it's lovely flourishes can be used to de-stress, much like you can with just plain old sex and masturbation. My own littlespace personally does not remind me of much of my own childhood, but that's purely anecdotal. Everyone's experiences are different. A little is an individual who is capable and old enough to consent and identifies as a little. There are no baby police here. <3

 

Edit: I keep forgetting to designate my links as SFW or not, sorry mods!!

Edited September 19, 2020 by yesdanithemani

[junebug0325]

Hey!

 

Labels are important because they let others know who we are. Age regressors are people who regress for a psychological or health reason, where as ageplay is a choice and a fetish. There is non-sexual ageplay, and ageplay and regression can look very similar, you're absolutely right. Age regressors sometimes have no control over their regression and can use this as a response to trauma or stress. Ageplay, however intrinsic to one's personality, is a choice that is actively being made by an adult. Even in a situation between a caregiver and their little, the distinction is important to make. People who are in an active state of age regression can not consent to sexual activities. It's very important for your caregiver to know that, for your own safety.

 

The distinction is important to make because regressors who are in active regression are essentially minors in kink - which we all know is not only against the forum rules but is immoral and illegal. The age regression community involves both minors and adults, where as any safe ageplay community involves only adults.

 

If you would like to know more, the link that Vampiress provided is a good one; there are outside resources linked towards the end as well. If you have any other questions, you can always PM me! <3

 

There's nothing that says that you can't be both! But if you aren't a regressor, please stay away from that community as it isn't healthy to expose minors to ageplay. 

 

I think this is a wonderful reply in regards to the difference between Age Play and AgeRe. 

 

I'm a big fan of "labels don't define you", I think in this case, in terms of communicating with your partner it's important. The Age Play and Age Regression communities are separate for a reason, and it's a very important reason. Getting to know the difference between the terms, the communities, and people within those communities is important.

 

I just want to say that I'm glad this forum exists so we are able to educate and be educated about terms that are confusing. And also talk about it with others that are going through similar experiences. Thank you for posting this topic and I hope that by talking to others that you come across the answers that you are looking for.

 

 

 

 

Junebug x.

[OrbyCake]

Aw man, the more I learn about all this the more confused I become. ._.

[Bearly]

OK here's a simple way to look at it.

Do you regress against your will, are you unable to consent when regressed, and does your mind truly feel like a child's mind when regressed? If so, that's age regression.

Do you like to feel little, for fun, and can generally get yourself into or out of littlespace, especially based on if you want to be in littlespace or not? Do you like being treated little? If so, that's ageplay.

 

I was recently confused about agere, too, and that's what I could gather, more or less. I have no sexual interest in CGL but I learned that I didn't really fit into agere groups, as those also tend to have minors because they try to distance themselves from kink as much as possible. But it's ok to be a little who isn't an age regressor but also has no sexual interest. You could still be into AB/CGL, too.

[Guest fhihfidhfd38478]

OK here's a simple way to look at it.

Do you regress against your will, are you unable to consent when regressed, and does your mind truly feel like a child's mind when regressed? If so, that's age regression.

Do you like to feel little, for fun, and can generally get yourself into or out of littlespace, especially based on if you want to be in littlespace or not? Do you like being treated little? If so, that's ageplay.

 

I was recently confused about agere, too, and that's what I could gather, more or less. I have no sexual interest in CGL but I learned that I didn't really fit into agere groups, as those also tend to have minors because they try to distance themselves from kink as much as possible. But it's ok to be a little who isn't an age regressor but also has no sexual interest. You could still be into AB/CGL, too.

 

I really appreciate that input! You're much more concise than I am. 

[OrbyCake]

Thank you all for the lovely replies. It's so reassuring to know that one can open up and ask questions without being bashed and/or judged on this forum.

[Guest fhihfidhfd38478]

Thank you all for the lovely replies. It's so reassuring to know that one can open up and ask questions without being bashed and/or judged on this forum.

 

Always! This is a place for people to learn and grow. <3

[Kitten&Spice]

I think the important part is to know what happens to you when you go into little space. Those who do age play have the capabilities to go in and out of the head space. I think of it a lot as roleplaying! Although we may change a bit we are still completely aware of what is going on and we can make the decisions to stop and continue. We are capable of giving consent as an adult. Age playing can be sexual, no sexual, and both.

 

As for age regressors their minds regress to a younger age. It is not something that they themselves can flip on and off like a switch. It is not something that is easily controlled and due to that consent is NOT present! You can not give good conscious decisions and lack the ability to decide when something is not allowed and when it isn’t. It can be extremely damaging to a person if any sexual acts are committed with in this and thus they should be treated as if they are an actual child.

 

I agree with what was mentioned before me and it is extremely important to know which you are! I am glad that you were able to ask this question and it can save a lot of problems in the future that could arise if not addressed! Hope this helped a little!