What is your archetype(s) of submissive and/or dominant?!

[Kitten&Spice]

I have come across several tiktoks as well as YouTube channels lightly addressing the type of dominant they are. Some mention pleasure Doms or the most common soft doms. I know there is a large spectrum but I was curious what you yourself fall under! Is it normal to be multiple kinds and is there a huge list of the different kinds?! I found that subs tend to not be addressed as much as the Doms but I wasn’t sure if it was something a lot like the Doms list! So you have soft subs, pleasure subs, etc!

 

Also!! I know for littles you have the typical little age but what are some other forms of little space?! I know you have little bunny and brats but what are some of the others out there?! I am really curious since I am attempting to find my little space as a whole and would love to know what you guys think and to educate me more on the world of Doms and Subs! Thanks!

[MissPattch]

I always wanted to learn to be a service submissive, i think it would be ultimately cool to serve my Sir at high protocol parties <3

[Guest BrieNN]

In very broad terms (doesn't really scratch the surface), I would call myself a soft dominant little. I'm not the "spoiled" dominant type of little. I get pretty uncomfortable being demanding, so I want to be soft in my relationship without having to prove dominance. So someone who recognizes that softness, respects it and submits to me regardless would be amazing.

 

I don't personally have a little age. But a form of little space (I suppose is what would be the best term here) that applies to me revolves around intimacy and physical affection and tenderness and quality time. Imagine a rainy Sunday afternoon, under the covers and cuddling while watching a documentary.

Edited August 4, 2020 by BrieNN

[daddymind]

I'm definitely a service sub at the core. This just feels natural to me as a daddy and gives me a lot of energy. I might sometimes go into soft dom mode when more firm guidance is needed - I think that's important even for more submissive daddies. I don't want to be seen as a mindless simp as nobody respects that. But giving up control to her is not only thrilling for me - given her past I think she needs that sense of control and power in her life, while feeling 100% comfortable in little space. I'm also not the best at making decisions, so letting her make the final call based on options we both suggest seems to work well with our dynamic.

 

My babs loves getting her way and I have to be careful not to challenge her too much, raise my voice or disobey certain demands. A big part of the fun is walking that fine line and having to negotiate. But a lot of the time it's happily and willingly "yes Princess", and I've realised I feel so much more content when I can just say that without any need to challenge it.

[Cinnabunny]

I am more of a Middle than a Little (Space Age: 11-16)

but i also mix it with my Pet-Play Animal which is a Lamb !

So i would be basically be Daddies little Lamb ~

[Amber_dragon]

Warrior princess

Middle

Pet(haven't had anyone to play this with, so not sure which animal, but I am very interested. ) 

 

I would love a CG who is also a bit of a psych dom... I am smart, I want a smart Daddy to take the reigns.  

[Guest fhihfidhfd38478]

I definitely relate to the brat subcategory. I enjoy doing things for my Lady, sexual or otherwise, but I get the biggest kick out of riling Her up! My Dominant doesn't take a strong role in rules, chores, etc. because I'm very independent and handle things like finances. We like to joke that there are three archetypes for Doms: hard, soft, and crackhead. She's definitely more of the latter and we have a very fun, sort of casual little/subspace where it's like cat and mouse.

 

On the same token, I also enjoy the almost mindless petspace I get into during puppy play. It's really the only time I'm a "good" little and listen without question. This is almost always strictly sexual for me, whereas littlespace is constant and impacts every aspect of my life.

 

I don't think there are strict archetypes other than Dom, Master, Rigger, etc. Have you taken the BDSM test? It's a really helpful tool and a great starting point!

I hope this has helped!

[Kitten&Spice]

Warrior princess

Middle

Pet(haven't had anyone to play this with, so not sure which animal, but I am very interested. )

 

I would love a CG who is also a bit of a psych dom... I am smart, I want a smart Daddy to take the reigns.

This is actually a first for me but I have never really heard of a psych dom?! Do you think maybe you can elaborate more as to what qualities they have and so forth?! I am quite intrigued!

[Amber_dragon]

This is actually a first for me but I have never really heard of a psych dom?! Do you think maybe you can elaborate more as to what qualities they have and so forth?! I am quite intrigued!

 

Sure. So it's less about about the physical domination like sadism/bondage or service and more about mental control: schedules, rules, protocols, lifestyle. I guess you could also view it the way that it can be a turn on to be physically overpowered, it can be a turn on to be mentally overpowered.  Does that help?     

[Kitten&Spice]

Sure. So it's less about about the physical domination like sadism/bondage or service and more about mental control: schedules, rules, protocols, lifestyle. I guess you could also view it the way that it can be a turn on to be physically overpowered, it can be a turn on to be mentally overpowered. Does that help?

