Broke up with my first daddy

[Asani13]

Hello.

I would like some opinions please. I started dating my first daddy ever last year and just recently broke up with him for a few reasons. 1 he never let me meet any of his friends or family and barely spoke to anyone about me. Made me feel like he was hiding me and didn't really want people to know (he is wayyy older than me). 2, I think I have codependency issues and thought that I should take care of that before I could continue being with him.

Now I feel like my little side is breaking cause big me made that decision and I am left without a daddy I was wishing for for a long time.

[Guest fhihfidhfd38478]

Hey Asani,

 

I'm really sorry to hear that. Age difference relationships can be really difficult, so don't feel too bad that it didn't work out. It doesn't mean it isn't hard to handle, especially if your little side is having trouble handling it more than your big side. But being in a relationship is an adult decision, and it sounds like you made the right one.

 

I'm afraid I don't have too much advice, other than you should never be with someone who isn't proud of you. You should take care of yourself first before you move onto a relationship, especially a relationship with that dynamic. It really sounds like you did the right thing. If you ever need to reach out, that's what we're here for!

 

Stay strong, you got this! <3

[Guest rainbowglo]

Hi Asani,

 

I know it can be hard to be on your own when you're used to having a caregiver. Even when you know deep down they weren't really providing the care you needed.

 

I made a pact with myself long ago to not be someone's dirty little secret. I had let people hide me with promises that "soon" they would introduce me to their friends or family. One guy promised these things and ended up being married! (And this was an in person relationship where I saw the guy almost every day, sometimes twice a day, meeting for breakfast and bringing him lunch at work...) You just never know... If you're being hidden, there is probably a reason.

 

You're not an object. You're not a fleeting fancy. You're a human being, a little.

 

You are worthy of being known about. Love deserves to be shouted from the rooftops, even if you can't quite scream out "This is my Daddy!!!" You should be able to casually say "Hey, see this awesome guy over here? He's mine!!!"

 

Hopefully someday soon you might find a guy that deserves your dedication... But until that day, affirm yourself and focus on recognizing your true intrinsic value.

 

I wish you all the best!

[LeanBlaster]

Heyy Asani,

 

I am sorry to hear about that, i know how that feels and its not good, but let me tell you, you will heal, you are a good person that was on a bad situation, it is not your fault and will never be, you deserve someone that is happy to have you and officially tell that they are with you! you are not just someone to be kept on the pocket..

 

i know it hurts, i was on the same situation but on the other side of the line, i know hurts being treated like we are just holding that place since they woudn't let others know we existed.. but you will find someone that will apreciate you and make you understand what you actually deserve, and when that time comes it will be worth it you will see..

 

so i would recommend you to just breath out, heal, make a little list for yourself and take care of yourself till that day come, cry if needed there is nothing wrong with crying if it hurts, just be yourself! 

 

And dont forget, you did nothing wrong!

[cellie2020]

Awww, so sorry, Asani!  Give it time and you will heal.  Sending love to you <3

[MasterPhotog]

Asani, 

I'm sorry that things didn't work out well with your first Daddy and you ended up breaking up your relationship with him for good reasons. 
I'm sure you will meet the right Daddy who will be honoured and proud of having you as his little. In the meantime, continue to stay strong and proud of yourself. 

Feel free to let me know if I can be of further help or if there's anything you want to talk about. 

MP

[Asani13]

Thank you so much. I am so grateful for your responses. Those last few hours have been highly trying and I honestly don't know how I am going to get over this, but you guys definitely give me hope. It's one thing to do what's necessary and what is right and another to no longer have no one care if I go to bed on time, tell me I've done well, or to say good morning to. I think it's the small things like these that hit me so hard. Can't wait for this to be over. Thank you so much