Sad little telling sad thing

[CuteCupcake]

I dunno I’m sad cuz smth happened and I wanna just write it down somewhere and maybe someone else experienced the same..

So I’m not thaaaat new to ddlg, it has been like 10 months and sometimes I wanna try new things out like different rules or stuff, but my daddy tell me it’s weird. Today I asked him smth simple, which was if I could get a list of names I can call him since I’ve been trying out some lately and I dunno which ones he likes.

He suddenly told me he’s disappointed and that I should go sleep and now I’m sad, because Daddy sometimes makes me feel bad about telling or asking him things like this

[Nymph]

*edit - I feel stupid answering this post, I clicked on  your profile and it says you are 18

 

Explore "normal" relationships first so you can identify when a guy is being a jerk or abusive and then move on to kinky stuff.

Edited August 7, 2020 by Nymph

[Little kaiya]

If he's disappointed in you for trying to have a conversation about your relationship that's a pretty huge indicator that he isn't mature enough to be in a relationship,let alone a DDlg one.

 

A partner saying their disappointed is something that often hurts far more than yelling or other manners of expression for negative feelings. Remember, a relationship, any type, and a partner should lift you up and help you achieve your best self NOT put you down and hurt you.

Edited August 8, 2020 by Little kaiya

[ScarletBaby]

Little Kaiya said it well. If you can't be honest and open with your Daddy, it's not a very safe relationship. For ddlg to work properly both parties need to be able and willing to participate in open conversations about needs and desires. All relationships are about respect for both parties and it sounds like he's not respecting you.

 

As someone who has also had issues with my Daddy enough that I turned to the forum before as well and me and my Daddy are still together. Based on what he said it sounds like you were up late when you tried having the conversation. Obviously I don't know the full situation so take what I say with that in mind, but try approaching him, in person if possible, during the middle of the day. It sounds to me like you both need to sit down and have a real conversation about what you both want from this relationship and what the lines are becoming. If he still won't talk to you at all. That's when you know he's not respecting you or your feelings.

 

I suggest that you both figure out what you need and if you should still be together or if it would be best that you parted ways to save both of you from hard days ahead. Ultimately you both need to do what's best for both of you, whether that be individually or as a unit. I hope this helps.

[Vampiress]

If he isn't supportive, interested, encouraging, etc then either he wants something completely different out of this than you do (maybe it's just about sex) or he really doesn't care and isn't interested. Some guys will use this lifestyle to have control in the relationship but are lazy about it and don't provide the caregiving parts and putting in effort. Sometimes they just want control. I think this is awful myself, I don't think any little expects to go into a dd/lg relationship being treated that poorly. I think these Caregivers who act that way know better, but they still take advantage of the role, which doesn't make them a caregiver in my opinion, but others might disagree with me and say you two are just incompatible. Try talking to him again that you need more support and encouragement and want to know what his needs are also in the relationship and if he's negative or doesn't care then you consider dropping the relationship because you aren't getting your needs fulfilled.

[MasterPhotog]

@CuteCupcake, thank you for being brave enough to share your experience with us. 

 

Being a little, what you feel is totally natural and normal; what's not natural and normal is your 'daddy's' behavior and how he chooses to make you feel. 

 

It's not him but you who should be disappointed in him for calling himself a 'daddy' instead of a jerk. 

 

I suggest you take a long and hard look at your current relationship, have a meaningful conversation with this individual and re-evaluate your future.
 

Best wishes!