Oh ok that make completes sense! That is pretty cool! I might have to look into that. I was actually doing that for awhile for some littles who didn’t have a dom or caregiver and had no idea that was what kind of switch type I was! Cool! Thank you for giving me some research and helping me figure some things out about myself!

Edited November 8, 2020 by CatboyAdrian

[Amber_dragon]

Oh ok that make completes sense! That is pretty cool! I might have to look into that. I was actually doing that for awhile for some littles who didn’t have a dom or caregiver and had no idea that was what kind of switch type I was! Cool! Thank you for giving me some research and helping me figure some things out about myself!

No worries, I like your profile, I'll send you a friend request and we can chat more if you like. I'm exploring different things too.   

[Kitten&Spice]

No worries, I like your profile, I'll send you a friend request and we can chat more if you like. I'm exploring different things too.

Sure go right ahead!

[LittleTeacup]

I'm definitely a soft good girl submissive. I'm not a brat at all even if I might occasionally bounce off the walls or be too silly and not always "obey". I prefer guidance over demands. I might even get upset and angry if given cold demands. Like I'd want a partner to say things like "ok how about you do this for me now? *smile*" instead of "Do this". I don't really know how to describe... I'm not here to obey someone. I'm here to make someone genuinely happy and make them proud. I need lots of praise and few punishments. Note that I may be open to something harder if it's framed as something that would make my partner happy and isn't a punishment i.e. spanking or something like that. I'm not into spanking, but if it's not too rough and I'm told how good I am for letting my partner do it, then I could maybe get on board. 

 

So maybe soft and fluffy mild submissive 

 

I also think I might have a slight dominant side as well, but it's more just guidance and doing what would make my partner happy. Like I have a friend who loves spanking and I've told her if we ever meet (we live on different continents) I'd spank her because she'd like it. I guess that's like a service dom? I have no idea.

[PolyMolly]

I'm definitely a soft good girl submissive. I'm not a brat at all even if I might occasionally bounce off the walls or be too silly and not always "obey". I prefer guidance over demands. I might even get upset and angry if given cold demands. Like I'd want a partner to say things like "ok how about you do this for me now? *smile*" instead of "Do this". I don't really know how to describe... I'm not here to obey someone. I'm here to make someone genuinely happy and make them proud. I need lots of praise and few punishments. Note that I may be open to something harder if it's framed as something that would make my partner happy and isn't a punishment i.e. spanking or something like that. I'm not into spanking, but if it's not too rough and I'm told how good I am for letting my partner do it, then I could maybe get on board. 

 

So maybe soft and fluffy mild submissive 

 

OMGYES!! It mee!!

[Kitten&Spice]

I'm definitely a soft good girl submissive. I'm not a brat at all even if I might occasionally bounce off the walls or be too silly and not always "obey". I prefer guidance over demands. I might even get upset and angry if given cold demands. Like I'd want a partner to say things like "ok how about you do this for me now? *smile*" instead of "Do this". I don't really know how to describe... I'm not here to obey someone. I'm here to make someone genuinely happy and make them proud. I need lots of praise and few punishments. Note that I may be open to something harder if it's framed as something that would make my partner happy and isn't a punishment i.e. spanking or something like that. I'm not into spanking, but if it's not too rough and I'm told how good I am for letting my partner do it, then I could maybe get on board.

 

So maybe soft and fluffy mild submissive

 

I also think I might have a slight dominant side as well, but it's more just guidance and doing what would make my partner happy. Like I have a friend who loves spanking and I've told her if we ever meet (we live on different continents) I'd spank her because she'd like it. I guess that's like a service dom? I have no idea.

Aww that is so cute! I honestly love that! That is crazy how many different switches there are! I was always wondering if there was something like a “submissive dom?” Like someone who is primarily submissive but has times where they are dominant and can be dominant? Or a “dominant sub” where it is the opposite!

[LittleTeacup]

Aww that is so cute! I honestly love that! That is crazy how many different switches there are! I was always wondering if there was something like a “submissive dom?” Like someone who is primarily submissive but has times where they are dominant and can be dominant? Or a “dominant sub” where it is the opposite!

 

Aww thank you  I don't think I identify as a submissive, a dominant, or a switch, but just a person who has tendencies one way or another. I'm pretty soft no matter what And it all changes based on who I'm with or imagining. I've never had a sexual or romantic partner, so we'll see what I do with an actual person. Some people I like/have crushes on are cute and subby themselves, so I imagine playing in a more dominant role and doing stuff they like, but it'd be more for their pleasure than mine. And I'd be happy seeing them be happy. I just want to see people I like be happy Anything for that praise I guess. But I'm bad with decisions and I overthink and get anxious, so I think I still primarily need someone else to help guide me.

 

Not sure I answered your question. I've never heard of those terms being used, but sure some people might be like that! Human sexuality is complex and can change through time. There's as many variations as there are people out there!