Being scared while in littlespace

[Lil-Pooh-Bear123]

Hiiii

 

Does anyone else become really scared while alone in littlespace? In total honesty it's not like big me is a fearless being ready to strike down her enemies but little me probably has the bravery of a mouse - if that. I live alone now and it's not like my neighborhood is the greatest so of course I'm a little anxious but my anxiety goes into overdrive when I'm in littlespace. Every teeny tiny sound I hear scares me --- my fan, cars driving by, thunder, people talking outside. As well as just the typical sounds that any apartment has. It's hard to be relaxed and I've tried everything. I'll put disney music on but then get scared that I potentially might not hear someone breaking in so I'll turn it off. I usually end up near tears, curled in a ball in bed with my stuffies and my paci, and listening to every sound while becoming more terrified. I've tried thinking back to when I started feeling this way and I think it all started after I learned that ALL my neighbors are men which I'm not saying they are all bad or will hurt me - yet it's still scary. I know that I sound silly but I just wish that I could find a way to get back my little time because I miss the release it gives me from this crazy world. There's been quite a few changes in my life as of recently and I feel like maybe I've been regressing to a much smaller mindset lately which is probably the reason I'm so emotional while in littlespace. For example, I've never used bottles before but yet the other night I found myself crying because I didn't have one and I was thirsty - even though all I had to do was get up and get some juice. I've started holding my teddy to my chest constantly and carrying her around with me everywhere in my apartment; I even cried when I woke up in the night to see she had fallen to the floor. I'm not sure what I can do to make this better for me. Thank you for reading this any advice please?

Edited July 30, 2020 by Lil-Pooh-Bear123

[DerbyNerd]

Are you only trying to go into little space at night? Or have you also tried during the daytime? Changing up what time you're trying might be useful. 

 

Or you could try going into little space while on a video chat with someone you trust, even another friend knows you are a little or who's a little themselves? They can act as a lookout/safety net for you to make sure you are safe and ok during that time. Maybe you could use that netflix group stream thing and watch a little movie together (they should probably try not to be in little space thought). 

[Guest Dandy Blob]

I notice this in myself, especially if it's evening and getting dark out and I am home alone & might be for a while (it doesn't seem so bad if I know my boyfriend will be home soon though but I do slip out of little/middle space when he gets home anyways). Even if I am not fully in little/middle space either, I do seem to get a bit startled easier than normal. I noticed that when playing minecraft & feeling close to being in little space on my own during the day, the things like a creeper sneaking up on me spooked me far more than normal.   

[Guest Thunder Sprite]

I definitely struggle with anxiety and panic issues myself, and feeling confident that my living space is safe and secure has been a significant source of stress for me. I've found that sources of "white noise" such as air purifiers, etc, can provide just enough of a sound blanket to cover up noises from outside, random creaks, neighbors moving about in the adjacent apartment, etc… without masking anything as loud as a break-in, so there's no feeling of having lost situational awareness. Maybe something along those lines could help?

[Lotta]

If i'm alone in the apartment at night I'm scared as well. Sometimes I lie in my bed and don't dare to go into the bathroom, because i am so scared.
Somewhen I started to prepare myself. Building blanket forts as a safe space and arm my stuffies with sharp pencils, screwdrivers and other things I could find. That actually helped because i didn't feel so helpless.
For a while I also was really scared of the monster under the bed. (It was real fear and already there before i accepted i'm a little) But one day I realised it has to be way more afraid than me, that it hides there for years.

So we became friends, and now i can hide under the bed, together with it if i'm scared. So what helped me most was talking out loud, to my stuffies, the monsters... It stopped feeling so alone and the louder i speak the more courage i get.

Other things that might help: if you got something to do. Best start with something before the fear gets so strong that it freezes you. The bigger the movement (building blanket fort = big, drawing = small) the more it helped me.
Sometimes i even made games out of it. For example running into the kitchen as fast as i could with my stuffies to rescue an object and bring it safely into my fort.

Oh and get a nightlight with fancy colours! Beautiful lights dancing all over the walls are great! And I light lavender incense sticks. They are calming.
In such moments threat yourself the best way you can! If cookies help get em!

Take baby steps, encourage yourself, trust your stuffies, they are there to protect you and have superstuffiepowers!

