Tips for a new daddy?

[Guest lucasdaddy0806]

Hi. I’ve just like very recently gotten interested in this. Does anyone have tips for how to become a good daddy? Just even a few tips for now would be appreciated

[Guest Vampire]

I think there's a lot of tips on the forum already for beginners, you should go check out the "DDLG discussion" forum, the"caregiver cafe" forum and the"sex and health" forum. They are all on the home page. If you want to understand more of the struggles of littles and how you should support them and so on, you also have the "Little space" forum where mostly littles talk about their experiences, pleasures and problems. I think it's quite insightful. Good luck on your journey to becoming a good caregiver. 

[Guest lucasdaddy0806]

Alright thank you!

[Guest Dandy Blob]

My tip is don't rush into anything. That seems to be a thing here, people rushing into a relationship after barely talking a day & not taking time to get to know each other first.

[RavenclawPrincess]

Don't assume that you magically know everything (what your little wants/needs, what rules and protocols will work best, how to solve a problem with the relationship, etc), and don't assume that you don't need to listen to your little. That isn't a threat to your dominance, that's practicing good communication and working together to create the best possible dynamic. Assumptions can get really bad and your little should be treated as an individual, not based on what you have read or experienced with other littles. Talking and working things out together will always be your best bet. Never assume that you don't have more to learn at any time. The best caregivers make a point to learn and grow more whether they are already well educated in the lifestyle or not. Also, don't jump into anything too quickly with a new partner. Get to know each other well beforehand, then discuss what you're both wanting out of a dynamic after that, and then negotiate rules and how you two want to go about creating your dynamic when you know each other well enough and have established that you are genuinely compatible. This process should take TIME. There's no need to rush, as that doesn't usually lead to a very good dynamic.

[Big_daddy]

Welcome to DDLG!

I've had a couple pretty good DDLG relationships. A few things I've learned that make a good daddy dom are:

 

1. Be patient, no rushing into things.

2. You have to actually put in some effort and show a little that you are wanting to be there for them.

3. Like with most things, every one is different so don't assume something about someone.

4. Communication is really important.

5. Never ever try to pressure a little into being your little.  They certainly know that you're a daddy and they will call you daddy if and when they are comfortable with you.  Earning that title naturally is the best way to do this.

[Guest Prat]

Talk a lot.

[junebug0325]

My tip is don't rush into anything. That seems to be a thing here, people rushing into a relationship after barely talking a day & not taking time to get to know each other first.

 

Yes yes yes yes yes! I have a lot of people that I talk to on the forum and in the community that just take things way too fast. My Daddy and I were talking for about a month before we decided to even think about perusing a relationship together, and in my opinion that is still a pretty short time to determine whether or not you want to be with someone.

 

Just take your time. I have to many friends that have got heart broken over people they have known for a week or two. Relationships shouldn't be rushed and our lifestyle is no different!

 

 

 

 

Junebug x.

[Vampiress]

Hello, and welcome! A good tip is to remember to always be respectful of boundaries. Don't call a little petnames like babygirl, little girl, etc without their consent. Don't assume all littles are sexual littles in littlespace if that's what you're into. Don't pressure any littles into something that makes them uncomfortable, this includes asking them for inappropriate photos or anything else that they may not be comfortable sharing... especially if you just met them. Even though there are sexual littles it doesn't mean they'll want to jump into that aspect of the dynamic right away. Also doing a lot of research is important, there is so much out there to learn it's hard to concisely put it into a forum post. Learning things about sub drop, aftercare, rules and how to make a good rule vs what a bad rule is, negotiating rules and limits, etc. There is so much to cover really. Oh and never be afraid to ask specific questions to learn. It's always better to be open to learning than assuming.

[Guest BrieNN]

Read up on communication skills and negotiations and all that.

 

Take your time to figure out what you want and look for. And take your time in finding someone who matches this.

 

As a daddy, you have every right to have your own limits and boundaries. Respect and enforce them when needed.

 

Honestly, be true to you. Don't go for what you *think* you should be.

[Guest lucasdaddy0806]

Thanks for all the replies! I’m not in a relationship right now. I’ve just been really interested in getting to know more about this about a week ago tbh. I just wanna learn more so I could be a good daddy for my future princess lol

[RainDoeSprinkles]

Hi! I recommend that you watch Sammich and Lollipops on YouTube. Sammich is a great example for Daddies! He and Lollipops started out as friends.

[daddymind]

Know yourself first. What would being a daddy mean to you? Don't label yourself (like I tend to do all too often lol) but know what energises you. It could be service and submission. It could be discipline/rule keeping. It could be playfulness or goofiness. Or all of the above, perhaps weighted more heavily to one or another. The answers to questions like this will help you determine what kind of little is right for you. There are so many possible dynamics in this kind of relationship. For example, you might not want to be 100% 24/7 dominant or submissive. You might have needs that change like the weather. Spend some time figuring out what you want, and you'll be in a better position to find the perfect companion.