Sorta dunno what to do. Help?

[Glittery Marshmallow]

Okay, so, here we go.

 

Daddy and I have been together for more than one and a half year, majority of which I've been his little. We had rough times, with him calling off being my Daddy for a bit in the beginning which hurt me and lasted for a month and a month ago,which was because... Well, he thought... Long story. We weren't on a break, just taking time off being in a cgl sort of relationship because right now, we're long distance. (Sucks a lot, TBH)

 

Anyways, I forgot to mention, he has a mental health issue too. I've been supportive, as much as I could. And he had the last episode of it two weeks ago and he's back on meds and a sleeping schedule and well, life. Ever since then, I haven't felt... Well, little or if I have, I haven't wanted to be it when we're talking. I tend to ignore when he tries to put in my little space and now, it's getting exhausting. I guess I feel like I'll be getting clingy and overbearing. I don't know. Thoughts?

[Guest clumsy_little]

You should talk with your daddy and try different ways to fall in little space, or give yourself some time. As you said,you were supportive this whole time, as much as you could. Maybe it made an impact on your tendency to slip into little space. I would suggest giving yourself time to slip into little space and even if you don't, you can still do the things you would do in little space, like coloring, binkie, watching cartoons, etc.

[Pupperoo]

With my last girlfriend our relationship started out with her as my mommy. As time went on, however, it became clear that despite my mental health issues I had to be the one taking charge in the relationship for things to move forward. Over time things changes and there was no longer a cg/l relationship there, and I stopped being little entirely because I needed to be there for her and basically be the ''cg'' in the relationship (even though at this point it was pretty much just vanilla).

When the other person has mental health issues they struggle taking charge. Lack of experience in life, or even energy, can put them in a position where they need you more than you need them. When you love each other it's only natural for the dynamic of the relationship to change or shift, and I think that's what you've experienced. You worry about putting more of a burden on his already taxed mind by going into little space, or at least that's what I am reading here. So I have to say this one thing: don't forget that a CG needs their littles as well. You being in littlespace energizes him in a similar way he energizes you when he is in daddyspace. Does that make sense?

Try to not think of it as you overburdening him when you are being little, but instead think of your littlespace as his charging station and for the time being his battery has a lower capacity than it used to. Just keep charging him when he needs it and over time that capacity will grow again, and when it does things will become more natural again.

Hope I helped! ♥

[Glittery Marshmallow]

You should talk with your daddy and try different ways to fall in little space, or give yourself some time. As you said,you were supportive this whole time, as much as you could. Maybe it made an impact on your tendency to slip into little space. I would suggest giving yourself time to slip into little space and even if you don't, you can still do the things you would do in little space, like coloring, binkie, watching cartoons, etc.

Thank you so much! I think it's been helping a bit sort of. I've been going to the park near my apartment lately and I usually sit on the swings and I like swings a load. That helps a bit with feeling little and well, validly little.

[Glittery Marshmallow]

With my last girlfriend our relationship started out with her as my mommy. As time went on, however, it became clear that despite my mental health issues I had to be the one taking charge in the relationship for things to move forward. Over time things changes and there was no longer a cg/l relationship there, and I stopped being little entirely because I needed to be there for her and basically be the ''cg'' in the relationship (even though at this point it was pretty much just vanilla).

When the other person has mental health issues they struggle taking charge. Lack of experience in life, or even energy, can put them in a position where they need you more than you need them. When you love each other it's only natural for the dynamic of the relationship to change or shift, and I think that's what you've experienced. You worry about putting more of a burden on his already taxed mind by going into little space, or at least that's what I am reading here. So I have to say this one thing: don't forget that a CG needs their littles as well. You being in littlespace energizes him in a similar way he energizes you when he is in daddyspace. Does that make sense?

Try to not think of it as you overburdening him when you are being little, but instead think of your littlespace as his charging station and for the time being his battery has a lower capacity than it used to. Just keep charging him when he needs it and over time that capacity will grow again, and when it does things will become more natural again.

Hope I helped! ♥

You did! I think I get the idea. I've been trying to put myself into the headspace but since right now, we're in an LDR because gold old covid 19, it's sort of tough. But I get the gist. Thank you so much!