Becoming too self aware and having trouble being little?

[Tommy37]

I know this is a common question, but I wanted to ask about a specific thing. Whenever I feel little, after a little bit I just become too self aware and cringe myself out of it. I know it sounds crazy but I feel too old for it at 20 years old. It may also be that I am a boy, and most guys are doms. Anyone else experience this/got any advice?

[MysticSand]

I think I've had a little bit of this before.

The big thing to remember is that even though Littles have tendencies that are typically associated with children, at the end of the day, it is an adult decision to act and behave and to express yourself as you wish.

It is freedom of choice that distinguishes an adult from children. So whether you decide to spend $30 on a nice pair of dress shoes or on that giant stuffie you've had your eye on, either decision you make is made as an adult because that's your $30 and you can spend it however the heck you want - within legal means. 

[Pupperoo]

I think that if a person think about this stuff too much and come up with reasons as to why it should/would be cringy, it will inevitably become that as well. Do some mental exercises where you force yourself into a state of mind or a position you want to be in, then actively tell yourself that what you're doing is okay or even the right thing to do.

I had to rewire myself a few times in the best to deal with stuff, and if you do it regularly it works. Essentially believing your own lie, as it were. At least just make a point of not thinking about the why of why you struggle with it, and focus more on the how of how to do it in a way you're comfortable.

Sorry if it wasn't the help you needed, but I hope it helps someone!

[Vampiress]

I have definitely struggled with this and will occasionally debate with my self "am I too old for this?" And then I wonder will I become too old for this if I am not yet? Part of what led me to this community is I did still like things that others might consider me too old for, and when I learned more about what DD/lg actually was I realized it was a community I fit into very well that gave me "permission" I guess to just be myself and continue liking whatever I want. Just remember there are all kinds of things people can be into that you might think are cringey but it brings those other people joy and there's nothing wrong with that as long as they aren't maliciously harming anyone. Just be yourself and do what makes you happy. You're not too old for it. Sometimes society just puts pressures on us that make us feel like it's wrong as adults, but how many of those people have secret interests that they're afraid to share because they'll get the same reaction that you might get if you were open about your lifestyle? People are just too judgey and forget that everyone has something "weird" they like.