Explaining ddlg to my boyfriend

[Shortcakes]

[Guest littlebabyslittlespace]

You could call him Sir, Master, Onii-Chan, Senpai, Liberal

[AriesNekoWelsh]

Ok so you could explain to him the whole community behind it; a little is someone who likes to pretend to be younger than they are, this maybe because they just enjoy playing with children’s toys, using pacifiers or being dominated. It can be sexual and non sexual so be used as a kink or sfw regressing - which is the term for a person regressing to a younger age. As. I said before this can be a kink or it can be a coping mechanism to trauma in the past, I know quite a lot of littles that do this and I do it as well, why you ask would we do this, well I feel that I like to regress because I don’t have to worry about responsibility, I don’t have to be in control and my Dom/ daddy is in control. I only have to worry about giving him attitude or being naughty and the punishments that come with that, and if I’m good then the rewards that come with it. When I’m in ‘little space’ which is the term given to a person who is being little at the time, e.g. not speaking much, talking in a higher voice, I don’t have to worry about coronavirus, trump potentially blowing up the world, and so I can be in a safe happy space where nothing can hurt me. This can also be a sfw thing, called age regression or agre, and that is completely non- sexual. Hope this helps, as well as other Dom names you could call him, there are cute ones such as Cute ones: Dada, Papi, Mr. Bear, more dominant ones like; sir/ ma’m, wolf, sergeant, owner, handler, governer, captain or boss, hope this helps, you can find more information just looking on the web

[Vampiress]

Someone just made a whole post explaining this: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/48835-let%E2%80%99s-make-this-clear-agere-and-ddlg/

[daddymind]

I think it's best to explain in terms of who you are and what you want, just like you would with anything else. Try writing it out first and take some time over it.

 

What you expect from him will explain the caregiver role and what you like to do as a little will explain the little role.

[peachy.sweet.alize]

When I had discussed what DDLG is to my boyfriend, I had given him a summary of what it is and why I am a little. I told him that if he had any questions that he can ask me. I think the best way of explaining is to show him what it is, how it effects you, and that if he ever needs an explanation or a full depth description they can always google it.

[daddyhuman]

He needs to know what you expect of him. If he doesn't accept it then he needs to go, unfortunately that's the way it is. As a little you need only one thing and if he's not able to provide that then that's that.

[littlekami]

I'm in a similar situation with my cg I think.

However we have a natural little/CG dynamic, sometimes we're little together too, or in some circumstances I'll be the cg. 

 

I'm concerned that by discussing littles/DDlg as a concept it would change the way he views it. If it's not explained correctly or if he misunderstands it could be difficult to get back from that. 

 

I think in this case if I was ever going to explain it to him I would just focus on myself - who I am, how I act and what I want/need. I don't think I'd tell him about the community or give any labels to what I am or how I act or what I want. If he was curious or learned something about himself during that conversation I'd just hope for him to open up to me when he's ready and then we could walk down that path together. 

 

With that said, my little is more approaching middle at this point, and sometimes I'm big. If I needed someone to care for me in very little space maybe he'd need more of an explanation - but even then at first there's not a big reason to go into the concepts and community behind it unless you're trying to make them do their own studying. How helpful is that though if this is very specific to you?

 

My CG told me he likes it when I write him stuff about myself because it's like a little manual I made just for him. He couldn't just do an internet search for something that specific and special and that is true for you and any other little as well. 

 

I can understand wanting to have them understand everything at once and accept the concepts and community and everything else - especially if you're new to the idea and you're excited and you've been feeling like you're repressed, but what's more important is just that they understand and accept you. Start slow if it's a new thing to them and be patient.