Older littles questions

[Guest SparklesLove]

Hi ppl. So I consider myself an older little cause I'm in my 30s and as I get older I feel like I get more questions. I have 2 questions for all.

 

First question, as littles get older is there an age that's too old? Like when were in our 40,50, 60 is it still gonna be okay or will we be kinda ostracized for being "weird" or "immature"? Or will we just have to hide it?

 

Second question, do some cgs prefer vanilla relationships irl and only have ddlg relationships online? If any do have ddlg irl is it challenging and different than vanilla?

 

Thank you for reading

Edited August 3, 2020 by SparklesLove

[Guest BrieNN]

For me, being little isn't about me being immature, although I can see how and why it would be seen as such - which has more to do with other people's perceptions. Probably wouldn't be best to focus on that.

 

I personally don't want to be immature and don't think being a little and being mature can't go hand in hand. It has more to do with why I call myself a little to begin with and it's about a particular way that I want to express myself in a relationship and how I want to show care and be given care; insofar as it has a childlike tone to it without being childish.

I don't know if I'll always see myself as a little, tbh. For now it fits. Maybe the "little" label will fall away if I see it doesn't apply anymore.

 

I don't think there is an age where it gets too old if it's what it is for the person. Neither do I think it needs to be hidden. Especially if you're looking for something fulfilling, hiding it seems counterproductive to me.

 

I can't really answer the second question, though because I've never had a dlg relationship either online or irl. But I can say that in spite of the nature of the dynamic I want, my relationship goals are pretty vanilla. Every relationship whether vanilla or kinky will have its own set of challenges. Vanilla or not, people break up, have long term relationships, have crappy ones. It's more about compatibility and what better suits the people involved, imo. Again, I don't have experience in that, but this is how I see it.

 

(This is my first post after joining the forum. So, hi to the forum!)

[Guest ~lele~]

I think it's more other people see us older littles as immature, not that we feel we are. I believe that's what SparklesLove meant. And welcome☺

[Guest SparklesLove]

I think it's more other people see us older littles as immature, not that we feel we are. I believe that's what SparklesLove meant. And welcome☺

Thank you Lele

[Vampiress]

I think the challenge of an older little is if you aren't in a relationship you might have a harder time finding a CG since it appears that many prefer younger littles, but I know there will be some CGs out there who don't mind a little who is in an older age group, or even older than them. I do think a lot of littles out grow the dynamic as they get older (particularly the younger ones) so I think there are fewer older littles, and a lot of us tend to keep to ourselves. Would our vanilla peers think we are weird or treat us differently if they knew? Probably yes. Especially if we're like 50 years old still playing with dolls. That's okay, though. They don't have to like it or even approve. Just do what makes you happy.

 

I think there are both littles and CGs who prefer vanilla relationship IRL and DD/lg online only. I seem to normally see this with poly individuals or those who have a vanilla partner and have permission to have a platonic DD/lg relationship online. Also some people are just too shy to admit it in their real lives and will only indulge online. It really depends on the person.

[Guest SparklesLove]

Thank u vampiress....that actually makes a lotta sense

[Guest BrieNN]

I think it's more other people see us older littles as immature, not that we feel we are. I believe that's what SparklesLove meant. And welcome☺

I got that impression, yeah. I think for many roles in kink, there will always be a negative perception. Seems like it would be better to accept who one is and learn over time to not be bothered, affected or influenced by how others see it.

I'm not saying it's easy, but it's well worth it.

[Nymph]

37 here and been in the lifestyle since my 20's

 

As littles get older is there an age that's too old? Like when were in our 40,50, 60 is it still gonna be okay or will we be kinda ostracized for being "weird" or "immature"? Or will we just have to hide it?

 

I think there is an age that's too old indeed, and that is when you are no longer enjoying it. I think being little is a stage of life most people grow out of and only get to revisit as you interact with children usually to be able to connect with them. For us in the lifestyle is just who we are and there is no growing out of it, we mature but stay little if that makes sense. 

