What do I do with all the LITTLE ENERGY *asplodes*

[Guest Dandy Blob]

Soo. If you have no cg/daddy/mommy...where do you direct your energy when you are feeling little? I really feel like I could kamehameha so much energy at someone like ALL THE TIME.

 

I often want to pester someone or have attention, or something...and I am not sure where to direct that energy that is appropriate...so I push it down. It's confusing and hard, and makes me moody but I am not sure what else to do. I often go into the chat & chat there or talk with friends on discord...but that doesn't always cut it and I am feeling a bit clueless about what to do about it. I know I can be intense, so obviously directing that energy at a random friend really isn't wise & I don't want to make things weird or hard on them, etc.

 

I do have my boyfriend, he knows I am little but told me last week it makes him uncomfortable (he isn't really sure why yet so I am giving him space with it) & he doesn't feel the daddy thing is for him, so directing that energy at him right now isn't something I can do. I am not sure me having someone to fill that void (other than him) would work well...and since I am still figuring this out and don't want to rush into things I don't think it's a good idea to look into having a caregiver or something.

 

HALP I AM LOST. Open to any ideas n stuff before I asplode. kthx

 

P.S. please don't suggest physical stuff like running around the block lol..I can't physically do much atm so I am very restricted with my energy...output..options?

 

also dis me

 

 

 

[MasterPhotog]

Thanks for having the courage to express your feelings and for seeking advice. 

I understand having a CG, as you said, is not a good idea; however have you ever considered having a caring and understanding online Mentor with absolutely no other aspirations, sexual or otherwise? 

[John Prodman]

I totally get your point here, and i often feel the same way like theres no outlet for me or anything. For me, just being nice to people around me seems to help well, either just nice or maybe even very nice if i feel like i need it that much.

[Guest Loving Dutch Daddy]

Having so much energy and looking for a way to direct it, I guess a lot of people know what you mean: littles with no CG or littles far away from their CG, and also CG's with at the moment no little to take care of, like me.

 

I was wondering, what makes that energy want you to do if you didn't have to direct it in another way or push it down? Is it possible to give some examples? You already mention to pester someone or have attention, but maybe there are also some other things the energy tells you?

[MissPattch]

What MasterPhotog said is something i do when i'm feeling out of sorts. I have a very good friend, who isn't my Daddy or my Dom or my CG, but is somebody i trust and who also looks out for me. When i'm having a tough time, or need some direction, this person steps into to refocus me and help me figure out what i need to do next. There's nothing there but friendship and support, and its the most wonderful thing ever. If you could find somebody like that in your life, i think you would absolutely benefit <3

[Guest Dandy Blob]

 

Thanks for having the courage to express your feelings and for seeking advice. 

I understand having a CG, as you said, is not a good idea; however have you ever considered having a caring and understanding online Mentor with absolutely no other aspirations, sexual or otherwise? 

 

Thanks for your response!

I actually hadn't thought too much about that, I think in general I am a bit anxious to become too close to anyone in particular...whether it's meant to be platonic or not, I seem to get attached to people rather quickly and I know if I am feeling little it would be harder for me to keep those boundaries. I think that is a big part of why I am feeling stuck with no place to direct my energy. Though it is a good option, I know I could stick to it fine while big for the most part, but my little side would ignore all of those things (proper boundaries) I feel.

 

 

Having so much energy and looking for a way to direct it, I guess a lot of people know what you mean: littles with no CG or littles far away from their CG, and also CG's with at the moment no little to take care of, like me.

 

I was wondering, what makes that energy want you to do if you didn't have to direct it in another way or push it down? Is it possible to give some examples? You already mention to pester someone or have attention, but maybe there are also some other things the energy tells you?

 

I think the big thing is I want to be able to fully feel little & have someone I know I could be bratty, or clingy or just plain weird & hyper/annoying/whatever without fear of them being scared away or being uncomfortable by it. I notice I get kinda...rowdy and spammy in chat when I am feeling little or excited & that is with me toning it down a lot, and I guess I am worried about someone being able to deal with that when I am not holding myself back.

 

I don't know how else to answer that really, I am still trying to sort this out & I am not very good at understanding my emotions or thought processes sometimes. lol

[Guest Loving Dutch Daddy]

I understand your fear of being too intense and scaring people away or making them feel uncomfortable. Though there are Care Givers (or mentors) who like it to be intense. Maybe not all of them, but some. Speaking for myself, I really liked it to be intense with my little girl: having long long conversations in real life or at the telephone about what's on her mind and her wild ideas, cuddling and taking care of her for hours and hours (combing her hair, washing her, helping her changing her clothes etc). I would have missed it if it wasn't so intense. On the other hand, it was important for me to sleep at night and to be not distracted when I was working. We learned to talk about it and to make appointments.

So maybe you can talk about how intense you like it to be? And maybe some of them will not be scared away by your intensity at all? :-)

[Bearly]

Videochatting is a great option! I'm big but my little friend likes to videochat when she feels little and wants to play with her toys and such. Being in a virtual social group (or irl, quarantine aside) where you can get that energy out is a great option for a lot of people if you have any favorite social media platforms that support voice/video calls.

[Guest Dandy Blob]

Videochatting is a great option! I'm big but my little friend likes to videochat when she feels little and wants to play with her toys and such. Being in a virtual social group (or irl, quarantine aside) where you can get that energy out is a great option for a lot of people if you have any favorite social media platforms that support voice/video calls.

This is a fun idea, though I am not a fan of video calls & things like that so it wouldn't work so well for me. I have thought about getting a headset though so I can talk to other littles or something of the sort though.   I am a pretty shy & awkward person even when it comes to voice chatting, so it would be an adjustment. 

Edited August 24, 2020 by Apple Sauce Dandy

[Kitten&Spice]

I relate so much to this! I always call it my “puppy energy” since I go off the walls and just feel like screaming to get it out (thank god for the wide open country for those screaming fits!)I try to find something to exert my energy! Luckily Never having a daddy helps you do all this in your own accord!

 

I will take walks, dance, or even laugh! You can also try rolling around or what I tend to do if fidget with paper! So like doing origami, folding paper stars( really easy and fun!) drawing, or trying to relax is helpful! That or I go for a drive! And if none of those things work and my chaotic self is still unhinged I play with my dog and chase him around! Although this one always leaves me with a few battle scars it seems to have us both wore out by the end of it! And as a bonus he sleeps all night!

 

I hope this helped a little bit and I hope I didn’t jump around too much for you! I just typed when it all came to mind!