Letting go of a Daddy.

[Train]

Just sucks. Just downright sucks. I had to leave him because as adults we can’t “handle our own shit” and be responsible for ourselves. It was a codependent, manipulative relationship with the most earnest and kind intentions... we’re both unhappy about the split.

 

But damn, my little side cries out like an infant for him. Everything reminds me of him. My pacifier, my bathtub toys, my rattle, my onesie, even my stuffies (although I bought them for myself.) Even thinking about trying to enter littlespace makes my chest hurt with the memory of how he first put his thumb in my mouth to suckle on as he cradled me in his arms. Ugh. He was my Daddy. The only one I want. I can’t imagine having such a connection like that with anyone again.

 

I just... I miss him, and wish things didn’t end up the way they have.

[Guest Vampire]

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this I think that at the end of the day, getting out of a bad relationship was a good choice, it definitely hurts and that's because you genuinely loved him and spend so much time together. I hope you'll be able to get over it and find someone else that'll make you happy. But for now take time to mourn, you will need it and I wish you the best for the future. 

[junebug0325]

Heya,

 

I'm sorry to hear about your split with your Daddy. I know that it is probably hard for both of you, since you've expressed that the split has been hard for the both of you. I do, however, want to praise you for your courage. It's not hard to admit that a relationship was manipulative or toxic, so I applaud you that you were able to recognize it.

 

I always have maintained the mindset that (in my opinion) breaking up with someone in the D/s dynamic, is especially hard, and arguably harder than breaking up with someone in a vanilla relationship. I think the reason for this is because you are able to be vulnerable with that person, showing them a side of you that no one else gets to see. They truly get to see your "true self" and I think that's why the breakup is harder than a vanilla relationship, because there is a certain level of trust you need to have with that person in order for the relationship to work.

 

My biggest advice is distraction. Keep yourself busy. Reach out to your friends and family that can support you during this hard time. Distract yourself with things that make you happy, like watching your favorite movies, cartoons, or coloring some new pictures. Take more interest in your hobbies to try and distract yourself. 

 

Just know, that what you're feeling right now will heal with time. Things happen for a reason. Take care of yourself so your heart is able to heal.

 

Hope this helps!

 

 

 

 

Junebug x.

[freekittyx3]

I’m really sorry, truly because I understand how it can feel. I had to do the same about seven months ago and it’s devastating. I totally understand how everything reminds you of him. Things that once had some meaning to me, a song for instance, has totally changed and now I’m reminded of him. It’s been very difficult, but you will feel better in time. I can say I am feeling better thankfully, I know you’ll get through this. It’s very hard to imagine calling someone else Daddy...but the truth is there is someone for everyone, the right one is waiting ☺️ I can’t understand exactly how you feel, but I can identify with you. If you ever want to talk you can message me if you’d like.

[Vampiress]

I know your heart is hurting deeply, but you did the right thing for yourselves. Even leaving someone we love can be an act of love in itself if we recognize that the connection is toxic and causing more harm than good. An extremely difficult choice that not everyone is brave enough to make, but you did really good especially knowing that it was going to put you through so much pain and having to mourn the loss of what you had. Thankfully time will pass and your hurt will heal, and the both of you will be able to move on and hopefully find something with someone else that isn't so detrimental. Just keep reminding yourself that you did the right thing, allow yourself to experience these emotions, go through the whole mourning and healing process, and know that in time everything will be okay.