 

Being ostracized for being "weird" will depend on the people around you and your little age and how comfortable you are to show in public. Do you feel the need for a paci and running around in nothing but diapers? that is probably a bit weird to do in public anywhere and you are pushing it. Want to wear a pink fluffy sweater? no biggie. But do keep in mind someone who is not comfortable with themselves might be freaking out wearing something like pink panties when nobody can tell and hence ostracizing themselves while nobody knows any better. If your friends shame you on getting excited over a new disney film you are hanging with the wrong crowd.

 

Do some cgs prefer vanilla relationships irl and only have ddlg relationships online? If any do have ddlg irl is it challenging and different than vanilla?

 

I am unable to have vanilla relationships at all, however I've had some where the guys did not know the lifestyle or labels if that counts but they were daddies at heart in the end and attracted to lg's. If I am not with someone like that I feel I am better off alone, I can be happy with myself.

 

I am also unable to have purely online monogamous relationship, that is something I would be open to now that I am married if/when we open our marriage but not something I would ever do if I was single, it's too painful as I am very touchy feely.

[Guest Teasing Tink]

First question, as littles get older is there an age that's too old? Like when were in our 40,50, 60 is it still gonna be okay or will we be kinda ostracized for being "weird" or "immature"? Or will we just have to hide it?

I'm in my 30's as well. I don't really go around sharing my "little" side with everyone. It's really just me and my Daddy who knows and anyone super close who gets it or fellow "little" friends. I'm not interested in sharing it with the whole world or to those who wouldn't understand because it's personal/private, not because of my age.

 

Second question, do some cgs prefer vanilla relationships irl and only have ddlg relationships online? If any do have ddlg irl is it challenging and different than vanilla?

I'm sure there's CG's who exist like that but I haven't experienced it. I have an irl Daddy. I think it would only be challenging if both parties weren't equally into the dynamic/didn't enjoy it. Then it's like forcing it. Find someone compatible. It's definitely different than vanilla in a good way (in my eyes). I like the high potential for intimacy that comes with the dynamic, the trust involved, the bonding experience. It's wonderful. But for those who are vanilla, obviously it's not gonna be their cup of tea and there's nothing wrong with that either.

[daddyslittlefrenchprincess]

I am definitely an “old” little, as I’m 48.  I have been struggling with whether I am “too old” and whether something is wrong with me .  I’m a regressive little, not an age player and it’s so hard because it is TRULY who I am. I can’t stop being who I am. I have tried so hard. And it’s miserable for me. I am almost 50 and yes, I have lots of dolls and I play with them. I can’t answer any of those questions. I’m so mixed up and confused right now.......

[RainDoeSprinkles]

Hey! I bet I am older than all you guys! I am 52 and proud! I am have been little all my life, and it was only a year ago that I first learned that this is an actual thing! Since then, I have been having the most fun ever!! I stopped wondering why I never feel like a real grown up. Instead I embrace my childlike self and feel free to explore and express who I really am! I feel free, happy, and yes...young! I don't ever think about being ostracized, since I have always been unique, I am accustomed to not fitting in or being popular. That stuff never mattered to me. Being naturally little, I don't think it's possible to outgrow being myself! As far as relationships go, my husband of 24 years was first attracted to me because of my childlike qualities. Now that we are aware of how DDlg fits our relationship, we fight less, are happier, and have lots more fun! Edited September 4, 2020 by RainDoeSprinkles

[Frog]

I think that older littles have the same issues as younger CGs. People assume that age precludes certain activities. Us older CGs/daddies have many problems due to age, too.

 

Second question, do some cgs prefer vanilla relationships irl and only have ddlg relationships online? If any do have ddlg irl is it challenging and different than vanilla?

 

Thank you for reading

I'm not sure I necessarily prefer non-ddlg relationships irl, but that's what I've always had. I've helped a couple littles online, but we weren't in a full relationship. For me, it's because I didn't find any littles or middles when I was dating.

 

All I can suggest is what others said: You're too old when it no longer interests you. If you never tire of it, then you're not too old.