Its a long way to fight ones fears, but even with small steps it will get better

[Lil-Pooh-Bear123]

Thank you so much! I'm planning on buying a mini fan to keep on at night and hopefully that will help

I definitely struggle with anxiety and panic issues myself, and feeling confident that my living space is safe and secure has been a significant source of stress for me. I've found that sources of "white noise" such as air purifiers, etc, can provide just enough of a sound blanket to cover up noises from outside, random creaks, neighbors moving about in the adjacent apartment, etc… without masking anything as loud as a break-in, so there's no feeling of having lost situational awareness. Maybe something along those lines could help?

[Lil-Pooh-Bear123]

Thank you! I've already started to make it a game of sprinting into the kitchen to grab snacks or juice and that does make it seem a little more fun and not so threatening, but you're right that I have to do little things like that before the fear makes me unable to move. I really appreciate your ideas I plan on buying a little light up carebear and maybe a light up moon for my room to help with this. And I'm glad I'm not the only one scared of something under the bed! I usually get some momentum and jump as far away from the bed as possible so my ankles don't get grabbed! Thank you

If i'm alone in the apartment at night I'm scared as well. Sometimes I lie in my bed and don't dare to go into the bathroom, because i am so scared.

Somewhen I started to prepare myself. Building blanket forts as a safe space and arm my stuffies with sharp pencils, screwdrivers and other things I could find. That actually helped because i didn't feel so helpless.

For a while I also was really scared of the monster under the bed. (It was real fear and already there before i accepted i'm a little) But one day I realised it has to be way more afraid than me, that it hides there for years.

So we became friends, and now i can hide under the bed, together with it if i'm scared. So what helped me most was talking out loud, to my stuffies, the monsters... It stopped feeling so alone and the louder i speak the more courage i get.

Other things that might help: if you got something to do. Best start with something before the fear gets so strong that it freezes you. The bigger the movement (building blanket fort = big, drawing = small) the more it helped me.

Sometimes i even made games out of it. For example running into the kitchen as fast as i could with my stuffies to rescue an object and bring it safely into my fort.

Oh and get a nightlight with fancy colours! Beautiful lights dancing all over the walls are great! And I light lavender incense sticks. They are calming.

In such moments threat yourself the best way you can! If cookies help get em!

Take baby steps, encourage yourself, trust your stuffies, they are there to protect you and have superstuffiepowers!

Its a long way to fight ones fears, but even with small steps it will get better

[Lil-Pooh-Bear123]

I get the same way! I've learned to stay away from scary shows or games completely when in littlespace because I'm just easily startled. Even Gravity Falls can scare me when in littlespace lol

I notice this in myself, especially if it's evening and getting dark out and I am home alone & might be for a while (it doesn't seem so bad if I know my boyfriend will be home soon though but I do slip out of little/middle space when he gets home anyways). Even if I am not fully in little/middle space either, I do seem to get a bit startled easier than normal. I noticed that when playing minecraft & feeling close to being in little space on my own during the day, the things like a creeper sneaking up on me spooked me far more than normal.   

[Lil-Pooh-Bear123]

I do try to go into littlespace during the evening mostly out of habit because I work during the school year and evening is typically the only time I have to relax and plus I usually sleep better being in littlespace. I'll try to change it up to during the day sometimes while I still can for the rest of summer and make some changes to feel a little safer at night Sadly, I don't have any little friends and so I wouldn't be able to facetime a friend to feel safer.

Are you only trying to go into little space at night? Or have you also tried during the daytime? Changing up what time you're trying might be useful. 

 

Or you could try going into little space while on a video chat with someone you trust, even another friend knows you are a little or who's a little themselves? They can act as a lookout/safety net for you to make sure you are safe and ok during that time. Maybe you could use that netflix group stream thing and watch a little movie together (they should probably try not to be in little space thought).

 

Are you only trying to go into little space at night? Or have you also tried during the daytime? Changing up what time you're trying might be useful. 

 

Or you could try going into little space while on a video chat with someone you trust, even another friend knows you are a little or who's a little themselves? They can act as a lookout/safety net for you to make sure you are safe and ok during that time. Maybe you could use that netflix group stream thing and watch a little movie together (they should probably try not to be in little space thought).