i'm losing my self respect and wiling to let anyone be my cg at this point

[Pink Plushie]

this isn't a personal ad, more of a vent i guess. i'm just so lonely and sad all the time. every time i regress all i can think about is someone taking care of me and telling me nice things. but then i remember i have no one and at this point i'm so desperate for someone to care for me i dont care who it is anymore. i dont care if i put myself in danger or if someone takes advantage of me anymore. i just want to feel cared for and like i'm worth ssoomething to someone. i only had one cg before and they did such a bad job and it was such a short and disappointing experience it hurt little me a lot. i used to have standards but whats the point anymore i'm so lonely. i just want someone to hold me but its never gonna happen

[WhysperKit]

Hey chika <3 I've been where you are and it's such a tough spot. But you have to remember that you're worth so much more than just any CG that comes along. You deserve to have what's best for you. My inbox is open if you need to talk at all, I've got Discord if that's easier. Just don't undervalue yourself, 'kay? You're worth so much and you're so amazing. I promise you there's the right CG out there for you, yall just haven't met yet! Your ex sounds like a piece of work, but don't let him sour what makes you happy. I know you're lonely but try to make some good friends. Perhaps they'll help you along until you're in a place to have a proper CG care for you. Head up, mkay? Your tiara might slip.

[Danny]

I hope this doesn't come off harsh but you should never rely on others for happiness. It's always nice to have others care for you and be with you but it's also equally if not more important to be comfortable being alone as well. Just keep being patient with yourself! Take things slow and if you need friends there are plenty of nice people on here! If you ever feel lonely I'm always open to chat with anyone 

[Kuromi]

I have felt like this many times. But there is something you should know, and always remember.

 

Finding your own happiness, and learning to love yourself first, is the key to success in finding a relationship.

 

It might sound ridiculous, but I really do mean it. I haven't been in a relationship in the past 3-4 years, because I was still trying to discover myself, to find out what I truly like and what I want in a relationship. It took a lot of heartbreak, many, MANY tears and nights of crying. Till I eventually found out what I really wanted. And that was for someone to love me for me, and want me. To want me to be happy. To want to see me and be with me.

 

But before that can happen, I had to start by loving myself first. I had to realize, this is what I want, this is what I NEED for me to be happy. Before anyone can love someone else, they need to love theirself FIRST.

Please, please do not let anyone use you. It hurts so much and it will make you so unhappy. Please take your time and do things for you that make you happy. If you love to cuddle with stuffed animals, then do that, do anything that makes YOU happy. It might be hard right now, but it will get better within time, please do not give up, and keep trying to do your best!
 

[Satan]

Not worth it. Being lonely is far better than having to deal with someone below your standards. Respect yourself and stick it out for your own sanity.

[RavenclawPrincess]

I agree with what others have said here. Being ok on your own is so so so important to be able to set yourself up with good, positive relationships.

 

The only thing I want to add is that I'm going to advise you to be skeptical of any friend requests that you get as a result of your post. I could see some unsavory characters taking notice of your feelings and attempting to take advantage of your emotionally vulnerable state. Watch your back and be careful

Edited September 13, 2020 by RavenclawPrincess

[Little kaiya]

Letting just anyone into your life, especially when you've said you're feeling vulnerable, is a recipe for disaster. It will almost inevitably lead to more heartache, harm and loneliness in the long run.

 

Learn to take care of yourself and love yourself first, then look to bring someone else into your life.

Edited September 13, 2020 by Little kaiya

[Guest Teasing Tink]

You're lonely for the right type of care though, not more heartache -- and that's why it's worth keeping your standards -- because dishonoring them doesn't get you what you want either.

 

It may sound lame, but whenever I've been lonely, upset or going through a crisis, I start parenting the "little" inside me by saying nice things to her and encouraging her. You don't need to wait around for someone to say nice things to you: be the person who learns how to build yourself up. Perhaps it's cheesy to say, but you can really be your own personal hero and the person you desire. Sometimes when we're lonely we're just lonely for ourselves and that wonderful feeling that comes from truly accepting one's self.

[Frost Evergarden]

I know how that feels, even if it has been years since I felt it. I know words won't really help but you matter more than you could ever know and deserve only the best. one day someone will come along and make you forget the bad that has happened but until them please try to treat yourself like the treasure you are.

[Guest Vampire]

Only thing I want to say is that you need to watch out, you're showing yourself to be very vulnerable atm and you saying that you're okay with being taken advantage of, is going to attract some weird people. You don't want any of that believe me, so stay safe. I know you're in a dark place atm and you need attention but you should not seek it from total strangers that will actually take advantage of you. I've seen some good advice from the others so definitely read it. Good luck and stay safe, try to make some little friends and try to seek help from your irl friends or family if possible. 

[RainDoeSprinkles]

 

You are loved!

Edited September 13, 2020 by RainDoeSprinkles